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writes:MOD NOTE: In some parts of the world this is a crime.Hi all,I'm a 25 year old male and I have a female cousin who is 23 (our mothers are sisters). We have grown up together since we were babies.We're both single adults now, and in the past few months I think my cousin has been developing the hots for me. It may be because I've been working out for a while.She mentioned people who have GSA (Genetic Sexual Attraction) and even makes contact with me under the table. I will admit that I too have had urges for her in the past but that was a while back when we were teenagers. However, the thoughts are creeping back in again.So I know it's wrong to act and even think about these things. But is there anyone here that have been in a similiar situation? Or even acted upon this and had sex with their first cousin who they grew up with? If so, how did it turn out?
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reader, jnwiland22  +, writes (16 October 2012):
 I have, with a male cousin on my fathers side,we still talk and keep in contact, for me there was nothing awkward about it and it was the best I have ever experienced. I have come to find that I have two other cousins who share strong feelings for me, I them. One is on my mothers side and the other also my fathers. I have shared how I felt to all three of them. And I am also in a relationship too. Sadly I love them all. I am caught in a big love triangle here, in which I have already slept with one of them excluding my bf.
I know it is wrong, but I have never gotten a greater experience with someone then what I had with my cousin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012): I live in east europe and it's pretty common in here LOL but only when the kids are about 14-15 . But i would never. It's just discusting to me. How could you even think about it lol , youre adult you should know that it's wrong-wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012): I guess everybody agrees that if you are talking love you need to be thinking marriage and children. And obviously there are conflicting emotions now and there will be in the future. I would suggest getting the facts first. There is an article
An Association between Kinship and Fertility of Human Couples Agnar Helgason et al. SCIENCE vol. 329 no. 5864 February 8, 2008 page 813 - 816
that wou might want to check. You asked how it turns out and they have the answer at least in terms of fertility; marrying kin biologically is no bad thing although first cousin might be close. You'll have to decide after looking at the data.
You can get the article from sciencemag.org by spending a few bucks. That is a high prestige science journal. Or if you like, go to nobabies.net and look at one obscure person's ideas on the whole issue. It isn't high status, but it's free.
Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012): Well I personally don´t think its weird! I have a sexual attraction to my own cousin as well I have never done anything about it though. But I do have my uncle and aunt they´re cousins too( moms are sisters) and they have a family together so it worked out good for them!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2012): First cousins are a bit weird.
But, check the laws in regards to this, if you two really plan on doing it.
No one can tell what to do here, it has to be your choice. We can advise and give opinions, but at the end of the day its down to you.
I would suggest NOT indulging in these impulses in this instance as if you are found out (and you will be, it's only ever a matter of time) you will earn the disgust of both your families.
If you do decide a little bit of sin is in order, then for god's sake use at least two forms of protection and NEVER, EVER willingly tell anyone about it. Just because you'll be found out at some point, it doesn't mean you have to help that along a bit.
And whoever commented that the possibility of genetic defects in offspring is high in cousins... is a moron. There is a risk, but it is only a few percent higher than normal.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2012): Absolutely not, because if a baby were to be result there is a very high possibility that it would be born with genetic problems, which are inevitably the result of consanguineous relations (sex between relatives).
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 January 2012):
 Really? you both can't get laid any other way? I'm sorry if that is harsh, but really... there just something creepy about having sex in the family like that.
I think you are little too old to not know better.
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reader, lakers_lover09 +, writes (8 January 2012):
If this was a forth or fifth cousin then ppl wouldn't be so grossed out but with this being your first cousin this is a big deal. Its a little"too close to home". The decision is clearly yours though and no one elses to judge. Its not a matter of right or wrong, but rather is this a decision that you will regret sooner or later or not? Good luck friend
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reader, Eddie Drumz +, writes (8 January 2012):
Fight your impulse. Its just wrong. Anybody can have sexual feelings for a cousin-- but there are consequences. What if yo wind up with a child that will have genetic issues? Plus the fact that there is right and wrong and sometimes you have to use your brain and not your urges.
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reader, uroboros  +, writes (8 January 2012):
she's your first cousin, that would be bit weird for me.....
better find a girl you're not related to.
good luck!
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