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writes:Confused...for the last 10months ive been contemplating whether to give my boyfriend a blowjob or not...i was so unsure just because i was scared i would do it wrong...or incase he didnt like them cuz the subject never came up...and we are doing everything else!! while givin him handjob i usually have to stop every 10min or so cuz he gets the urge to cum, so lastnight i was givin him handjob and decided ta just try at least and stop bein so scared bout it...so i did and he was enjoyin it(i think) but after a few mins he pulled away obviously got the urge to cum, and when it had passed he said "just go the way u were going" so i just continued to give him handjob...Are their some guys out there who just dont like blowjobs??????? please help, now i definitely dont wanna it try again, i feel stupid...
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (27 July 2008):
 Maybe he thinks you are only doing it for him, and he does not want to feel like he is forcing you...I mean you have been dating for almost a year and never did it.
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (27 July 2008):
 There is nothing that can make sex better between a couple than open and honest communication. Talk to him about it. Find out what he wants. Make it explicit.
And don't be shy about sharing YOUR wants and needs with HIM either.
And share your thoughts about not wanting to do it "wrong", too. Ask him to give you guidance about what he wants and how you can make it better for him. And once again, don't be shy about doing the same for him, giving him some coaching to help you get the most out of your mutual experiences.
Just reach an agreement that the two of you will open up and just talk about these things. You'll be VERY glad you did!
(And as far as I know there are NOT guys who NEVER want to get a blowjob. Some may not want one at a specific time for some reason, but never ... I don't think so. Could be wrong, but if there are any they sure as hell don't share that fact with other guys much. And there are guys who prefer some other "ending" to sex, especially conventional or anal, after an oral "warm up. That happens sometimes.)
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (27 July 2008):
 no no hun he maybe felt close to releasing and maybe didnt want to give you a mouthful as alot of guys dont taste so nce battery acid always comes to mind :O lol.. ask him if he liked it when you were doing more than just using your hands im sure he did enjoy it i bet thats why he pulled away quick, if not then maybe he doesnt like it, but sweetie your a couple you need to talk about it thats what partners do.. so take a big breath and ask him how he feels you might be pleasantly suprised and he may want more .. hope that helps aphexy xx hugs
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): I'm not a guy so I can't tell you from a male point of view. However I can say this I have yet to meet a man who hasn't liked getting head. But different people have different preferences as to what they like. I think what you should do is ask him straight out how he feels about it and how you feel about it. Comunication is the key to any relationship. Once you know what he likes and he knows what you like then you two will become a lot closer and I think it will take away some of the stress your feeling now. It's natural to be a little scared when you try anything for the first time. Let him know how you feel. He's who you should be talking to this about
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): A short answer is, I don't think so. Guys like oral sex...a lot. For some reason it sounds like your boyfriend gets nervous when he is close to orgasming? I know that when I had my first serious girlfriend I was nervous when I got close to orgasming because I didn't know what she wanted me to do...come on myself, on a towel, in her mouth etc...I didn't want to offend/disgust her. But one time when I was receiving oral sex from her I started to pull away like your boyfriend and she just kept on giving me the blowjob til I came (she swallowed.) I was a little nervous about coming, but she didnt' mind at all (if she did I couldn't notice), and it was pretty mind-blowing for me no pun intended. So I don't know all the details about you guys, but I'm thinking that either 1) you were actually hurting him during oral and you didn't know it (too much teeth) or
2) he felt nervous about where to come. Just like girls get nervous about getting oral sometimes because of odor/taste, guys sometimes get nervous upon climax with a gf if they're not completely comfortable. But if you let him know that you want to keep going til he climaxes, he will relax and enjoy. Good luck take care...
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (27 July 2008):
 Maybe he didn't want to cum in your mouth? If he didn't like it he wouldn't have been close to cuming.
And if he said "just continue" then didn't he mean continue the blowjob?
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