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anonymous
writes:Hi there. I recently split with my ex of 3 years 2 weeks ago. I am 27 she is 22. It was her decision but we had a long talk and decided it was for the best as we just seem to have "grown apart". However i was in fact devastated by this and spend days feeling pretty low to say the least. However since the break she has been texting me regularly, sometimes just general texts like "what you been up to". Other times texts like "Im missing you and still love you". I respond to these texts usually telling her the same thing, that i miss her etc. Now and then I will just ignore the texts to try and keep myself from building false hope. I asked her to stop texting me because its confusing and she wont text for a couple of days but then i will have a weak moment and text her to see how she is. Basically im just confused. She even suggested meeting for a drink "just to catch up". But then i couldnt make it as I was busy that night. But since then she hasnt suggested it again. One day she will text me saying all sorts about how she is missing me but then she wont text or call on other days which is just confusing, she not very consistent. Do you think she is confused and not too sure what she wants and just keeping me hanging on in case she realises shes made a mistake? Should i be cold and just ignore her texts? Or should i give it one more try and risk pushing her further away? Its only been two weeks but feels like alot longer!Moving on will be hard but so will be trying to get her back and then getting rejected.. that could knock me back to square one. Any ideas on what you think she is thinking or playing at? In your experience do you think she would start wanting me if i show little to no interest? Or should i still show her im here and care? Ideally id like her back :(Thanks guys
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (13 April 2009):
 you have 2 options, 1 try and get her back or 2 break off all communications with her. You need to talk to her and find out how she really feels, and what she really wants. If she still wants you then just try hard to have the relationship that you once had. but if she doesnt want you then you have to get some space so that you can move on. you will always have feelings for her if she is always there.
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reader, XxDefineMexX +, writes (13 April 2009):
 Shedule a 'date' where you can both talk and explain your feelins for her. Tell the truth is the most important thing i can say. If you lie about your feeling towards her its just going to confuse both of you more.
Tell her that it's her descion on if you want to get back together and that if she does not she needs to stop texting you and confusing you.
Hope i Helped=]
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