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female
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41-50,
*iggalz
writes:i think i'm either glutton for punishment or clearly DUMB....i've known this guy since school...we are both 25...a year ago we found each other since graduating..and got back together..it was on and off..as he just ended his marriage and had a baby..he was in the service and getting custody of his son and leaving the army...he hurt me big time last night..he was very angry and bad temper at the time so things were worse then normal....a few weeks ago he wrote me an email..begging me to read it and it was important and to please forgive him for what he did..he said that he doesnt expect to hear back from me and he was sure i didnt want to talk to him...he said that he got his anger and temper checked out and is on medicine for it and it seems to be helping big time....he just wanted to beg for my forgiveness in what he did...i wrote back and we hung out the next night...we were inseperable since then...he was better then ever....calling me first thing in the morning...coming over to my house everynight with his son...he was so sweet and caring...he was awesome and i had an amazing few weeks...last weekend he wanted to make it special and romantic for me....he spent the night for the first time ever friday night...saturday he wanted me to pick the hotel to stay in..i did...then he wanted me to pick the place to eat..i did...the next day we checked out and said he had a great time...when we got back to my house he wanted to get on mapquest i didnt know for what...but he planned this 3 hour drive to another state...while there he decided to go to another...and then we went home...that was the last i saw of him..he went home that sunday night which is expected in all...he text me saying he missed me already and we chatted all night..monday we did too..nothing could see that was any warning of something wrong happening....monday after work he decided to stay home and relax i knew he would have a tiring day at work with the hurricane and he's in construction....late at night i get a text saying we should be friends before we get serious it would be better for us in the long run....then he ignored me until about wednesday saying there is just something that prevents him from being with me..he says we would be friends but i dunno if he's truely serious about it...i called him yesterday during work hours to see how he sounded towards me...i let it ring a few times then hung up....he immediately called me right back..i let it ring and called him back ten minutes later we made small talk he asked me what i've been up too that week and i asked him the same etc...then he had to go....why did he bother to beg for my forgiveness do and say all the things he did and said....tell me he meant every word of it..and whats the something preventing him from being with me...i kept asking him wednesday if any of it was true..he said yes it all was he meant everything every action and word he said..so if he did..how can he not want to be with me.how can this thing prevent it...???
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (7 February 2009):
The only person who can answer your questions is him.
Who knows what is happening in his head right now?
Why do you play games with him about calling and then hanging up and then not answering?
It could be that if he is a bit messed up at the moment and on pills and you are the kind woman who plays these little power games / mind games all the time then he knows it's not healthy for him to have to play them too.
Good Luck!! xx
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