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writes:I'm 15, and I dated my ex for almost 8 months.He would ignore me on and off for a few months. Sometimes we would go up to a week without even talking, and I'd cry and feel depressed over it. He was with his guy friends a lot more than he was ever with me. The only time he put his arm around me was when my friends told him to, and same with when we kissed, which was only once. But other times he could be the sweetest boyfriend. I told my friends I was thinking about breaking up with him, and he might have heard that from them, but I'm not sure. I also asked them if they think he'd care if I did, and most of them told me they don't think he's the type that would care about anything. Thursday night I was talking to my best friend on the phone, and I got so upset over him that I asked her to tell him it's over unless he does something about it.The next day he was in the cafeteria at breakfast and she went over to him to talk to him. I got scared and went to my locker cuz I didn't want him to see me. When the bell rang and my friend and I were walking to our first class, she told me that he does care a lot and was almost crying. She also told me that he said "I care, I just don't show it". She said he was going to talk to me later about it either during lunch or at the end of the day. We don't have the same lunch hour, so I didn't see him. At the end of the day, I saw him look at me, but he walked right past me and went straight to the buses! If he wanted to stop me from breaking up with him, wouldn't he have talked to me? Then when I saw my friend at the buses, she told me that he started yelling at her, pushing her, and slapping her! So since he made no effort to talk to me, I assumed it was over. He hasn't even called me. It's spring break right now also. Later that day, I got a voicemail from my friend saying there's a guy who wanted to meet me at the mall the next day (Saturday). I met them at the mall that day and me and that guy ended up going out. Unlike my ex, he hugged me, we held hands a lot more, he put his arm around me, and we kissed twice. But I'm worried if that's going to fast. This guy doesn't go to the same school as me, but he goes to the same youth group as my friend. Today I don't know why, but I'm really upset and missing my ex. I really like the new guy cuz he's funny, nice, and gives me attention, but I'm worried I got into a new relationship too fast. And I'm not sure if it's officially ended with my ex. I know I made a mistake and should've talked to him myself. What do I do if he calls me and actually doesn't want to break up? Or what if when we go back to school he talks to me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): no offense but this is really immature. Believe me when I tell you, your ex did not treat you right you might expect that he was telling the truth that he cares but does not show it, move on and if your ex likes you enough he will come back. When he comes back tell him what you want him to change. If he doesn't change stay with your boyfriend he treats you right. Trust me. I used to go through the same thing, don't lose someone good for someone bad it's the dummest thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): Well I think that if he made no effort to come to you, than there's nothing you can do about it. He doesn't care, than move on!
And one more suggestion, YOU should always be the one to announce the break-up because you can NEVER trust your friends when it comes to relationships.
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (3 April 2009):
 you have to take a break between relationships, otherwise you will be emotionally divided. you have to give yourself time to get your emotions together.
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