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writes: Dear Cupid,My fiance thinks that it is possible to have a relationship without any snags? What do you think about that?Thanks,Secret Sara
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (18 October 2005):
In my point of view, it is very impossible. There is no suck thing as a perfect relationship. Everyone fights over the smallest of things.
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (18 October 2005):
 I think that's a bunch of bs actually. Who has a relationship without ANY snags? It has been said that every relationship has its ups and downs, and that means it also has snags. Maybe some relationships don't have as bad as ones as others, but EVERY relationship is bound to have something wrong.
I wonder who's relationship don't have any! I want to be in that one!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2005): I think your fiancee has his head in the clouds. After the ooy-gooey honeymoon phase, relationships are *about* dealing with problems and how well you communicate when you hit trouble spots.
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reader, LucidCupid +, writes (18 October 2005):
A relationship is like a car.The more you service it the less likely anything will go wrong.But there are no guarantees.Alot of vehicles conk out the day after they've been in the shop because the mechanic forgot to replace a part or put in the WRONG part.And so too with relationships.You may spot a problem,do what YOU think will rectify it,but ultimately it may cause a bigger problem,because your partner may feel invalidated.The secret to keeping things running smoothly is that good oil-communication.Discuss your feelings and concerns as EQUALS.When one partner begins to feel like the other is taking the lead in all the decisions and so forth,well,that's when the wheels start wobbling,the relationship starts heading off course,and you end up miles away from where you wanted to be.It's not IMPOSSIBLE to have the Rolls-Royce of relationships where everything runs trouble free all of the time,but it takes alot of time,love,understanding and effort.Even then,with the fickle,unpredictable nature of life and the world we live in,even the best intentions can go awry.Accept that people make mistakes,understand that people have differing opinions,and,as the old saying goes,don't put all your eggs in one basket.Good luck to the both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2005): ALL relationships have at least a few problems - nobody is perfect.
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