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writes:Me and my boyfriend split a week sgo.He has already hooked up with 2 girls, and says that their just his rebounds, to try to get over me.He's not in a relationship, just fooling around fun.I'm heartbroken about it.Do you think he will realise what he lost with me, or will continue to hook up with random chicks?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (7 February 2009):
He'll say anything when he is with you because he obviously doesn't care about what effect it will have on you.
He may have felt like he loved you at that moment but if he has no idea what he wants then he's just going to say what ever is in his head at the time.
He's pissing you about and that is why you HAVE to get strong and not let him.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHeres an update:The other day we were talking and he said he loved me and wants me back, because he can't get over me.Then today we spoke, and he told me that he has not only hooked up with 2 girls, he slept with them too!!He told me to get over it because he has moved on!How could he change what he feels after a few days!I feel like dying :(
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (2 February 2009):
I disagree with the first poster, as I have read your other question. He is having a great time by the sounds of it, and although you let him treat you like a doormat and he may miss wiping his feet all over you when other girls won't stand for his disrespect, that doesn't mean he'll want to get back with you and treat you well.
Move on. If he really loved you then he would have treated you better in the first place.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): Of course. =-) I'm more then pleased my mistakes can help someone else's relationship.I wish the best for both of you. =-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much,that completely makes sense.You have no idea how much your answer has helped me.Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): He already knows what he has lost. He just doesn't want to realize it quite yet. The girls are his way of not thinking about you. Being with someone is better then sulking around and thinking about what you have lost and might never get back. I know, I went through the same thing with a girl I lost almost 4 months ago.They aren't his rebounds because he isn't getting over you. He probably won't get over you. This is his way of compensating for losing you. His actions are his way of covering for his emotions, some emotions are better left unexpressed.You should definitely tell him how much it hurts you to see him doing what he is doing. It will help heal him a lot to know that you still care about him, despite of what happened between you too. He most likely thinks you don't care anymore, and to him that justifies for his actions.But, please trust me when I say that he knows what he has lost, and this his way of keeping you out of his mind.
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