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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 7 months. We have taken it slow and respect each other sexually; we are still virgins as well but I am on birth control and we are working on sex (he's too be for me). When we fool around though, it always seems that I end up going down on him or going him a hand job. I don't mind pleasuring him at all but should I have to ask for him to pleasure me? I've shown him how to touch me (he asked) and I am always open to talking. Am I being selfish? I have been taking the pill the same time every day. Should we still use a condom if my boyfriend and I have sex? We would rather not but I don't want to get pregnant.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (15 September 2008):
 In my opinion, "Emilysanswers" is right that you should get your jollies as well, and he should take care of you orally first. It is and should be a two-way deal. The condoms are unnecessary during oral sex, in this situation, unless you have a problem tasting or swallowing semen. You should check out the search field at the top of each page on the word cunnilingus. Suggest that he read and study the writings you like.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (14 September 2008):
No you shouldn't have to ask but teenage boys are generally stupid because all the blood goes from their brain and into their pants.
Do your usual thing of kissing him, kissing down his tummy, getting ALMOST there and then roll off lie back and say "me first this time."
As for condoms, yes you are on the pill and doing it right, that is great... BUT, how much do you not want to be pregnant? If you are both virgins then yes disease is less of a worry (unless he got an unclean tattoo or had a blood transfusion or anything else like that ever) but it is never bad to be doubly safe.
Make him use condoms, get in the habit of using them, and then, when you do forget to take your pill, or get a temperature, or have sex and then get sick the next day (all of these things can stop the pill working) THEN you won't be at risk.
Better safe than sorry.
Good Luck!! xx
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