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writes:Okay, I'm not even really sure where to begin this. I guess more than anything I just need a place to vent and have a little feedback.My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years. I'm 21 and he's 27. We met online and lived 70 miles apart. After knowing and meeting up with each other for about 6 months I moved to live with him. Gave up a job that I loved and my friends and family behind. I lived with him in a strange area with nothing going for me (no job or friends) for a year and a half. Then the place he worked at started dropping staff and he had to find somewhere else to work, so we both agreed that we'd moved to where we are now (the area I'm originally from). He now has a great job and made new friends. He's only been living here for 7 months and he's already claiming that he's home sick and wants to move back. We spoke about it last night and I told him that I couldn't go through that again, but he's pretty much got his heart set on moving back with or without me. I don't know what to think! I kind of feel that he'd rather get shot of his home-sick feeling than give anything chance. Compared to what I had, he has everything going for him here, and he wants to throw it all away so that he can go and live back with his mum... Or is it me that's wrong and am I being selfish??Thanks x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (26 October 2008):
I commute 70 miles in the morning some times, and then 70 miles home again at night. He could stay where he is and then go back to see his mates any night they are going out, and go and stay with his family every weekend if he wanted.
70 miles is an hour and a half in the car on single carriageway roads in heavy traffic. Or 50 minutes on the motorway.
In this economic climate I think he should stick with the job he has and just drive back for visits more regularly.
If he's too weak to be more than 20 miles from his family and if prepared to risk losing you because of it, then I would question whether it is worth being with him.
Do you really want to live 5 mins from his mum for the rest of your life?
Good Luck!! xx
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