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*uds123
writes:me and my bf have been together for 3 years. We have a healthy sex life but the problem is i dont enjoy sex at all. i think it uncomftable and unpleasurable the only bit i like is the fact i get to hold my bf so close and were so cuddly afterwards. does anyone know i could change this?? its gotten to the stage were i dont evn want to have sex i only want have foreplay because its the only pleasureble part. Can anyone help me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): Hey there dear, I was in the same boat until a few nights ago. Follow my advise step by step and you will enjoy it. I promise. I had never felt anything like this before, it made me so happy, I was moved to tears afterwards because after 8 years of not enjoying sex.. I had given up all hope.You and your partner must feel extremely comfortable with each other before starting this. Due to the fact your body WILL release an incredible amount of hormones which can cause your body to convulse while you orgasm and you will become very happy, you will either laugh uncontrollably or cry. Your partner must understand; THIS IS FOR YOU! When you finish he will have to stop to let you orgasm.-Buy a large bottle of Extra Virgin Oil. This oil can be used externally, internally and consumed safely.-Get him to massage it into your back first, moving over your whole body and finishing with your chest. This will relax your mind and body.-He needs to hit certain pressure points in your bum cheeks, upper inner thigh and above your pelvic bone. These pressure points will releave any tension around your vagina.-Then get him to finger you with his two centre fingers quite vigorously in a fluid motion rubbing over your g-spot. But he must stop before you climax! -Get him just to lay his hand over your clit. It will feel strange because your body is now starting to move in a cycle.-He should repeat fingering you and then resting until you feel you simply cannot stand it any further and you -need- to finish. -Then he can penetrate. This is made even better if you rub your clit at the same time.-Finally you will have the best orgasm ever and it will leave you wanting more. This worked for me and EVERY WOMAN I have told this to!I am on a mission to spread this information, so that no woman has to be without great sex! Best regards, D.
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reader, girlwhoneedshelp  +, writes (24 March 2011):
 Did you know that only 25% of women can orgasm through penetrative sex? What you're feeling in all those different positions is just his penis rubbing against the insides of your vaginal wall and you're not getting the sexual pleasure from it that some women get.
You say you enjoy the foreplay and that's what makes you orgasm. Well enjoy that! Tell him you'd love it if he went down on you. There are so many women that can't climax through penetrative sex but instead enjoy the foreplay and climax through oral sex. The penetrative sex for you should then be about being close to your boyfriend. It should feel pleasant, almost like a massage for your vagina. Just something nice but not orgasmic. It shouldn't feel unpleasant. If it does then perhaps you are moving too fast or too awkwardly.
Try to relax during sex and take it for what it is. It's time for you and your partner to show eachother how you feel. It's about closeness and pleasure, which doesn't have to be penetrative sex. Stop worrying about it because you will just end up in more of a tizzy!!
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reader, puds123 +, writes (23 March 2011):
puds123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno like he can make me orgasm with foreplay easily just not with intercourse. we talk about it all the time and we've so many different things, ways and position. Some i find more comftable than others but i just feel like its strange feeling and i always hurt afterwards not extremely badly or anything but at least a little bit. Also if we have sex and then try to have it again afterwards in like an hours time i find it way too sore down there to even left him enter me.
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reader, LustyLisa  +, writes (23 March 2011):
You need to do two things: (1) masterbate to learn what you like and what trigggers orgasm for you and (2) communicate with your partner about what you need for sex to be pleasurable, or at least comfortable, for you. It's not uncommon for women not to orgasm via sexual intercourse, does your BF bring you to orgasm manually or orally before intercourse?, if not he needs to know that you need it for intercourse to be enjoyable.
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reader, TamyKarcz  +, writes (23 March 2011):
 Well if there isn't any kind of sexual compatibility i hate to say it...but you better move on.
Or..... maybe you are the one who continuously thinks 'i won't enjoy it'... and well we all know what the power of auto-suggestion can do!
Or..... he does not know how to touch you.. how to excite you.
Therefor: talk things out... say that you feel uncomfortable, don't be afraid to speak your mind. If it doesn't change it means you're not really right for each other!
Good luck honey! ^_~
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