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writes: I'm in a relationship for 5 years, now. It feels like an old married couple. Nothing exciting is happening anymore. Maybe it is both of us feeling the same thing, and don't want to hurt each other by moving on. What to do? stay work it out or it is time to move on? MS
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reader, Love Hated +, writes (30 October 2005):
If i was in that type of relatinship. I would try new and exciting things. Talk to you partner about this situation, that's the best thing to do. That way you can hear both sides. Don't break up because thats giving up so easy. That's just an easy way to give up. Nobody said relationship would just come together. Sooner or later you will have to work on them. When the going gets tough and roads get rough, whens enough, enough? ........ NEVER!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2005): Being bored in a relationship, does not necessarily mean that one person is the boring person, it takes two, don't you agree?? It is really not fair to say that the female is the one that suppose to initiate the exciting things in a relationship or life. Comments
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reader, MS +, writes (26 October 2005):
Excellent point about maybe being a boring person, however; is there a possibility that my partner is boring, too. I have tried to plan exciting events, but he is always tired or working.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2005): If you can honestly say that you do not fancy him anymore then its nicer to let him go and find somebody else, like wise for you. If on the otherhand you both still fancy eachother and enjoy eachothers company then its worth making the effort for. Think back to when you first started dating and how excited you were about seeing eachother. start going out again, restaurants, bars or walks... plan holidays or weekend breaks. If things do not work out then atleast you gave it your best shot.
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (24 October 2005):
Well, if you don't love each other anymore, why stay together? If you know you can sort it out, then go ahead, but if you know you can't then move on.
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reader, MS +, writes (24 October 2005):
Thanks, for the advise. Actually, we have talked about counseling and my partner is willing to go, too.
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reader, pops +, writes (24 October 2005):
Why not get some counseling. People can let the spark go outof a relationship. All they need is to learn how to rekindle the romance, sometimes. If there are no other problems in the relationship, why throw 5 years away. Don't you think you will just find someone else, and do this all over again unless you learn what happened, and how to either stop it, or rekindle the fire? Talk to people at your doctor's office, or mental health service.
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reader, lulu +, writes (24 October 2005):
move on, it maybe hard after 5 years but it sounds like its what you both want. if you can find happiness somewhere lese then go for it. theres no point in being in something thats not exciting and making you happy.
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reader, Ellis Mac +, writes (24 October 2005):
Being bored in a relationship can often be about being boring yourself. Who was it that said,'We were never bored, because we were never being boring?'
Are you doing lots of exciting things that give you fun stories to relate to your partner? Are you approaching each day with an enthusiasm for life that ripples into your partners life?
Consider whether it is you and not the relationship that needs looking at. What have you done lately?
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reader, miss molly +, writes (24 October 2005):
In the beginning of a relationship there is always a flame, that roars. Unfortunantly sometimes it just doesn't keep burning. All you have to do is think about what makes you happy. If you think you would be happier in a different relationship or not in arelationship at all, then you need to tell your partner, that its time to move on. You may find that your partner does feel the same way. You may even be able to develope a fantastic friendship by just being honest with one another. I am not just saying, walk out, but talking about it will really make things easier.
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