Should I worry? I can't stop thinking that my boyfriend still talks with his ex.
Q. I've never been to a long term relationship like the one i'm having right now. I was always insecure that the guys are cheaters and they will hurt me, so casual sex was pretty much what i was doing. When i men the guy i'm seeing right now i felt v...
A. 19 September 2011: I've been through this exact thing. My boyfriend was with his ex for 5 years. He's from the Czech Republic and he moved to Aberdeen (where he met me) in their first year of being together. I met him at my work over 2 years ago where I knew he had ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't want sex because of bad sex she had in the past
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been getting really intimate for just over 6 months. When we were talking I brought up sex and she said that she didn't want to. I totally respect her and wouldn't want her to do anything she didn't want to do. But it was ...
A. 9 April 2011: I do feel sorry for her but if you talk to her and tell her how much you love her she might come around to the idea. Tell her you love and respect her and want to show her that in this way. Let her know there is no pressure and that you deeply care ... (read in full...)
If he gives oral to me do I have to return the favor?
Q. My boyfriend and I have started getting more sexual, he has fingered me and I have given him a hand job, but he wants to go down on me, if I let him, does this mean I have to go down on him as well? I've never given oral before and I don't think I'm ...
A. 24 March 2011: I don't think you should be doing this at all to be honest, nevermind worrying about it! At your age you should be worrying about your GCSE's not whether or not you should be returning an oral sex favour. Stop what you're doing and grow up first.... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy sex at all
Q. me and my bf have been together for 3 years. We have a healthy sex life but the problem is i dont enjoy sex at all. i think it uncomftable and unpleasurable the only bit i like is the fact i get to hold my bf so close and were so cuddly afterwards. ...
A. 24 March 2011: Did you know that only 25% of women can orgasm through penetrative sex? What you're feeling in all those different positions is just his penis rubbing against the insides of your vaginal wall and you're not getting the sexual pleasure from it that ... (read in full...)
I want to show my sick ex that I care, but it's difficult because he has a girlfriend
Q. Hi everyone, hoping for some more excellent advice. I have an ex who isn't too good at the moment. He has major back problems and premature arthritis due to a bad car crash 5 years ago where he broke his back by crushing a lower vertebrae. He ha...
A. 24 March 2011: It's totally natural to feel that way and I don't blame you if she's so young and immature. Okay, scrap that idea then. Tell your ex that you really care about him and really want to be there for him as his current girlfriend can't. Tell him you ... (read in full...)
I want to show my sick ex that I care, but it's difficult because he has a girlfriend
Q. Hi everyone, hoping for some more excellent advice. I have an ex who isn't too good at the moment. He has major back problems and premature arthritis due to a bad car crash 5 years ago where he broke his back by crushing a lower vertebrae. He ha...
A. 23 March 2011: If his girlfriends working hours really are an issue have you considered speaking to her yourself? Ask her if she would be offended or upset if you took care of him when she couldn't? If she loves him she might be pleased that someone is taking care ... (read in full...)
If he's married how do I let him go?
Q. Need help. I have dated a guy for two years. Since i was 16 and he was 19. He always told me he loved me, that he wanted to marry me and he treated me well. We have been through a lot but i can honestly say i love him. A few months ago he went ...
A. 23 March 2011: I'm so sorry for you that you are in this situation. If this was an arranged marriage, which it sounds like then I don't think there is going to be much hope for you, especially if he has gone along with it. I know that families like that can put a ... (read in full...)
I want to show my sick ex that I care, but it's difficult because he has a girlfriend
Q. Hi everyone, hoping for some more excellent advice. I have an ex who isn't too good at the moment. He has major back problems and premature arthritis due to a bad car crash 5 years ago where he broke his back by crushing a lower vertebrae. He ha...
A. 23 March 2011: You should speak to him. You should tell him that you do care about him and want to help him as much as you can but you feel that this is something that his girlfriend should be doing for him. Tell him that if he ever needs you to take him to the ... (read in full...)
When choosing someone to marry, do you use your heart or your head?
Q. I really need help... I have been with my boyfriend for more than 5 years. We have gone through so much together. We really had our trials but in the end what got as through is the foundation of our relationship. He's really my best friend. My ...
A. 17 March 2011: To SillyB, my parents have been together for 25 years, married for 23 of them and they are more "in love" now than they were when they met. You can see it in the way they look at eachother and touch and other couples look up to them. They have had ... (read in full...)
How to stop vaginal noises?
Q. every time i have sex (ive only been with one partner) my vagina makes noise, how can i make it stop?...
A. 17 March 2011: Unfortunately this is just something you will have to deal with. We all go through it. Its just air getting inside your vagina going back out. Its completely normal and natural so dont worry about it. It is quite embarrassing but if you try and make ... (read in full...)
Partner's comments about sex with his ex make me feel insecure
Q. I have been with my partner for five years. When we first met he was not long split up with his girlfriend and although I thought he was over her he was still in love with her. After we first had sex he said that it was not as good with me as with ...
A. 14 March 2011: I think your partner was very harsh to say this and surely he must understand the damage that this has caused you. It's made you feel very low and self concious and not good enough. Well you are!
If you are trying to move on from this and you ... (read in full...)
Torn between two guys...what do I do??
Q. Hey, this is going to be verrrrrry long:/ soo about four weeks ago my boyfriend, E, of 1 year and 4 months broke up with me because we were fighting a lot. He wasnt really happy so we started fighting about our relationship. So we broke up. Then...
A. 14 March 2011: I say go with A. If you are constantly thinking of him then in your mind he is more important. Don't stay with someone who seems to change their mind like the wind, even if they are doing better now. He had the guts to break things off with you so ... (read in full...)
I treated her like crap and now I want her back!
Q. hey guys I know your first instincts are going to be to go against me so I'm asking that you think about the logic of what I'm about to say before you respond. Ok I was casually dating a woman for a little over a year and I'm not proud about it ...
A. 13 March 2011: This girl is the classic "one who got away". You only get so many chances with people and if you pissed all over yours then I'm sorry but it's your heartache to bear. She is nasty to you now because you've totally flipped her personality. You've ... (read in full...)
I don't want to compete for Max only to lose, and be an even bigger idiot than I feel now. Help!
Q. Alright well i'm 18 years old and at University, and I really like this guy, lets call him max. I kept getting all the vibes that he liked me back, and so i was flirty and chatty around him to try to encourage him asking me out. But then the other ...
A. 13 March 2011: If he is making it public knowledge that he is choosing between 2 of you then he doesn't seem right. Especially if you are a virgin. You should save it for someone who knows exactly what they want, and thats you!... (read in full...)
Do I ask my spanish guy if he has a girlfriend?
Q. Hi I need some advise about a spanish guy I met overseas. I stayed at a hotel and I flirted with the waiter. There was alot of eye contact between us and we smiled at each other. I have since returned from my holiday and I decided to add him...
A. 13 March 2011: The age is nothing to do with it. I am 21 and my partner is 29 and it works. If you are just having flirty fun then do you really need to ask him if he is in a relationship? If something that is said between you breaches his possible relationship ... (read in full...)
I want to be ME again!
Q. I am 24 yrs of age and have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 5 yrs. We have two lovely children at 4 and 1. For a long time now we have been very distant with each other, we're not affectionate or passionate in any way. Our sex life ...
A. 11 March 2011: Im sure she would be more hurt if she found out you had spent your life with her for the sake of the kids. You have two choices. You can stay with this woman and try even harder to make it work and tell her it hasnt been working for a while and that ... (read in full...)
Is there a chance that I could be pregnant??
Q. hey everyone, im hoping you can help me, well i have been on birth control for about 6 months because my boyfriend and i started having sex, however about a month ago we broke up and i stopped taking birth control to see if my period is regular ...
A. 11 March 2011: If there was one week break between when you stopped taking it and when you started taking it again then you are protected if you have alwas taken it regularly and on time up until that point. If not then the risk of you becoming pregnant is higher ... (read in full...)
Help for the first time?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for six months now and i feel ready for sex, we've tried before but it just hurts me alot, so i was wondering if theres any advice for first time? i heard taking paracetamol helps....
A. 10 March 2011: Taking paracetomol will not help you. The first time always hurts a lot but believe me when I say it gets better. Are you dry before you start because this could be an issue? If you are nervous you should use a lubricant to help it along. This way ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has this malicious female friend who is way too close to him, and he's told me to get used to her being around. What's that all about???
Q. my boyfriend of over 3 yrs has a friend who is a girl. I also have make friends but I am becoming slightly alarmed with the amount of defense he puts up for their friendship. I have expressed my uncomfort for a while now but I have got nowhere. T...
A. 10 March 2011: You shouldn't be expected to put up with this crap and if your boyfriend is completely ignoring your pleas and worries then I think it's time to move on. You can give him a ultimatum and tell him he either takes your feelings into account or your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 11 years older than I am! How do I tell my parents?
Q. how do i tell my friends and parents that my boyfriend is 11 years older than me. i really need to tell them. i cant keep it a secret for another year please help....
A. 7 March 2011: I am a little worried for you to be completely honest. Dating a man so much older than you would not be a big issue if you weren't so young. However, I may be completely wrong as you could be the most mature 16-17 on the planet. The fact that you ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that even if he did love her at some stage, that he could fall in love with me and get over her?
Q. I am finally dating a guy that I have known and had a crush on since I was 12. We still share the same friendship group and share two best friends, Miss.X and Mr.Y, to make a group of 4 us (plus everyone else we know)... It all started about...
A. 7 March 2011: I will be completely honest with you, you could be the rebound girl. But you could also be his ray of hope! How did he feel when Miss X broke up with him? Was he devastated?
I was in a relationship for 2 years that ended January 2010 when I was ... (read in full...)
Am I going to be ditched?
Q. Pls take the time to read my story. I am in a lot of pain. Pls help me. I am really upset. Please :'( I have loved her for 4 years. We started uni 4 years ago together. I am a Pakistani and she is too. I fell in love with her. She did not lo...
A. 7 March 2011: I don't think you should wait to be ditched. I think you should ditch her. She is not the only woman on the planet even though it seems that way because you love her. She has used you for the past 4 years because she knows how deeply you feel about ... (read in full...)
Would it scare him if I make a move again?
Q. I have joined a dating site about 2 months ago and have recently started emailing a guy on the site. I was the one that initiated contact and initially he responded very positively. We exchanged a couple of nice chatty emails and then he went...
A. 7 March 2011: I think you should just go for it! He wouldn't have joined the site if he wasn't interested in having contact with someone whether it be in person or just online. You have nothing to lose by asking. If he disagrees with meeting up then it will tell ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of my loose skin?
Q. i would like to know how to get rid of my loose skin, i have been trying for almost 3 years now and its still there, its putting me of, i cant even go swimming anymore and am not gaining weight either and am skinny and can see bones, so how can i ...
A. 7 March 2011: Have you thought of speaking to your GP about it? There are programs in the NHS that can help you get rid of this. Would you ever consider surgery? Surgery in this case is usually free.... (read in full...)
She called me small after sex...should I be worried?
Q. I have never had complaints/worries about my size or performance in the past, but lately I've been feeling very insecure with my new lady. Sex seems great from my perspective, but the last week she called me small after sex. This comment came a c...
A. 7 March 2011: I think what she said was very hurtful and very inconsiderate because once said it isn't something that you can take back. She owes you a big apology for that and should be trying her best to make it up to you to make you feel more secure.
Your ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of being naked.
Q. I want to feel beautiful and desirable? But I hate my body so desperately, I find it very hard to get into exercise and hard to give up the foods I want, even though I don't eat that much of them, and have cut down a lot as well. I don't drink or...
A. 7 March 2011: You cannot keep this up because you could push away someone who really cares for you and for whom this will not be an issue. Women come in all different shapes and sizes. This is what makes us so damn wonderful! Men love curvy women. It gives them ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of being naked.
Q. I want to feel beautiful and desirable? But I hate my body so desperately, I find it very hard to get into exercise and hard to give up the foods I want, even though I don't eat that much of them, and have cut down a lot as well. I don't drink or...
A. 7 March 2011: You cannot keep this up because you could push away someone who really cares for you and for whom this will not be an issue. Women come in all different shapes and sizes. This is what makes us so damn wonderful! Men love curvy women. It gives them ... (read in full...)
How should I end my affair?
Q. I am at a cross road with this affair I've been involved in for the last seven months. He's married to a woman who lives in another country. He's with her now until he returns home next week. He's a very well known in many religious circles. I love ...
A. 28 June 2009: He is pushing you to forward your divorce yet he has made no move to get a divorce himself? That's very selfish don't you think? Does he plan on getting a divorce because it doesn't sound like it from what you have written.
I do sympathi... (read in full...)
Will guys see me as a slut now?
Q. I was wondering if i was a slut. Its been on my mind for a while now. I am 15 and I am not in a relationship but lost my virginity recently. He wasn't my bf, but i really like him and don't regret it. Well anyway I did most things with him (bj, ...
A. 30 May 2008: I don't really see you as a slut but I could understand how some people would think you are. After all you are underage and you did have sex with someone you weren't in partnership with and didn't really know. People would perhaps call you a slut ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but doesn't really show it. Advice?
Q. Ok.. So I've known my "bf" for a long time. We used to date about 2 years ago, stopped talking. And now we started dating again. We have been dating for about 2 months now. He is nice and everything. But he has a problem. He doesn't call me much. ...
A. 30 May 2008: He's either one of those guys who doesn't really show his feelings or he's not as into you as he says he is. Maybe he's really busy and doesn't have the time to get back to all your messages as quickly as you would like. Remember, you are only ... (read in full...)
I want to be there for her, but I'm afraid she doesn't feel the same way about me!
Q. So there is this girl that i am completeley in love with. She is perfect in every aspect. I can talk to her forever and it would never be boring. We are really good friends and I have told her how i felt abou her. She had a boyfriend when i told ...
A. 6 March 2008: Just ask her outright. Ask her again if she remembers all that you had told her and ask her how she feels about that now that she is single. To be honest it doesn't look too hopeful as she hasn't mentioned anything about it since she broke up with ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever done what my co-worker did and not use a condom for first-time sex with someone?
Q. One of my co-workers was talking about her new boyfriend the other day amongst several of us women during our lunch break. We knew she usually didn't have sex right away when dating a new guy. She really likes the guy she has currently started ...
A. 6 March 2008: Well I can't really give too much advice here as I have only ever slept with one person and we were virgins when we met! However, I do think what she did was a little drastic, incredibly sensible but a little drastic. The guy she must have slept ... (read in full...)
Does he still hav feelings for his daughter's mother?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for a year now. We live together and spend as much time together as possible between work and school. I love him and I know he loves me, but I'm afraid that he can't fully love me because in my ...
A. 6 March 2008: Just make your feelings known! Tell him how you feel about his contact with his ex. Tell him how he changes around you when he's speaking to her and how awful it makes you feel. Let him know that you are the one he is in a relationship with. Ask him ... (read in full...)
Ways to make him ejaculate, except for oral and actual intercourse?
Q. I have a boyfriend, and we've been together not long, but we have done quite a lot. It's been great, but for some reason, I can't make him actually cum. It's really bothering me. I can get him hard and everything but I can't get him all the way, and ...
A. 11 January 2008: ever heard of a hand job? if you don't know how to ask him how he masturbates and then do the same.!... (read in full...)
Sex with underaged - why is this case exceptional regarding punishment?
Q. i have an 18 yr old mate who has just been to court for sex with a girl 13. now take in mind that he is 18. he says hes not on the sex offenders register has no sex offenders programme to go on and is allowed to carry on seeing this child. i al...
A. 11 January 2008: yes the 18 year old should be punished the same if not worse but thats the stupid law for you!... (read in full...)
Please give me advice on the handjob thing!!!
Q. hi, i am in a relationship with the best guy ever!i need some advise however he tells me that i am great at blowjobs, but i feel like i need help with the whole handjob thing. please give me advise????...
A. 18 December 2007: why aren't you just having sex? handjobs are for people who haven't started having sex fully or are for quickies. get over the handjob and climb aboard. then you can both have fun ;)... (read in full...)
I am feeling so unattractive! I was thinking of going out just to see if I would get hit on, to boost my self esteem.
Q. hi I shall be very short and sweet been with a guy for nearly 4 years. Since i was 16 basically He is the only guy I have had a serious relationship with and the only guy I have ever done anything sexual with beyond a quick kiss or french kissing (...
A. 18 December 2007: HOLD ON! This is not your fault and in no way should you be feeling the way you do. This is your boyfriend being an arsehole.
You need to pull the plug out of the back of his computer, sit him down and tell him exactly how you are feeling. I know... (read in full...)
I got this text from my ex and I am confused
Q. Ive got a dilemma (man! woman are funny creatures) ive been crazy about my ex for ages and finally mastered up the courage to tell her, she was shocked and said she's sleep on it. she then text me this morning want to know how i should approach...
A. 18 December 2007: I agree, I think you should just back off and leave her alone. There must have been a reason she's your EX. She was very kind here and said it as nicely as she could. You never know, in a few years if you have both grown up and learned to appreciate ... (read in full...)
He wants to stay together, but live apart. Should I let go, or settle for this?
Q. so confused, I still want to be with my boyfriend of 2 1/2yrs..eventhough, I know he has a bad anger problem. He's always there when I need him. He says that it's best we live apart but still stay together. I could never trust him being apart like ...
A. 18 December 2007: I don't think this guy should be with anyone right now. He should be sorting himself out. If he has cheated on you and has anger problems maybe you two should have a break totally from eachother and let him sort himself out. He has to re-earn your ... (read in full...)
How do I know if he just wants something casual or a real relationship?
Q. Ok so my question may not be all that serious or big, but I think if I dont make the right decision now, it may turn into a bigger problem later down the track... I have this friend who I am pretty sure likes me alot! And I am def attracted to him...
A. 18 December 2007: Well you can't judge him by your last boyfriend's standards can you? Just because he let you go after a week doesn't necessarily mean this guy will. Take a chance! If you don't take any risks in this life, what are you living for? If it doesn't work ... (read in full...)
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