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writes:I met this girl, we dated for a month and it was all going so slow it annoyed me. She didn't let me kiss her until after a couple of dates and it was not even a kiss it was a peck. When I tried giving her a real kiss she got so tense I stopped. And so I just stopped calling her. She's 19 hot as hell. I'm 22. Thing is, I was with this amazing girl last night and I couldn't get the other one out of my head. That's never happened to me, I even felt guilty about it. I'm having sex with a girl, I shouldn't be thinking about another especially one that is so cold. Sometimes I wondered if she really did like but she did cute little things like kiss my cheek and whisper that she did and a lot. So idk what was up with her. If I touched her thigh she'd keep on looking at my hand and not do anything at all. If I started caressing it she'd laugh and grab my hand. Some other girl would've taken my hand and put it somewhere nice NOT hold it so I don't do anything! She's nineteen Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2011): At ur age, it's all about the sex. Women know this and some women do what ur yg hottie did to entice a man and ensnarl him.
Think if man is the chaser and woman is the chasee, well u had an unsuccessful hunt w the first woman. Ur sitting back annoyed w her but also intrigued up to the challenge.
Ur second woman was an easy lay, what ur used to. Now ur thinking about the first woman again. Ur reaction "there must b something special about her, I think I need to explore this"
No, actually ur first hottie is only 19 and will probably break many a mans heart as she is not only putting herself first (as she should) but she is hot as hell as u put it and bound to attract many more testosterone driven men like urself. U lost buddy. Chalk it up that u are not simply that much of a stud like u thought u were.
She is probably saving herself for that one special person that u were not and go about ur life enjoying more conquests.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2011): Leave the first girl alone. You are obviously not interested in her for the right reasons. She sounds likes she has a good head on her shoulders and wants to see if there is a real connection and a future in a relationship before she gets physical. You sound like you just want the physical aspect of the relationship, so she's probably not for you.
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX  +, writes (24 December 2011):
 I think that maybe you were trying to go too quickly for her, some girls just take a while to do certain things. Touching a girls thigh can be seen as quite intimate and she obviously wasn't comfortable doing this so soon with you~ she might've had a bad dating expierence where a guy mistreated her and rushed/pressurized her into doing things she wasn't happy doing, so you really should respect her and possibly ask her why she won't let you do these things.
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reader, Opalescent +, writes (24 December 2011):
If your already having sex with another girl then what exactly did girl A mean to you? To me, it seems as if you wanted to get in her pants more than anything. Great things take time.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (24 December 2011):
 If you don't feel like you can deal with the pace that she's (19 yr old) taking with this relationship, then you should find someone else. You could try and make it work, but you're already annoyed and you're just going to get more impatient. Think about it and decide if the qualities you like in her are worth taking things slower than usual.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2011): Unfortunately you seem to come across as a young man that only wants to date a young woman if it means you will be having sex and not so much about friendship, taking things slow, building trust. Being patient enough and realizing that too many people equate sex as a 'relationship'. So forget that TRUST, Friendship, and letting the LOVE grow is the correct way to fall in love and remain in love.
If that is your true goal, you would wait whatever time for the girl you find 'hot'.
But that is not the case so, leave the 19 Sweetheart alone and move on.
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reader, lakers_lover09 +, writes (24 December 2011):
WaS she experienced with sex? Sounds like she wasnt.I'm thinking she wasn't yet comfortable with sexual relations. A few dates doesn't seem like a long time either.perhaps you were moving too fast? need more info. Hope I can help.
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