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reader, Lieutenant  +, writes (8 December 2013):
That depends on the person that you're asking; personally speaking, yes that's way too many people. When did you start having sex? Is it a one-night-stand situation with you? If it is, why is it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2013): It depends who you are disclosing the number to. At 18 I had slept with 1 person so to me it is alot.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 December 2013):
 I agree with most of the aunties.
IF YOU are OK with your number you wouldn't ask on here if it is OK.
iAmHereToHelpYou asked some valid questions.
First and foremost why you do it.
How to you view sex? Does it mean something to you? Do you use it to "hopefully" have a guy fall for you? Or do you have sex because we,, you can and there is a dude with an erection right here...
Something made you think. My guess is someone judged you on your number.
For me, 8 at 18 is WAY high, but I didn't become sexually active til 18. And now at 44 my number is 4. Does it mean I think it's "wrong" for you to have had 8 partner and "additional" ? No not really. I hope however that you ALWAYS ask them to use a condom, that YOU are on birth-control and that you ONLY have sex because you WANT to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2013): Frankly, yes it is too many for your age. I agree with all the other posts: Why do you do it?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 December 2013):
 It gets bad when YOU think it's bad.
The fact that your asking leads me to ask you what has prompted this question... did someone judge you or say something to you?
Yes there are men out there with the old mindset that women should be virginal on their marriage bed and therefore would not want an experienced woman by their side but I think they are in the minority and I tend to think that for some of them (I know i'm going to get hammered for this) it's about THEIR insecurity. and to be honest who wants an insecure man?
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reader, llifton +, writes (6 December 2013):
 it's only too many if you think it's too many. who cares what anyone else thinks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2013): Sleeping with 8 people by 18 is not unusual in my experience. My number was higher than that at 18.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2013): Eight isn't a lot. But at this rate you will have 20 or 30 in just a few more years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2013): do whatever makes you feel comfortable.
Some people are more selective and will thus have lower number. Some are not as selective and will not mind who thy do it with. It all comes down to your preference, so ignore people who judge you and just be yourself.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (6 December 2013):
It's only bad if:
A. You think it is.
B. You aren't using protection.
C. You get an STD or get pregnant, assuming you don't want either.
D. You meet a guy who you really like but he's turned off by it.
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reader, Ieomi +, writes (6 December 2013):
 I am twenty and I have 0 sexual partner in my list. Except two who I got touchy with, but they lost my respect for things they said in bed and it ended there. We are all different. People have different standards. I need to have a loving caring guy and to be in a relationship to sleep with him. Others sleep around with anyone who knocks on their door. I won't give you my opinion about your partners because that's judging and I don't know you. But as an advice from you need to think it for yourself. Do you sleep with a guy for love? for a physical desire? to get confidence? Do you regret any sexual encounter? If you have any negative feelings about it, then please please don't let yourself get used and ab used. Value yourself and wait for the guy who loves you for who you are. There are plenty of things to enjoy at your age. Finally, you don't really need to know what people think. Your heart is your light.
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reader, N91 +, writes (6 December 2013):
 Sleep with as many people that you feel comfortable with.
If other people find out, they will be likely to judge you, but it's ultimately your life and you make your own decisions.
Therefore, do whatever feels right for you. That's what I do anyways lol Don't really care what other people have to say!
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