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writes:So there's this guy I like, and we have been friends for about 2 years. He's my best friend, and I love him. Well a couple weeks ago I told him that I liked him. Which he thought was a little weird,thankfully it wasn't really awkard. Anyways a couple of days ago he told me that if I lost some weight he'd go on a "date" (as friends) with me. Which I had already lost weight by that time. anyway, then he told me that if i looked "hot" (which he thinks i will look "hot")he'd kiss me, which is what i want. but ever since he told me this there has been this awkward tense. And everytime we talk about it he goes "it would be nice to see you look your best" but whenever I ask him about the kiss he changes the subject.i'm just afraid i'm going through this weightloss "journey" for nothing. This guy is my number one cheerleader, but things are so awkward, but yet i feel sad when we're not talking or hanging out. but i'm so afraid things won't work out..what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): He sounds like an idiot, if he liked you it should be for who you are not because you made yourself look hot.
If you want to lose weight then do it for yourself and to make yourself happy and healthy. But this guy just sounds ridiculous, he only wants to kiss you when you are thinner?! I mean I would have told him where he can go!
You deserve someone who wants to kiss you and date you because they like who you are, not just your body.
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reader, lakers_lover09 +, writes (31 December 2011):
I would say you should only change your body for you. Any women who at least tries to take care of themselves and their body is attractive to me. So if your comfortable with who you are in the mirror thats all that matters but,if you feel you need change then do what makes you happy. As for him... I dunno. Does he mention your personality? Because if he will only date you if you lose weight or look a certain way, you are already in an uphill battle. Im not sure if he sees you in the inside enough for you to consider him. I could see if he liked you and agreed with you fixing yoursef up a bit, but he is suggesting you change and it doesnt seem like he would commit to you without these changes. I would say you continue your friemdship with him but not look forward to a relationship unless he is happy with who you are, not try to shape you into what he wants. Do what makes you smile at the end of the day :)
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reader, kittyplz +, writes (31 December 2011):
 hell no!!
hes not worth it... im an over wieght girl myself but alot of guys frind that attractive! there is a guy that i work with that i like alot and he is dating an over wieght girl.... any way ur too good for a superfitial guy like that anyway.
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reader, feralfox +, writes (31 December 2011):
You say you're on your way already, that you've already lost weight. This should be enough for him! He shouldn't say that he will wait until you're "hot". If you're already making the effort, that is all that should matter to him because he should like you for the person you already are. He sounds very shallow, and honestly reading this just made me really really mad because you're probably already really cool and sweet and now you're making healthy choices and really trying, and that should be enough for him.
Keep making healthy choices, but like another person said you should lose weight for YOU, not for someone else. Especially a guy as shallow as you friend, who sounds like he only cares about looks.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii  +, writes (31 December 2011):
 NO NO NO NO!
No guy is worth you losing the weight or whatever- you do it for YOU. not for some guy that (not trying to be harsh) could be really nasty for all you know! You and he should love you for you. Not for what he wants you to be- your not a playdoll that can be dressed up how people want you to be.
You are your own person :) Make your own life and show him that the real you is the one he wants not the one he thinks he does! :)
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