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female
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30-35,
*heLuckyOneTwoOne
writes:I am finally dating a guy that I have known and had a crush on since I was 12.We still share the same friendship group and share two best friends, Miss.X and Mr.Y, to make a group of 4 us (plus everyone else we know)...It all started about a month ago at my now boyfriends house. We were hanging out with friends, having a drink. One thing lead to another and I ended up in bed with him.. The next day I couldnt remember how it happened, but then it happened again, and just kept happening.Two weeks ago his dad was at his house and I was there. We were holding hands while talking to him, so he asked if we were boyfriend and girlfriend. We both said yes.I honestly have never felt this close to a boyfriend before. He is wonderful, the sex is amazing, we laugh all the time and like the same things. I know I am falling in love.The problem is that in October last year my boyfriend asked Miss.X out (who I have known since I was 13) when they were very drunk. She is very beautiful, size 8, blond, blue eyes. All the boys like her. I am a pretty confident girl and know i'm not ugly, but I am not your 'typical' beauty like her. I have just lost 30kgs and am still getting used to the idea of being size 12. She regretted it right away, they only kissed. Even then it was only a peck on the lips hello and goodbye. She broke it off with him after worrying about breaking up with him 2 weeks later. She said he was like a brother and couldnt feel that way towards him.He had a crush on her for a long time before they got together, but I have never asked him about it on account of my own crush on him. After we hooked up that first night, i was so excited about it. I was trying to ask Miss.X wether she thought he would go out with me when she told me that she thinks he loves her...Do you think that I am just a rebound? It doesnt feel like that, but I cant help think it. Is it possible that even if he did love her at some stage, that he could fall in love with me and get over her?
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reader, girlwhoneedshelp  +, writes (7 March 2011):
 I will be completely honest with you, you could be the rebound girl. But you could also be his ray of hope! How did he feel when Miss X broke up with him? Was he devastated?
I was in a relationship for 2 years that ended January 2010 when I was dumped. I was still madly in love with this person and even made the mistake of thinking he wanted me back a month later when we had sex. I was used and boy did it hurt. I spent the whole summer drinking and partying hard trying to forget and move on. It was tough. Then I met my current partner. I still had feelings for my ex but they were nothing like the new ones that were developing. Now I am madly in love and am more than sure I have found the man I am going to marry. Sure I still think of my ex (who I had had a crush on for years) but it's only a mere interest.
Your boyfriend may not have been as impressed with Miss X as you think. Maybe she wasn't what he expected. If you two are having so much fun and have such a healthy sex life then don't worry. If this is really getting you down you need to speak to your boyfriend and ask how he feels. Tell him how you feel about him and don't let this get worse because your self-confidence will take a real bashing if you do.
Hearts are funny things. You can think you're madly in love with one person one minute and then can't believe how you ever lived without the next.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2011): You should talk to him...he does seem to care about you...but if its worrying you so much, just ask him where the both of you stand.
Plus...now after being with you...how does he behave with her? Does he make you feel like he loves you? And how does he behave with the other girl? I mean; its easy to see when one is in love...i hope it all turns out to be good!
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