My boyfriend has a type... and it's not me?
Q. Hello. I am a lady in desperate need of hearing some truths. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about five years now and we're doing great except for a couple reoccurring issues. Our relationship started in early college and therefore suffer...
A. 10 February 2013: I think that basically, he's a man who needs attention from many women at the same time. You getting implants isn't going to change that.
He is sexually attracted to other types of women, and you have to decide whether you can handle the fact tha... (read in full...)
Are long distance relationships all about the sex?
Q. I'm just gonna go right out and say it... are long distance relationships just about sex? I mean, if you meet someone online and see them, say, a couple of weekends a month... and it takes around 3 hours to get to them and you're paying for the ...
A. 31 January 2013: Err no, not all long distance relationships are about sex. In an actual long distance relationship, the relationship still exists when the two are not together in person. The type you're talking about is more of a booty call arrangement, not an ... (read in full...)
We get on really well, but he said he needs sex, but I'm a virgin?
Q. I just turned 20 a while ago. I'm a virgin. I'm single and always have been. Dated a couple of guys, but things ended horribly and I ended up hurt. Even though I am a virgin, I have done other things, nearly everything that comes before it, su...
A. 11 December 2012: Really? You're going to fall for those terribly old and overused lines? Come on... he obviously just wants you for sex. As soon as you give it to him, he'll disappear and you'll torture yourself for hours wondering where you went wrong.
Every... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend have a problem with me wearing hair extensions?
Q. The guy i'm seeing seems to have a problem with me wearing extensions, it's just getting insulting and tiring now! I don't know whether to get them taken out? I got them in a few weeks ago and all my friends compliment me on my hair, even thoug...
A. 11 November 2012: My boyfriend hates extensions too. It's more that he likes you for you, and doesn't want any fake shit to obscure your beauty. Don't take offense to it.... (read in full...)
Is 5 sex partners by age 21 ok?
Q. Hi. I am curious whether it is ok/normal for a 21 year old boy to have slept with 5 girls. I am a 20 year old virgin and my boyfriend admitted he slept with 5 girls previously. I shouldn't have asked about his past, but I was curious and didn't want ...
A. 31 October 2012: I was in the same boat as you. I was my boyfriends 5th and he was my first (same ages as you too). I think its pretty normal. ... (read in full...)
My husband is constantly putting me down.
Q. My husband who is in denial has been putting me down for years for one reason or another. I will point it out to him as he is doing but he sees NOTHING wrong with it. I have question his love for me, but im so sure that he is NOT nor has ever lov...
A. 7 October 2012: Wow that doesn't even sound like a marriage to me. He makes you pay all your own things and for your children too, whilst he spends money on stupid shoes??
Marriages are supposed to be about each partner being equal, sharing your lives together... (read in full...)
Is it normal to not want sex at all one week? Yet another week Sex is all I can think of?
Q. Is it normal to not want sex? Last week, it was all I could think about. And this week, I have no desire for it. I mean, sometimes people go through a dry spell, where they don't have sex for a long period of time. This is almost the same, I gues...
A. 4 October 2012: Very normal I think, especially for females. Your cycle dictates your drive, and because your hormones are fluctuating week from week, it's normal to not want it one day, then suddenly be ravenous the next few.
Birth control can also have an affec... (read in full...)
What is right? My wife is saying she has no problem if one of our unmarried daughters chooses to have sex in our home with a Bf. The thought bothers me.
Q. I have kids. In particular, I have daughters. And in particular I have a daughter who is 19. She took a year off after high school and travelled the world. Now she's back home and is trying her hand at university. OK, so she's "of age", so if ...
A. 4 October 2012: I think its wise to just talk it out with your wife and daughter about what you want/don't want to see/hear - but to expect her to be anywhere but the house is a bit much.
If she can't have sex in your house, where else can she go? A seedy mo... (read in full...)
LDR: Do I bank on her hooking up with other people and do the same myself? We are separated by a long distance.
Q. My girlfriend and I split up because she's going to college hundreds of miles away and I'm in another state. so it didn't make sense. I feel a strong connection with her and expect to love her for the next semester and try and spark things back up ...
A. 19 August 2012: Well maybe you should talk to her about it?
I used to be in an LDR with my boyfriend. We met online, and after a year of friendship we met each other in person. Neither of us was with anyone else during that time because we had both decided ... (read in full...)
How do I tell people these things? Without feeling embarrassed or stupid about it?
Q. I was talking with my friend the other day and she asked me "what's the thing you've done in life that you're ashamed of and wish you had never done?" I said i don't know because i hate telling people the real answer. The truth is, the thing i'...
A. 18 August 2012: You don't need to tell them if they ask.
But really, you're only 17. I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 20, and he lived in the USA and I lived in australia. We met online. 2 years later and he has moved over here to be with me.
I... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 3 years popped the question unexpectedly in front of family/friends. I told him I wasn't ready and now he won't talk to me!
Q. Hey everyone So my boyfriend proposed to me last week and I know I just be happy about this but I'm not.. We have been dating for 3 years and things are goin really well until the day of propasal.. He has never spoken about marriage to me so ...
A. 22 July 2012: I find it hard to believe that in 3 years of being together, not once has the topic of marriage come up.
Have you never expressed to him that you just don't feel ready to get engaged within the next year or two?
Communciation is huge within a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hasn't contacted me in three days
Q. Dear Cupid My bf usually never calls. i am the one who always initiates the call. lately he is often hanging up the call saying he is busy when i call him. I got pissed off and told him i wont call him anymore unless he calls me, Its been ...
A. 10 July 2012: Dump him.
Why would you devote time to someone who won't devote time to you?
Relationships are give and take.... (read in full...)
Meeting my online boyfriend for the first time, he might be expecting to meet a THIN girl!
Q. So me and this boy have been talking online for about two years now. And don't worry he is a mutual friend of MANY of my friends and a lot of my friends think he's a nice guy. He has a lot going for him, and any girl would be lucky to have him. He ...
A. 9 July 2012: Just organise to meet up.
I met my boyfriend online and he travelled over 7000 miles on a plane to meet a stranger in a forgein country. He was nervous that I wouldn't like him, nervous about his weight, nervous about ME. And guess what? Everythi... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable that I don't want my son to lie in bed all day?
Q. At 2pm today I told my husband that he should go and tell my son that it was time to get up out of bed and he said "To Do What?" Am I unreasonable not to want him to lie in be all day? ...
A. 9 July 2012: - My son says "what is there to get up for?"
Could he be depressed? When I had depression, all I wanted to do all day was stay in bed because I had nothing worth waking up for in my life. Same shit, different day, was my mentality.
... (read in full...)
Fathers in the delivery room: who should have the final say?
Q. I had an interesting conversation with my boyfriend earlier about fathers in the delivery room. I'd like to find out what others make of the issue! My boyfriend said he'd rather not be in present, but if the mother wanted him there he'd compl...
A. 9 July 2012: I'd be really upset if my partner didn't want to be there with me. We would have both created this little person (not just me!), but I would be the one to carry it for 9 months. The least he can do is hold my hand and be there to support me through ... (read in full...)
My guys cum tastes bitter and salty, suggestions?
Q. I know I could google this and read a bunch of articles, but I need help. I've been the only girl that has successfully given my guy a bj EVER! He loves it and I love to please him. The thing is his cum tastes really bitter and salty. The last ...
A. 26 June 2012: Things like alcohol and smoking, as well as red meat, garlic, and onions, will make his semen taste bitter.
More fresh fruit and veg will change the way it tastes.... (read in full...)
Should I leave her this message on Facebook?
Q. Hey guys, I need some advice on how I need to approach this situation. There is this girl I am attracted to. She gave me her number a long time ago, but when I texted her, she didn't reply. After that, she never really talked to me quite as much as ...
A. 25 June 2012: Haha.. sorry. That message is a bit ridiculous.
If I had some guy randomly send me that kind of message when I previously avoided his advances I'd probably block him.
Ask her how she is doing. Show an interest in her and who she is. Don't se... (read in full...)
I'm a 20 year old virgin...is that a turn off?
Q. I'm 20 years old and I'm in college. I've never had sex because I've never had a boyfriend and never wanted to sleep with random guys. No one ever believes me when I tell them I've never had sex mainly because I go out/party/drink a lot and ...
A. 15 May 2012: No, to the right guy it won't be. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend a few days after my 20th birthday. There are many people who either choose to wait or just haven't had the opportunity - we just don't hear them bragging about their sex-less ... (read in full...)
What is the average time for a couple to move in together?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now, i asked him if he wants kids with me and he said yes, but I'm wondering what is the average time it takes a couple to move into together? He is making efforts for me he met my mom and sister and for ...
A. 19 April 2012: It's different for everyone. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half and we won't be moving in together for a few more months. I'm an an LDR though so my situation might be a bit different.
... (read in full...)
I'm overweight and meeting my LDR boyfriend for the first time, how do I prepare myself for rejection?
Q. I've been in an LDR for about 6 months and next month, he's coming to my country to meet me. I'm very fat and from the very beginning, I made sure he knew that. I mentioned it and even sent him full-length photographs so that he knew exactly how I ...
A. 19 April 2012: I was in the same boat about 9 months ago, only it was my boyfriend who was nervous about meeting me and about his size.
I knew what he looked like. I wasn't attracted to him for his body, but for his mind. And in time, I became attracted to ALL O... (read in full...)
What is it that makes a guy stick around for the long haul?
Q. Hi, Just wondering if anyone (males in particular) can answer this for me. What is it that makes a guy stick around for the long haul or even the forseeable future. It seems to me, per the advise given be people on this site, that girls ...
A. 17 April 2012: Why don't you try being friends with the guys first? From what I've seen/experienced, the best relationships start with friendship. Get to know him and build it up from there.... (read in full...)
Men & Women: How long have you gone without sex?
Q. How long have you gone without sex with another person? ...
A. 11 April 2012: currently 6 months because I'm in an international LDR.... (read in full...)
Should I have some sexual fun before I settle into marriage?
Q. Hi everyone, Better go though me situation a bit. I'm in a 2.5 year long distance relationship. Been through good time and hard time. We meet every 4-5 months and make it a trip to somewhere away from home. We last met three months ago and g...
A. 11 April 2012: I'm in a long distance relationship as well. I haven't seen my boyfriend in 6 months. Do I crave sex every day? Yes. Would I ever sleep with a random person because I felt that I needed to experience life, and because my boyfriend was my first and ... (read in full...)
Should I trust her? Should I let them hang out?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half. We've had our ups and downs but I would consider it to be a great relationship. We spend most of our time together, we still do cutesy things, and we rarely argue about things. H...
A. 9 April 2012: I have to agree with the last anonymous male poster.
The lying about it is already a red flag, and getting angry at you about it is another. She's trying to shift the focus off her actions and putting it on to you.
If she hasn't already s... (read in full...)
Four years of talking online but I still don't know his real name, or phone number
Q. Hi Users, Where do I begin?. I'll just write what comes I suppose. For four years I have been talking to a man online. We talk every day at least 3 to 4 times and sometimes more. We log onto MSN in the mornings, during breaks at work, after wor...
A. 3 April 2012: I met my boyfriend online... but we knew everything about each other before we even met - his sister even added me on FB before we met.
I think this guy is pulling your leg, or hiding something so that he can one day disappear and you wouldn't... (read in full...)
Ended up having sex with another man while at my bachelorette party at Vegas!
Q. ***Before I begin, please don't judge me for what I did, I already know it was wrong, and I feel horrible*** I am enganged at an amazing man who I love very much, our wedding is about a week away. This past weekend my girlfriends and I went to Ve...
A. 3 April 2012: Not sure what to say that no one else has already said - just that I agree with most people here. You need to tell him. Taking this to the grave is such a cop out.
Face up to what has happened. Give your fiancee the right to choose whether ... (read in full...)
I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?
Q. Ok, so my situation is that I'm a virgin, and I always wanted to lose it to another virgin, but I'm almost 20 and girls like that are very hard to come by, this is very important for me, because I wanted to be able to be each other first. I kn...
A. 29 March 2012: I was a virgin at 20 too. I waited until I found someone I loved and cared about to have sex. He wasn't a virgin. Did I care? No. Does it bother me that he has been with women before me? Sometimes. My virginity was a gift to him.
Now, why woul... (read in full...)
He got nasty when I got ill and couldnt have sex!
Q. Hi,I had terrible problems with my stomach including constant pain for a whole year and spent that time in and out of the medical centre. Then my condition worsened. For a while it looked like I was going to have an operation and I was absolutely ...
A. 28 March 2012: I think he's just not a decent man. Dump him and find yourself a man who will respect you!... (read in full...)
I want a healthy sex life but my b/f can't stay hard!
Q. Ok me and my bf have been together 4 5 months now and we have a wonderful relationship and we get along great but when it comes to sex there is a problem. We are both 21, in college and still live with our parents so we don't have as much privacy ...
A. 28 March 2012: If he is jerking off a lot, that could be a reason. Most guys have a very tight grip on their junk, so when they're with a woman, they don't feel as much sensation, or its not as tight as they're used to, so they can't stay hard (not saying your ... (read in full...)
Porn related questions
Q. A few questions.... Are there any lucky women here whose partner does not watch/use porn? Did you have to tell them to stop? Did they lose interest naturally, how long did it take? Why is it so vital to men that they get to masturbate over...
A. 26 March 2012: My boyfriend doesn't watch porn. Since we got together, he says other women just don't do it for him anymore. I guess I got lucky!... (read in full...)
Have I missed out by not having sexual experiences with any guy other than my boyfriend?
Q. I lost my virginity a bit later than most and have been with that boy ever since which is four years. I can see myself marrying him one day but I have one problem. He's slept with other girls before me and I feel a bit weird thinking I could marry ...
A. 26 March 2012: Why give up a good thing?
My boyfriend has had past partners too. I was a virgin when I met him. I hope to marry him one day. He's the best thing that's ever happened to me and I feel so lucky/blessed to not have had the need to kiss a bunch of... (read in full...)
Need advice on how to "train" my boyfriend in terms of sex.
Q. my boyfriend still has a lot to learn, especially to be more gentle. Simply telling him "Be gentler" only works for a few minutes usually. I know he's the one, we've already talked about marriage, and we want to wait till after we're living tog...
A. 22 March 2012: Why don't you sit down and talk to him, outside of the bedroom? Communicate your needs. Being with someone is about compromising and trying new things, and listening to what they have to say, as well as respecting what they have to say. If he ... (read in full...)
Is it fair of me to ask my B/f to keep on using condoms, to "save" ourselves for our wedding night?
Q. I'd kind of planned on waiting until marriage to have sex, but then I met my first boyfriend. We're an LDR couple and I lost my virginity to him late last year. Don't get me wrong, I don't regret it at all, it felt so right when it happened! We're ...
A. 20 March 2012: Danielepew, I'm pretty sure person12345 meant that the woman can feel the difference without condoms too, not just the man.
And to the OP, there's no problem in asking to continue to wear condoms. I just don't get why you want to save it for your... (read in full...)
How often do you see your boyfriend/girlfriend in the average week?
Q. Hi Dearcupid, I was wondering how often you see your boyfriend/girlfriend on average? My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for almost four months and we only see each other once a week, usually on Saturdays. Sometimes he will text me ...
A. 18 March 2012: I'm in an LDR. Although I don't get to see my boyfriend often, we call/text/skype each other daily. We wouldn't have much of a relationship if we didn't (that's all I'm going to say).... (read in full...)
Ladies, is a 4.25" penis big or small?
Q. Ladies, do you consider a 4.25 inch erect penis to be big or small? Do you have experience with this size? If so how did you like it? ...
A. 18 March 2012: to the authors follow up - why is it surprising most women only orgasm from clitoral stimulation? the clitoris is the only organ in the human body build purely for pleasure. the vagina really isn't sensitive at all (unless its to pain from a penis ... (read in full...)
Why does it seem that less and less people use personal restraint in relationships today?
Q. How come less and less people have self restraint these days? There are so many instances about people cheating on their bf/gf, students sleeping with teachers and most recently an acquaintance of mine who slept with her sister's husband. Why does ...
A. 9 March 2012: I don't think you're old fashioned.
I have never cheated on my boyfriend and would never even dream of it, and he has never cheated on me.
I think if one truly loves and respects another, they would never do that. There has to be an issue with... (read in full...)
What are your opinions on taking a break and giving your lover space after a horrible argument?
Q. Hello everyone. My boyfriend and I got into the worst argument we've ever gotten into last Friday. We've been together for almost two years now and that one topped them all. I will be honest that I barely have the energy and strength to expl...
A. 4 March 2012: I agree with YouWish.
I also learned the same, to never go to sleep without having resolved whatever issue it is first. My boyfriend and I may have had a few disagreements from time to time, but we always make sure to kiss and make up before i... (read in full...)
I'm married, and falling to pieces because I had sex with another woman. What do I do now?
Q. Hello. I did something really stupid. I had sex with another woman, therefore cheating on my wife. It only happened once and my wife doesn't know. I have no idea why on earth I did it. There's no chance that I'll ever see the woman I had sex with ...
A. 28 February 2012: I can't believe how many people are telling you to say nothing and take it to your grave. This makes me lose hope in humanity. Seriously.
Your wife has a right to know. Like someone else said, you made the choice to have sex outside of your mar... (read in full...)
I can't get over her past. it's too extreme for me to handle. But I love her so much.
Q. Hi everyone. I've been having some difficulties in my relationship with my girlfriend. I've been seeing a therapist, looking up similar stories, and reading books to understand her. The issue is all about her past, and it stresses me out t...
A. 28 February 2012: male anonymous - "Shifting the blame for the problem onto him is not fair and it does not really help anyone in the long run."
Dwelling on the past doesn't help anyone in the long run either.
I agree with chigirl. You need to part ways. Love ... (read in full...)
Sex! Why, so far, has it all been so unsatisfying?
Q. hey ive been sexually active for about a year.. ive just been wondering.. I don't know if im sexually frustrated or not but i think i am. I've had sex about a good fifteen times in the year or so since i lost my virginity and it just doesnt f...
A. 21 February 2012: Casual sex isn't for everyone, and there are those who get much satisfaction from it, and those who don't, like yourself. If you don't want a relationship, I would consider maybe finding a friend with benefits if you just want the sex. It's a little ... (read in full...)
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