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writes:I've been living with my boyfriend for almost 4 months now and we've been together for about a year. I had always assumed that he watched porn, and I've never had any issues with it because I know most people do (myself included). Although I've known he watches porn and masterbates, we've never actually discussed it. Then the other night I was making a bad joke or something about porn, and he said "well you know I watch it right?" And I said yes and asked him if he does it while I'm home and he's said no only when he knows I'll be gone for awhile... SO, for some reason know I'm feeling very insecure about it - like he's watching it all the time. I watch it once a week if that, and I'm worried that he is watching it all the time and masterbating instead of having sex with me. Our sex life is very unstable because he is embarrassed with how quickly he cums most of the time. (This is something we've talked a lot about and are trying to work on)... Since we haven't really discussed porn or anything I know it would be awkward, but does anyone think a good solution would be to see if he wants us to watch it together? I've never watched porn with a guy so what do you even do? I'm thoroughly confused and don't like feeling this way.. any ideas??
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): I AM HAVING ALMOST THE EXACT SAME PROBLEM! My advice is NO! Don't watch porn with him.
I came across my man-panions collection one day when he was at work. So, when he came home I asked him to watch it with me.
6 month later...
he watches it and masterbates instead of having sex with me everyother day. His excuse is that he is too tired and doesn't want to do the work. It has made me extreamly insecure and doubtful of our relationship.
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reader, passionatelynumb +, writes (15 April 2009):
 I don't think watching porn together will help. You'll see him getting turned on by the girls on the screen and be even more insecure. I definitely don't think it has anything to do with him coming so quickly either. If he was watching a lot of it, he'd probably be lasting longer not the other way around.The best advice I can give you is to just ask him not to do it when you are in the house and leave it at that. Just work on putting it out of sight and out of mind.
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (15 April 2009):
 i dont think watching it together would help. I think its a little odd that you didnt have a problem with him watching porn befor but now that he admitted to it you do. Also him watching porn isnt whats makeing him cum so quickly, it would have the opposite effect because he wouldnt be as sensitive. If your afraid hes doing it all the time, then ask him how often he actually watches it. It might be more often then you but i bet its not everyday.
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