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writes: My first love and I broke up after 7yrs. It's been 5 yrs. He has a girlfriend, but I want him back. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2005): I think you should move on and find a man that will truely love you, because your ex is clearly not coming back after 5yrs. you are dreaming about a love that ended such a long time ago and its such a waste of time as life is to short so go out there girl and find the man of your dreams!
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (21 October 2005):
It sounds like you're jealous to me. 5 years and you didn't want him back but now that he has a girlfriend you want him. Just forget about him, if you get in the way then you could ruin his new relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2005): I think that you should try going out with someone new. you are going to all worried about the new guy and will eventually stop thinking about the other guy. If he really loves you, then your first love will come running.
~Robin~
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2005): First you should love yourself, and if you still care for him as you say you do, then resepst his life decisions and be at peace in side knowing that you do this for him and out of resepts for yourself as well.... I personally have been in both situations and although heat wrenching, I felt it was the best choice. I hope this helps.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (21 October 2005):
 Do you mean that its been five years since you broke up? If so, that is a long time and also a long time that you were actually together.
I don't know if he knows how you still feel about him but there is quite a possibility that he has moved on, I'm afraid. Trying to get him back when he is with someone else is a no go zone and can only lead to heartbreak.
I know how tough it is but you have to let him be. If he isn't happy with this girl and still has feelings for you, then he will eventually see reason and understand how he feels and do something about it but it could be the case that he really wants to be with her which ultimately means you having to let go.
Try to think about what you want to achieve in life and what you would like from a relationship. Once you have worked this out, try to find ways of enjoying life more with your friends and get out there and find someone else.
You know the old saying; 'If you love someone, let them go. If they come back to you, they are yours...'
Live your life and let him go. There are other men out there.
If you see him regularly and it hurts very much, try to find ways to decrease your chances of seeing him.
Overall, try to move on. Reflect on why you broke up but don't necessarily forget the happy memories either.
Good luck.
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