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writes:i love my boyfriend so much..but i cnt stop bein clingy which is kinda annoying him. what can i do to myself to stop me doing tht?HELP SOS! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2008): Most definitely limit the number of texts or emails that you send and don't send more if you don't get a response. If you can and I know this is really hard, if he asks you out say you have already arranged something with a friend. Anything that doesn't make you look always available and shows that you can function well and happily on your own is good. Men begin to dislike desperate and needy girls. I am a bit like this and the only way to stop it is to stop ringing or texting and fill your time up with other things. Do something that puts you in a position where you can't text or focus on him. Working is great as it takes your mind off him, gardening or if the worse comes to the worse just sit and watch TV and forcibly stop yourself from bothering him. To begin with most men like the attention but after a while they feel like they are drowning. They all want their space and not to be checked up on. I played this game once with a new man I had met who i quite liked. From me normally instigating the calls i totally stopped. 2 days went by and he rang and I was cool but friendly but made no particular reference to doing anything with him and sort of got him off the phone quite quickly. He then started ringing all the time, much more than normal. I think you need to prove to your boyfriend that you are independent and can function just as well without him. So limit the texts, be busy on occasion when he asks you out and try to keep your friends or do other things which don't rely on him being part of it. It takes a long while and is really hard but it does appear that you then create the kind of woman a man is ideally looking for.
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reader, graciie; +, writes (14 September 2008):
my friend is like you,
she can be quite clingy,
just you need to snap out of it thats all,
just control it and all,
xo
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (13 September 2008):
 the best way to stop being clingly is try to stay busy and have a life outside of your relationship.
Join clubs, pick up other things that make you happy.
hang out with other friends.
Guys need their space so that it gives them time to miss you. If you are always there then they don't know what missing you feels like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): Dear Poster
I want to help you;
BUT
Can you give me some examples of what you are doing; be a little more specific and try and tell me why you are doing what you are doing; then I will try and give you advice from there.
Best wishes and lots of smiles.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (13 September 2008):
Give him space! Limit the number of texts you send to him every day, and get a life of your own.
Go out with your friends and let him go out with his.
Without you telling us what you do that is clingy, we can't tell you to stop it.
Good Luck!! xx
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