My mummys boy won't commit!
Q. im 43 and my boyfriend is 51, we are back to the same problem, hes always lived with his mum who is 90 now and she has spoilt him, we have split up in the past and got back together, the problem is always his lack of committment to me, mention the ...
A. 1 April 2006: He's still with his mother??? He really loves her then and by the way you put it, his job too. I'm gonna have to go with the crowd on this one, dump him. Find someone who will be with you, spend their time and everything else!... (read in full...)
My culture won't allow them to be together so I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I am a woman in my late thirties with an 18 year old daughter. We are Muslim and therefore have certain rules and regulations in our society. Now, I absolutely adore my daughter, she has been a complete joy to me from the mome...
A. 1 April 2006: Ouch! Tough situation! Well, it's all up to her. You can support her and her boyfriend but it will be hard to keep the relationship going. I think the best thing to do is for them two to move somewhere else. It will be hard to say goodbye but if she ... (read in full...)
Oh my god did I cheat without knowing it???
Q. I was at a party recently where i got very drunk and blacked out, I slept in the same bed as my boyfriends(25) friend but nothing happened. I met one of his friends recently who started calling me a whore etc and saying that he knows what i did the ...
A. 1 April 2006: You have to find out what happened at that party. A lot of things can happen when you're drunk. If he's being like that then something must have happened. Talk to the people who were at the party and who can remember what happened. Maybe they know ... (read in full...)
My soul mate is married to someone else!
Q. Help! I've been searching for a while and I've finally found my 'soul mate'. She's perfect! Only problem is...she's married. I know I can't tell her, (I shouldn't have told anyone really but there you go), but it's affecting my life pretty badly. I...
A. 26 October 2005: I agree with pops and Irish. She's married so she can't be your soulmate. Stop thinking about her and move on.... (read in full...)
Is the second time the charm for us?
Q. Went out with this girl briefly about a year ago but she split up with me. I've fallen in love with her, but do you think we could go out again despite not working the first time?...
A. 26 October 2005: Why did you slpit up in the first place?? If she had split up with you and there was a perfectly good reason then I doubt it will work again.... (read in full...)
I want to make a move, but I need to know how to find out if she has a boyfriend!
Q. I am interested in this girl and she seems very enthusiastic about me too. We talk on a more-than-friend term, and I plan to make a move but I am not sure she's got a boyfriend or not... You would say I haven't known her long enough since I don't ...
A. 26 October 2005: Sit down somewhere quiet and have a chat. Ask questions about her, her family, her interests, her talents and so on. Swap relationship stories, and if she has a boyfriend then she'll bound to mention him. But if she doesn't and you get the signs ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I freeze up with nothing to say to my crush! Hints? Suggestions?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been talking to my crush (Timber) on the Internet for about four months now. He's sweet, funny, and absolutely everything I ever thought he would be. We talk almost every day for long amounts of time-just finding out about each oth...
A. 26 October 2005: When you're with him, just forget that you like him and imagine him as one of your guy friends. Don't let the conversation get to a point where the question "Who do fancy?" and stuff like that come up. When you're ready, you'll be able to talk to ... (read in full...)
He cheated and the other woman might be pregnant. Do I cut my losses and move on, or forgive him?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years has just admitted to cheating on me and possibly getting someone else pregnant. I am devestated yet still in love with him. Should I forgive him and try to work on our relationship or just move on with my life?...
A. 26 October 2005: I have to agree with pops too. If he's done it the once, who says that he wont do it again? Don't forgive and forget, he got another woman pregnant, it's his fault. You would feel much better if you leave him and find someone worth it! Good Luck!... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend like nothing else, but she still thinks she wants to finish it!
Q. How to show my girlfriend I love her? I am a 14 year old boy. I've been going out with my girlfriend for nearly two months now, and I've never been happier, but the last week we've had a series of huge arguments about us, and she's recently b...
A. 26 October 2005: You love her, yes? Have you ever considered that she doesn't feel the same way about you anymore? It's not nice when you're being ignored by the one you love, but you have to remember, a relationship has two people in it and we can't control what ... (read in full...)
I can't believe I'd have to wait 2 more years to legally date the guy I'm interested in!
Q. I am 16 and have liked older guys since I was 13. I figured that it was just a phase and that eventually I would get over it, but I haven't even been interested in a guy my age in so long that I'm beginning to think that it's not just a phase. I...
A. 26 October 2005: Okay, you are 16, this guy is 29! You have your whole life ahead of you. By the time you were the legal age to date him then you would of lost interest in him and he most probably will be in a relationship. There's bound to be someone out there that ... (read in full...)
I know he just wants me for sex, but when I see him I turn to jelly...
Q. I have been seeing this lad on and off for about 2 months and I have really fallen for him, but he brags about how many girls he has been sleeping with lately. I try to hide the fact I'm bothered but really I am. Obviously all he wants me for is s...
A. 24 October 2005: Well, if it's true that he has slept with all these different woman, then he most probably has HIV or STDs. If he just wants you for sex then...what a waste of good looks.... (read in full...)
How much is too large an age gap?
Q. I am 28 and my boyfried is 2 1/2 years younger. It's not an issue for us, but is that too big a gap? His friends don't seem to approve although they are my age. Princess...
A. 24 October 2005: As long as you're happy, who cares?!... (read in full...)
My teenage son is discussing marriage with a woman of 44!
Q. I found out recently that my 16-year-old son is dating a 44-year-old woman. I worry about him - the age gap is 28 years - and I fear he will have a lot of problems. He's talking about marrying her too - and she wants to marry him too! What ...
A. 24 October 2005: Seriously? That woman is probably the same age as you! I'm sorry but, is he really that desperate? Aren't there any good looking girls his age around? You are his own mother therefore I think you should stop him from seeing this woman. I mean, he's ... (read in full...)
Who should have the condoms?
Q. This probably sounds stupid, but who is supposed to carry a condom: the female or the male?...
A. 24 October 2005: Put it this way, you met this guy and really liked him. He asked for sex, none of you had condoms on you. Then when you miss your period you know you're pregnant. My advice, always carry them!... (read in full...)
Is there a woman for me, who'd love me even though sex is out?
Q. Dear Cupid...I am 54 years old and still a virgin, mostly because of some stupid fear of not being adequate in sex. I have only really loved once and that was when I was 21 years old and I totally screwed that relationship up even though I had ...
A. 24 October 2005: Who said that sex brings you happiness? It's not the end of the world, I'm sure there's a wonderful woman around your age out there that is wanting a guy who doesn't care about sex! Don't lose hope! Good luck! ... (read in full...)
He says he's confused and might make me unhappy, but won't our love help work things out?
Q. Got back with bf after 2 month rocky patch, on again, off again, on again, off again etc.. I love him to pieces and I know he loves me but he says he's still confused! I told him to think about it for a week but I'm already head over heels back ...
A. 24 October 2005: In a way, he's trying to protect you. Maybe he's seeing someone else, and doesn't want you to know or something like that.... (read in full...)
After 5 years together neither of us feels the thrill any more. Time to move on?
Q. I'm in a relationship for 5 years, now. It feels like an old married couple. Nothing exciting is happening anymore. Maybe it is both of us feeling the same thing, and don't want to hurt each other by moving on. What to do? stay work it out or it is ...
A. 24 October 2005: Well, if you don't love each other anymore, why stay together? If you know you can sort it out, then go ahead, but if you know you can't then move on.... (read in full...)
Just discovered that my girlfriend cheated 18 months ago and I can't stop thinking about it!
Q. I am 21 and my girlfriend is 18. We have dated for almost 4 years and she just admitted to me that she cheated on me about 1 and a half years ago. I can't sleep at night and I am always thinking about it and getting frustrated about it. What should ...
A. 24 October 2005: You should move on. If she cheated on you then you obviously isn't happy being with you. It's her loss, not yours!... (read in full...)
My 48-year-old woman says she'll wait until I turn 16. That's next week!
Q. Hi...I'm a 15 year old boy who has really strong feelings for a 48 year old woman, and I know that she feels the same, as we text and talk to each other every night. She's told me she loves me and I know that I love her. She's told me that if ...
A. 23 October 2005: This woman is probably older than your parents!!! You can't be in serious love. It would be best to tell her that the age gap is way too big. Find someone your own age to date please!... (read in full...)
My ex-teacher shares his romantic life with me, and I can't stand it!
Q. I'm madly in love with my ex teacher and it's killing me. Recently he got married and he emailed me telling me all about it, when I just don't want to hear it! He says we can't be friends and yet he tells me his life story and I do the same. Th...
A. 22 October 2005: He married his wife for a reason. What concerns me, is that you are only 15 and he should know better being 25, he was placed in a position of trust and it sounds as if he is abusing this. No good will come out of this relationship, it sounds like ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep chasing men who aren't available?
Q. I can't help myself. I always seem to go for guys that are unavailable or out of reach in some way. I don't know why I do it but I wish I didn't. I recently fell head over heels with a guy I have been working with for a couple of years. We got fr...
A. 22 October 2005: He's probably embarresed, there will be some tension when you go back to work this will however fade. You fantasize about men you cannot have because it is exactly that you cannot have them. My suggestion would be for you to go on a dating agency at ... (read in full...)
Planning on meeting my online lover soon, but my husband feels lonely and left out
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 35 year old woman in a 12 year old relationship, 10 years of which I have been married. My marriage has been a happy one and I consider my husband to be my best friend. However, there is a problem. 3 months ago I met a woma...
A. 22 October 2005: Yes you are incredably selfish, you are hurting your husband to whom you say you love. If you want to explore your sexuality then you should not be in a marrage or relationship because it is not fair on your husband-have you considered how you would ... (read in full...)
How do I choose which man I love the best?
Q. I am having a troubled decision to make. I moved about 1.5 years to new job whilst with boyfriend of 3 years. I then met a guy at new job and really fancied him, made stupid excuse to current bf that it wasnt working and been seeing new guy for ...
A. 22 October 2005: You have to decide because it is not fair on the two men involved. Love is very unpridictable, perhaps you should go out on a date with the both of them (on seperate days) and the one who ultimately makes your heart flitter is the one you should ... (read in full...)
Met a new guy who gives me butterflies... but I don't want to break up with my boyfriend!
Q. I love my boyfriend dearly, and we have been together for a number of years. Recently, I met someone that I have become very attracted to and have been flirting with. I would never cheat on my boyfriend so I know nothing will happen between us but I...
A. 22 October 2005: You ultimately have to decide, it seems that you are aware that you cannot see this person and cheat on your bf, so it's either you finish with your bf and take a chance with the new relationship or you reside yourself to the fact that you can only ... (read in full...)
How do I approach my very shy neighbour and let him know I'm interested?
Q. Help! I've fallen for my friend and neighbour. He's REALLY shy and I'm scared to just tell him how I feel in case I've got a couple of signals wrong, and frighten him off completely. How should I play this? And if I tell him, how should I phra...
A. 22 October 2005: If he's your neighbour, on a sunny day, do some work in the garden and when you see him, start a conversation with him. After you get to know him a little then you tell him how you feel. Good luck to you!!!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend cheated, then lied to me about it. I'm so angry and upset I can't sleep...
Q. Hello , I am 17 and in a very serious relationship but my girlfriend cheated on me a month and half ago when she went away for a weekend. She blames it on being "caught up in the moment". She has been lying to me about the facts and I finally ...
A. 22 October 2005: If she loved you then she wouldn't need anyone else therefore she doesn't love you. You're 17, very young, you have your whole life ahead of you. Don't get upset because she isn't loyal, consider it her loss. If I was you I would find someone who is ... (read in full...)
I want him back, but he's with someone new. What can I do?
Q. My first love and I broke up after 7yrs. It's been 5 yrs. He has a girlfriend, but I want him back. What should I do?...
A. 21 October 2005: It sounds like you're jealous to me. 5 years and you didn't want him back but now that he has a girlfriend you want him. Just forget about him, if you get in the way then you could ruin his new relationship. ... (read in full...)
Too much information from my housemate! What do I do?
Q. I have recently started uni and my housemate is really noisy when pleasuring herself and its even worse when her boyfriend stays. What should I do?...
A. 21 October 2005: To be honest, it’s got nothing to do with you; she can pleasure herself where and when she wants. But it can be annoying after a while so tell her that she’s too loud! ... (read in full...)
How do I go from eye contact to actually meeting?
Q. I started college about a month or so ago. In one of my classes, just about 2 weeks ago I noticed a really cute guy. We've made eye contact many times during class and almost every day when class ends. I really want to talk to him, but I'm ...
A. 21 October 2005: Well, you could ask your friends if they could converse to him about something random and then you can walk in and start having a conversation with him. Then when you see him again, say ‘hi’ and make a conversation. Sooner or later he will admit if ... (read in full...)
He's 25 and I'm 15, but it's not about sex..!
Q. I'm 15 and I'm seeing a 25 year that lives an hour an a half away. Everyone thinks that our relationship is wrong and that he is using me for sex but he hasn't even asked once, but no-one will believe me. I love him very much and he loves me also. ...
A. 21 October 2005: You are 15 and he his 25! You are very young. You're still a kid and he is an adult, date someone your own age!... (read in full...)
How can I persuade him to give us another chance?
Q. Myself and my boyfriend of almost 3 years recently broke up. We're best friends, are very attracted to each other and I love him like crazy. He says he doesn't know how he feels anymore but that it doesn't matter as we'll never work out. I suspect ...
A. 19 October 2005: He's made his mind up, he doesn't want a relationship with you. I think you should move on. Consider it his loss, find someone else! Good luck!... (read in full...)
Is it normal for someone like me to be so obsessed with much older men?
Q. Dear Cupid! I am a 16 year old girl and I'm having a massive dilemma: I seem to be attracted to men much older than me.... not just attracted actually, I'd say I am almost obsessed! I fantasise about my maths teacher, my english tea...
A. 19 October 2005: I remember when I went through that. I could never concerntrate in class. It felt as if I was in love with them but it wore off after a while. It's natural so don't worry.... (read in full...)
It's always me that does the asking. Does that mean he doesn't like hanging out with me?
Q. How can you tell if someone who’s shy and slightly introverted really likes you or not? If I’m the one always asking him to hang out and he says yes, but has only asked me to hang out once or twice, is that tell tail sign that he doesn’t? We’ve ...
A. 18 October 2005: What pops said. Maybe it's because of the age difference? He probably feels uncomfortable with someone 14 years younger than him!... (read in full...)
Obsessed with my girlfriend's sexual history. Should I look at the hidden computer files?
Q. I have had problems with my girlfriend's sexual past before and sometimes I think I am getting over it. However, last night I was using her computer and I noticed that there were some hidden files that I could not access. Judging from the file names ...
A. 18 October 2005: How do you know for certain that it has anything to do with her sexual history? I totally agree with pops. If you can't handle it, then let it go.... (read in full...)
Should I forgive my fiance when he continues to lie to me?
Q. I have been with my fiance for over five years. I found out that he had a one night stand and have forgiven him for it. However I don't trust him. He lies to me all the time. Mainly about stupid things, but it feels like I'm being an idiot forgiving ...
A. 18 October 2005: You've admitted that you can't put up with it anymore, yes? Then break up with him! It's his loss really, you weren't the one cheating and lying to him. ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble dealing with the death of my uncle...
Q. Hi there, I'm 14 and in August my uncle passed away. :-( He was only 43 which made matters worse. I can't seem to move on. I go out with my friends shopping etc every now and again, and they always make me feel a bit happier but when I'm alone I ...
A. 18 October 2005: Death is a very hard thing to get over. I lost my very first friend when I was 6 years old. Everyone told me that I would get over it in a few weeks. I'm a teenager now and her death still upsets me. You have to remember all the good times you had ... (read in full...)
Does going out with someone else when we were separated make me a slapper?
Q. Hi All, I was recently in a relationship with a guy I work with, i felt the relationship was dying and the only thing left was to end it which i did but the guy said he was sorry about all the problems and would really like us to get back togethe...
A. 18 October 2005: You moved on. Nothing wrong there.
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Can you have a trouble-free relationship all the time?
Q. Dear Cupid, My fiance thinks that it is possible to have a relationship without any snags? What do you think about that? Thanks, Secret Sara...
A. 18 October 2005: In my point of view, it is very impossible. There is no suck thing as a perfect relationship. Everyone fights over the smallest of things. ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with the guy who cheated, just to make a point?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months cheated on me, and I can't move on or forget what happened, but I don't want this to end, I don't know what to do. Should I leave or stay?...
A. 18 October 2005: Leave him be with the other girl he cheated on. Find someone loyal!... (read in full...)
It can't ever work out, but I'm in love with a married, older woman...
Q. I'm 17 and I have fallen in love with a 22 year old married woman with a 2 year old kid I used to work with. She has also fallen in love with me. We have seen each other quite a lot since I left my previous job. My heart constantly aches and so ...
A. 18 October 2005: She can't love you that much if she has a child! Let her go and find someone else to fall in love with.... (read in full...)
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