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writes: I was at a party recently where i got very drunk and blacked out, I slept in the same bed as my boyfriends(25) friend but nothing happened. I met one of his friends recently who started calling me a whore etc and saying that he knows what i did the previous week. I was shocked because i didnt know what he was talking about. He was at the party too, Im afraid now that something happened that i cant remember that he knows about. I love my boyfriend so much, and I would never do the dirt on him. I want to talk to him about it but im afraid of how he will react or maybe im afraid of finding something out.Surely i would remember something like that happening? I would hate myself if i ever hurt him as he is a great guy.what should i do?
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reader, iamsoscrewedup333 +, writes (21 April 2006):
you have to find out what happened, if anything before you say anything to your bf. You should confront the "friend" and tell him that what the other guys said and ask, why would he say that, nothing happened we just slept, RIGHT and see what his response is... I hope that nothing did happen because you seem to really love your bf, also, if his friend did do anything it totally seems like he took adavantage of the situation which makes him not such a freind at all. Good Luck
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reader, tux  +, writes (2 April 2006):
 You definately need to find out what happened. Nothing may have occurred and it may be as it has been mention just that you slept in the same bed as another guy.. or it may be just a rumor he is trying to spread about you. but you may have to talk to your bf about this. You'd be better off telling him rather than someone else. Often times it's the fact you didnt tell him that could hurt the most.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (1 April 2006):
 Well no good crying over spilt milk what you have to do now is damage limitation, you firstly must talk to the bloke you shared the bed with, ask him what happened and gauge his reaction, that should tell him if he is telling the truth, tell him you want to know as you are going to tell your fella all about it and want to be sure of what you are telling him.
This hopefully will stop the bloke you shared bed with lying.
Then what ever you did or not do you must come clean and tell your fella, if he finds out from someone else and he will, you will not be in controle of what he hears and he will certainly be very hurt and finish with you.
You have to be strong and honest, it really is the only way.
When you have come clean you need to go to the bloke who is calling you names and put him right, tell him that you do not see him as a friend anymore due to the way he gossiped about you and did not care about your feelings or the feelings of your fella.
I cannot say for definate that nothing happened that night but if you were naked or partly clothed there is a small chance that something may have been attempted but it is slim.
If you find out that you did have sex then you need a pregnancy test and you need to go to the clinic to make sure you have not picked anything up, this has to be done before you sleep with your boyfriend again.
I am confident that all will be well and that nothing occured and your fella will appreciate your honesty and your relationship will be stronger for it.
No lectures from me about getting drunk and sleeping with men!!
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (1 April 2006):
You have to find out what happened at that party. A lot of things can happen when you're drunk. If he's being like that then something must have happened. Talk to the people who were at the party and who can remember what happened. Maybe they know what you did? If you find out that you did do something then you better tell your boyfriend that you are so truely sorry. Hope I've helped!!!!Kay xXx
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (1 April 2006):
 I think the first thing you need to do is find out what actually happened here. If you talk to your boyfriend first then you maybe causing unnesscerey hassel. I think its fair to say you would normally remember something like that but then again you did say you blacked out.
This other friend may well be referring to you sharing the bed and assuming something happened. Do you have any other friends you can talk to and gather intelligence about what happened from? If so I would suggest talking to them in confidence. Can you talk to the guy you shared a bed with?
When you have established for certain what has happened then you can deal with it from there. Hope that helps.
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