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writes:i used to be a daddys girl when i was younger and said id never be lyk my older sister who seemed to hate him so much. but now i understand hwo she felt.when i was 10 my dad hit me and hit me and hit me untill my mum pulled him off me.Recently ive made my decision that i dont want to speak to my dad anymore and dont want him to be a part of my lyf although that is hard because he comes though every weekend and stays.Everyone is askin em why i hate him so much and why all of a sudden and i cant explain it to anyone bacuse to know why they would have to feel how i feel and nobody does.i hate him so much.. he hasnt seen his grandaughter because she's back and shes aprouching 3.. my sister deserves better than a dad who wont see her daughter because shes black!he pulls everyone to shreds and is so selfish.i reali do wish he would die.. becuase i would feel a massive weight off my shoulders!the amount of emotianal pressure im feeling right now is unbeliveable.. i cry enarly all the time because of him!i just want some support or advise what to do.someone to just tell me they can understand!Please..x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): hey there :)
well, im 13 and am in year 9..
and i also have problems with myh dad.. my mums desabled and he used to get drunk every night and if she fell out her wheel chair he wud leave her there.
he also used to slap me.. nd is like 1 of the most biggest control freeks ever!!!!
i have to see him every weekend to infact im at his now!
and the way iv learnt to deal with it is to be yourself. if he upsets you. jst think. im bigger than this. try and get a good relationship with your mum if u dont already so u can talk boout it with her. because no1s gna no him better than her.. i always talk to my mum bout it and it shore helpes me! if u 1 have arguments just txt a friend or somthing. try and drift your mind off of it..
hope it helped
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): you need to talk to your mum about this, tell her how you feel and that you dont want him to come around anymore.
if you dont feel like you can tell people why you hate your dad when they ask, just tell them that you have your reasons but rather not talk about it.
although my dad never actually hit me i was threatened by him when i was only 8 so in a way i can understand how you feel.
i get on alright with him now but im lucky that i dont have to see him much as i live in england and he lives in germany.
if you ever want to talk just send me a message
good luck xx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (13 September 2008):
When people ask you why you don't like him tell them that he hit you.
Tell your mum that you don't want him to come over any more.
You are old enough now to refuse to have contact with him.
Don't let him get to you. Talk to your sister about it as she will understand, you could even go and stay with her on weekends and avoid your dad all together.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (13 September 2008):
 Have a talk with your mum - tell her about how uncomfortable and even scared your father makes you feel! Ask her to have him not come aorund anymore. Your dad does indeed sound like a selfish and horrible man.
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