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female
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30-35,
*keez
writes:I'm having a huge problem right now about my relationship with my bf. We were together for almost 2 years but split up for 5 monthS. We got back together about a month and a half ago and things have been ok. Hes deffinetly more loving and carring in the relationship and shows it. He had huge problems doing so before and I got so upset with it. Now everything seems perfect to other people when they see us. But Im feeling really different about us now. Its not the same as before. I personally think its got worse.There are a number of reasons why I feel differently. When we broke up he had sex with another girl and she now goes to college with me and is in the same class. Its puttig a huge strain on me and he expects me to hve got over it. It would have been easier if I never saw the gir but I do and he wont understand. Secondly, sex is a complete no go. When we got back togetehr i told him to go for a test coz i dont trust he used the condom right. He got his results back yesterday and they were negative. Hes now exited we can do it. But I dont want to. The idea of having sex with him doesnt feel right. I always try to find excusses not to do it with him, but i cnt keep him waiting all the time. Thirdly we are going to Uni in september and i dont thnk were going to the same one. We now have a time limit together and its making me keep my feelings back for him. I cant just let go and feel what i end up feeling, coz i only get hurt and it will make it harder to break up. Throughout the last time we were ina reationship he never wanted to live with me and said he didnt think he ever woud, and now it doesnt even look like we will ever anyways. I hate that Uni is going to split us up and I dont want to do long distance.Ok well my question is (finally) We have 8 months to go. But im sad in the relationship and dont see the point in being together if we have no future. Im tired of being with him and having no talk about living together or anything. Im thinking about spitting up now.Good idea????
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (24 October 2008):
 If you are not happy and dont see future together I dont think its a good idea to waste your and his time. In university you will meet so many guys who potentially will be able to make you happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): I am in exactly the same position you are right now. Power to the women, eh?
Stay with him throughout the eight months and see where you stand at the end of it all. It takes two to be in a relationship and if he doesn't put in his half and you still don't feel "right" anymore, let go. You have any idea how many other guys there are in the world? This guy's probably your first love and to quote Sheryl Crow (even though I hate her), "The first cut is the deepest."
Do what's best for you!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (24 October 2008):
You don't like him as much, you are very hurt about him having sex with that girl and you do not want sex with him.
That is more than enough reason to split up with him now.
The whole uni and not living together thing doesn't even have to come into it.
Split up with him and then go to the best uni you can.
Good Luck!! xx
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