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writes:Ive got a dilemma (man! woman are funny creatures)ive been crazy about my ex for ages and finally mastered up the courage to tell her, she was shocked and said she's sleep on it. she then text me this morning want to know how i should approach this text message?-----------------------------------------------'honestly i dont know what so other than your one of the most sweetest, most caring person that ive met, and it kills me inside knowing that i take your love for granted. as much as i want to be with you, knowing that i know deep down that i will never come across a person that has cared for me in the way that you have? something is telling me that i cant get with you cos im going to take advantage of your love, and ive hurt you enough, i dont wanna hurt you even more. you deserve so much better, and at this point in my life i need to know who i am and what i really want. and at this stage in my life i dont have the mental strength to so (you wouldnt understand). So as a friend if you care for me please respect my wishes and let me be.
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reader, Baffledd +, writes (30 January 2014):
Baffledd is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hello wonderful people.
It's been just over 6 years since this post was written and i want to thank you all for your input and advice at the time.
Looking back on this - i was young and blinded by my first experience of 'love' or lust, as i know it was now. It's human nature to want what you can't have and i couldn't have her that's why i was yearning for her.
I'm older and wiser and wanted to thank you all for your help then.
Best regards,
Baffled
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reader, AskEve +, writes (20 December 2007):
 You don't deserve the heartbreak and if you continue to think negatively then all you will bring to your life is negativity so come on... THINK POSITIVE!!! I am a great believer and ambassador for positive thinking and I'm proof that it works too. She is just the first person you've really fallen for, doesn't mean you won't fall for someone seriously again. When one door closes another one opens so close the door on this relationship once and for all and move on! You WILL find love again, I guarantee it!
Good luck on this, your new beginning...
Eve
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reader, Baffledd +, writes (19 December 2007):
Baffledd is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits been 7months since we were together and we had a little fall out which inturn lead to us not speaking for 7months. in that long period of time i was yearning for her. love does make us blind but its the first time ive experienced these feelings, so thats why im soo confused.
i probably deserved this heartbreak, i mean its just karma.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 December 2007):
 Do it, baffledd: it's for the best. It doesn't seem so now, but, it will. When you see clearly again, you will see to what great extent it's for the best.
You won't be bothering her, and you have a new beginning.
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reader, Baffledd +, writes (18 December 2007):
Baffledd is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni will keep that all in mind.thank you alli think i know what i have to do now.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (18 December 2007):
She is telling you "tactfully" that she doesn't want to be romantically involved with you any more. If you continue to contact her after this then you're only making a nuisance of yourself to her and she'll lose all respect for you. Text her back and say "Yes, I agree, we were never meant to be and I too have moved on. Good luck for the future." LEAVE IT AT THAT and get on with your life, that way you can hold your head up.
Eve
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (18 December 2007):
 Never contact her again and move forward with your life. Don't look back.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (18 December 2007):
I understand your feeling confused. Love makes us blind, or at the very least gives us blurred vision. But, she was very clear: she doesn't want you in her life. Accept it, and leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): How do you get so many words in a text message?
Keep well away and let her live her life. You are not being fair if you pester her after this.
take care
xx
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reader, girlwhoneedshelp +, writes (18 December 2007):
 I agree, I think you should just back off and leave her alone. There must have been a reason she's your EX. She was very kind here and said it as nicely as she could. You never know, in a few years if you have both grown up and learned to appreciate what you have maybe fate will throw you back together. Until then just cool off and move on. Maybe not onto somebody else but concentrate on your life at the minute.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (18 December 2007):
 Respect her wishes and back off she doesnt want you anymore in the romantic sense she just wants to be free and if you want her to be happy then leave her alone its harsh but she said it in the nicest way she could
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