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writes:I am in mymid twenties living with a woman that i love dearly and her son of 4. we have been together for 2 years but i get the feeling that she is seeking a life that i can not provide. i am not sure if this is reaction to the idea of settling down since she is a free spirited woman or is this something that will never change, and if so what can i do. Reply to this Question
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reader, Horne +, writes (19 February 2009):
Ya know, a good part of any relationship is talking. When you don't talk, a good part of it will be making assumptions that may be wrong as often, if not more so, than they are right. You don't give much information on what the "life you can't provide" is. But the bottom line is this. Talk to her instead of talking to people like me. I can do what you seem to be doing, and start making assumptions, but all that does is fuel the doubt, the worry, the sense of frustration... when the real answers are sitting right in front of you. You should never be afraid to talk to someone you want to spend life with. There is no one else in life with whom you will communicate more. So why hold all these thoughts in your mind and ask other people? The answer to that question is that you might get an answer you don't like. Honestly though, wouldn't you rather have the answer than have the worry? And isn't that why you're here in the first place? To get answers?There are no real answers here. Just advice. No one can walk in your shoes... though if I could, I'd be walking in there with her and asking her the things I wanted and needed to know.Good luck.
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (19 February 2009):
 some people only need love, so love her to the best of your abilitys. thats the best you can do.
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