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writes:I once told my fience that most people would rather be in a bad relationship then be alone, she thought i was crazy. i said this because a good friend of mine is in a relationship where he is not apprieciated and gets talked down to alot. my fience wondered why he stays with her and i told that he isnt that bright, hes not that good looking, and hes always been a social out cast. this is his secound girlfriend and hes 19. and thats when i told her that most people would rather be in a bad relationship then be alone. we all just want someone to love and to love us so sometimes we stay with a person in hopes that they will come to love us in time and thats how people get hurt. some relationships work and some even go from being bad to working out, but the fact is that there are a lot people in relationships that are no good for them. i sometimes wonder if i am in a bad relationship but i wont leave because of fear of being alone.... but thats a story for another time. my mom always said that people show there best side for the first 6 mounths, which is long enough for most of us to fall in love with someone whos no good for us. its too bad that we cant tell if a relatiopnship will work out befor we put all this energy into it. i understand why people do it but its just a shame when someone you know especially a friend is getting hurt emotionaly or physically by there relationship. dont let this artical discurage you though, because i know there is someone out there for everyone.i encurage you all to go out and love someone with all your heart and i pray that they will love you in return. Reply to this Article
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reader, huneygyrl +, writes (5 July 2008):
 That's pretty deep.
I was once in a relationship where I was unhappy. But I guess I didn't want to be alone. The thing is...I love him. Till this day, I still love him but I know he's not right for us. He have given up his rights. I could see it in his eyes as well he wasn't happy. That's because he ruined his career in which, he could have retired the next year, cheated, we would get into arguments that wasn't relivant and the list goes on.
I finally left him when he cheated on my, again. Enough is enough. He put us through so much, physically and mentally.
Anyhow, moving on...I truly do understand people are in a horrible relationship and remain in a bad relationship to ignore the fact of being alone. I truly understand but who is it hurting?
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (5 July 2008):
jay12toes is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you to everyone, im glade you all liked it. its never easy to watch our freinds get hurt but it can be even harder to tell them that there in a hurtful relationship.
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reader, scorpion queen +, writes (29 June 2008):
It is so funny hearing this point of view from a guy because you sound just like how I would. Just because your friend may not be that great looking and has only had 2 girlfriends doesn't he have standards? He should not be treated like a piece of shit because of his self-esteem trust me I know I have been through it. I believe a good heart and a caring soul is better than looks but face it at our age noone cares about that. I too have been that sucker for good looks and all it did was out me in a abusive relashionship, took away everything I believed in and knocked me down. In the end it was 6 years before I woke up. Tell your friend to please smarten up and stand up for himself. trust me she'll either change for him or not but one thing for sure is he will be a better man in the end. Oh and by the way I like what your mom said about 6 months is enough time to fall inlove but then all hell can break loose. Tell her I said she is very wise. I am still looking for sturdy ground myself and it can be very hard. and i am sorry but abuse is abuse and I hate when people say it can get better because honestly it doesn't. You can't just learn how to appreciate your partner you do it from the beginning or it will never happen.
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (22 June 2008):
 I liked it jay it makes perfect sense hunny :) xxxxxxxx
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 June 2008):
 Hey jay, I enjoyed it too. Sometimes articles don't get read as much as the main board, so don't get discouraged. You sound like a guy who has a good head on his shoulders and a positive outlook on life and relationships. I hope that people do read this and realize what you're trying to say.
Get to know people really well before you commit fully, but don't be afraid to love! There is someone out there for you, if you are open to it and willing to try.
Don't stay in a bad relationship just because you think you won't do any better.
Wise words from a youngster. :) I get to say that because I'm older than you are!
Take care, and thanks for the article!
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (10 June 2008):
jay12toes is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni was hopeing more people were going to comment on my article befor i said my thanks, but your the only one to comment so far and its been a couple of days. so thank you for reading it LJ001. im glade to see that someone liked it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): I really enjoyed reading your article, gave me some things to think about. Thanks =]
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