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*rinityHunter
writes:So, there is this guy that I used to text like 24/7. He would text me occasionaly over the next couple of months afterwards but not so much recently. Well anyway, his mom passed away a couple days ago and I need help as to what I should say to him. How should I go about letting him know that I would always be there for him? The sooner the answers, the better!!! Thanks!!!
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reader, lakers_lover09 +, writes (23 December 2011):
He needs a friend so go ahead. Your company might be very comforting. Be yourself
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 December 2011):
 Go with your dad. this is something best done face to face.
just tell your friend how sorry you are. and be available for him if he needs you.
don't be all up in his face unless he asks you to...some folks need to be surrounded by friends and family at this time and some need to be left alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2011): Go over, tell him you're sorry and give him space if he needs it. If he doesn't want to talk to to you (which might be pretty likely considering what he's going through), try not to take it personally.
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reader, bluecow  +, writes (23 December 2011):
 I would go
Who is "looking after" him right now? has he a big family?
If you think it would be appreciated, pop over with a nice meal that they can re-heat, or offer to come over and help around the house etc.
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reader, bluecow +, writes (23 December 2011):
IF there is anyway of speaking to him face to face, then do so. If not then a telephone call would be better.
If you have to text then you need to say what you would say face to face.
"I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. If there is anything I can do please please let me know".
Dont keep contacting him, just leave it for a week or two. Then speak to him aagain and offer your help and support. Lots of people pay lip service to support them, but rarely follow through with their offer.
Hope that helps x
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reader, lakers_lover09 +, writes (23 December 2011):
For now, you do nothing . He is in a bad place right now and he needs to find himself. If he doesnt ask for ur help, I wouldnt force the issue . Treat him the same way u did before cause wen my mom died I just wanted ppl to treat me like I was the same guy instead of pressuring me to act a certain way. Just tell him (in person ) that u dunno how he feels or how u can help, but u will do everything in ur power tobe there with him. Not for him ...WITH(make him feel like u want to be there). But if he doesnt seem like he wants to address the situation with u... Dnt push it. Good luck! I bet he his glad to have a caring person like u :)
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reader, TrinityHunter +, writes (23 December 2011):
TrinityHunter is verified as being by the original poster of the question Okay, well my dad is going over there tomorrow to help dig the hole and I was wondering if maybe I should go with him and talk to the kid, 17 years old, or would he rather be left alone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2011): This is time when you put down your phone and give him your condolences face to face. Don't text him about this.
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