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writes: My boyfriend of 2 years has just admitted to cheating on me and possibly getting someone else pregnant. I am devestated yet still in love with him. Should I forgive him and try to work on our relationship or just move on with my life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2006): This is the same situation I am experiencing right now. I found out the day before this past Christmas that my love of 14 years cheated on me and got another woman pregnant. I stayed with him throughout the new year (for the sake of our children) and then new year's day i threw him out. He is now living with the "frumpy s*ut! I am heart brioken, but know that I have made the right choice. You have to move on and try not to let this control your thoughts, it'll only drive you crazy! Stay busy, and Know that this was not your fault. I don't believe once a cheater always a cheater, but I do believe once a liar ALWAYS a liar. YOU will be better off with out him, and will realize it in the future. Good luck to your healing and griefing process! Time heals all! Whatever you do, do not take him back! He will never change!
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reader, gingerone +, writes (31 October 2005):
I know how you feel at the momment I am going through the same thing and this is the second time he has cheated on me. I love him and have decided that enough is enough it is time to move on.
good luck
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reader, sigga dögg +, writes (27 October 2005):
Once a cheater alway a cheater....
Honey, trust has been broken and you might have somebody to stare you in the face to remind you for the rest of your life.
There are non-cheating good men out there, dont settle.
Good luck and above all be true to yourself
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reader, Sugar_sweet +, writes (27 October 2005):
I know it must be hard for you especially with all those thoughts running through your mind of questions like how and why?.
Even though you had a 2 year relationship with this guy and you dont want to lose him it seems, but there may always be dought in the back of your mind that if he would cheat again.
I see it as once a cheater always a cheater!.
I'm sure this has caused you great stress and pain but the sooner you release yourself from this relationship the sooner you will heal as time goes on.You need to find someone else who a lot better out there who treats you with respect and honesty.
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reader, girl +, writes (26 October 2005):
I say leave him in the dust. If you stay you are only going to remain heart broken. If he has the baby, you might have to see it sometimes, that will only remind you of the heartache and pain and that this caused you. Besides, you would be free to do what you want its going to be him who will have the everlasting responsibility on his shoulders. I say move on, he really didn't care too much if he didn't use protection in the first place. You are only letting him know that he can do it to you again if you stay, and what if that time he does bring home an unwanted guest courtesy of the young lady and his irresponsibility. Think about it girl don't be no fool. Once a cheat always a cheat.
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (26 October 2005):
I have to agree with pops too. If he's done it the once, who says that he wont do it again? Don't forgive and forget, he got another woman pregnant, it's his fault. You would feel much better if you leave him and find someone worth it! Good Luck!
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (26 October 2005):
 You may be in love with him, but obviously he don't take your feelings into consideration if he has the nerve to go and cheat. Is the only reason he told you about this is because this girl might be pregnant? You don't need to deal with any of this, you love him, but you NEED to leave him. He's not worth it, no one that cheats is worth anyone's time. He screwed up and now he's going to have bigger problems then him just cheating. Why would you want to put up with someone like this. If he did this once, what makes you think he's not going to do it again?
I guess two years isn't a good enough commitment for him, is he not happy? Obviously there has to be something if he's going out to find someone else when he already has you. Just lose him already and forget about him. I know it's easier said then done, but do your best cause you deserve better than that.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2005): i think that you should find out for sure if she is pregnant or not, and sit him down and talk to him about his situstion. you say you are in love with him, but he cheated on you with someone else not cring how you feel. I dont think that he cares for you that much if he is going to go and do what he did. talk to him, and the girl and i hope you have a good time. jk
~Robin~
aka advice gurl
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reader, not again +, writes (26 October 2005):
yip, Pops is right. Get out. It'll be hard now, and painful but sooo much better in the long run. Not only did he cheat on you but he obviously didnt use protection if he mightve got the chick pregnant, and he is obviously till in touch with the chick re the pregnancy. I don't reckon you need that baggage. Leave him, and while he is getting his sh*t sorted out you can grieve and then get on with your life while he will still be a dirty cheater. Don't settle for second best, if he cheats on you again how much more awful will you feel? All the best. xx
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reader, pops +, writes (26 October 2005):
Why? Something is very wrong with your relationship if he is cheating with another woman after a two year dating relationship with you. He has made his choice. Now he has to take responsibility for his conduct. If she is pregnant, and it proves to be his child, he will have to support the child. Its time he grew up, but its also time for you to move on. IF he cheats once, he will do so again.
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