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*inkhelly
writes:My boyfriend and I split up 7 months ago after 4 years because he didn't want to get married or have children, plus he moved out of my flat so we only saw each other at the weekends which didn't suit me. We have kept in touch and have met up with each others parents (as we were close) after a few months I told him that I wanted to get back with him as I truly loved him. He said that's not going to happen and that the love was gone. Sometimes I get very upset when he says things like that and feel so rejected and then we fight and I seem to get into a habit of calling and calling him. Anyway about 3 weeks ago, I decided for more own sanity I was going to cut off contact so I changed my mobile number and email and didn't contact him at all. He rang me on my landline yesterday saying he wanted us to meet up for dinner with my parents...I rang him back and said that they were busy, but when I heard his voice I realised I missed him so I started talking again about the same old stuff about how I want him back and calling him again and again. I know how I'm acting wrongly, but I'm trying to get over him and he did tell me to leave him alone so I did cut off contact. I don't know what to do, should I cut off contact completely and never see him again?
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (13 September 2008):
 Definitely cut off contact.
Stick by the "no contact" rule so that you can heal and move on with your life.
You still love him but he made it clear he will never feel the same way for you.
Break ups are hard and letting go is harder, but the more you hang on, the harder it is to move on.
You deserve someone who will love you the way you deserve to be treated.
He doesn't want you but he doesn't want anyone to have you too. You need to be strong and end all contact. he doesn't deserve to have your love or you in his life. Good luck
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (13 September 2008):
I think you need to. You obviously aren't at a stage where you cope with talking to him yet. Tell him not to ring you again.
You did well last time so just do the same thing. But try and go out more, work on meeting new people, make new friends. You never know you might meet someone new that makes your ex look like a silly school boy.
Good Luck!! xx
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