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writes:I am 18 years old. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 years. We just had a baby in August. She is 6 months now. My boyfriend is super controlling. We were engaged last month but he took his ring back, he usually breaks up with every 2 weeks or so about things that seem stupid to me.They seem so real to him that it makes me feel crazy. Heres an example. The other night i was taking my friend Monica home and he called me and said,"where are you?" I said im taking Monica home. He said,"well where have you been?" I said "no where." And just before this he called my house and my mom told him i was going to target. I went to Target to get diapers. I was scared to tell him because i thought hed be mad. He somtiems gets mad at me when i go to places like Wal-mart, target, the mall with out him. Is this normal? He took my ring back and broke up with me. Just this past year he says if i get on myspace he will break up with me. Im not talking to anyone on myspace, he just says that myspace is for single people. Anys ways i lied to him about getting on myspace and changed my login code so he couldnt tell that i was on. Which was wronge of me to lie to him. I really love him and i want to be with him, but its so hard to be happy with him. It seems like things always get better but they also always get worse.He also thinks i dress slutty and thinks im a whore, even though hes the only guy i have ever been with.In some ways i am scared of him. he has never Physically hurt me but it seems to be getting there. He put his hands around my throat twice, hes shoved me before on numerous occasions.I almost would rather him hit me. I would rather be hurt physically than emotionally.I dont know maybe its just me...but i feel crazy.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (7 February 2009):
Jesus woman!! Are you actually living on the same planet as the rest of us???
In what world is it acceptable for a man to put his hands around your throat??!?!?!?!?!?!?
Or getting angry because you go and buy nappies for your CHILD?!
This is NOT anywhere CLOSE to the behaviour of a normal man. Get out and get out now.
I am married and have a myspace, I go where I want and with who I want. I have my own passwords and privacy.
My relationship is what is normal. Take the baby and go back to your parents or round to a friends house. Get out as soon as you can.
He is dangerous and HAS been violent because he scares you and shoves you. THAT is VIOLENT abuse.
Do not think I am exaggerating here. 2 women a week are killed by their partners in the UK. Please don't be another statistic.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (7 February 2009):
 I have two words for you....RUN SCREAMING!!!!You need to be treated with respect, and its obvious this young man sees you as property. They are the worst types, because just as you think things are getting better.....Go find someone who will accept you for who you are, and dont settle for less
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