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writes:hi, I'm confused and have a question for someone. Me and this guy are both 15 and have been best friends since we started high school together last year. we had a lot in common and was very comfortable telling each other things. we learned that we both liked to masturbate and started doing it together. we liked it when we were some how touching and found ways to "accidently" touch while doing it. pretty soon we stopped pretending and would masturbate each other. we've been doing this for maybe six months now. a couple days ago i slept over his house. before going to bed we were masturbating and he started to kiss me. i told him "no". i could tell he was embarrassed and felt bad. now i feel even worse. he is avoiding me and not returning my calls. i really like him and wished i just let him kiss me if that's what he wanted to do. what can i do to get my friend back because i really miss him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): hi again, it's me. i just wanted to check back and say you two rock and thank you! i went over to his house yesterday afternoon and i was really nervous. i kept reminding myself of the advice you gave me. i told him i wasn't going to leave until i could come in and talk to him. no one else was home. i was soooo scared. i walked up and gave him a kiss. it probably wasn't even a very good one. i told him i was sorry, that i was confused and had a lot of unanswered questions about being bi or gay. that i didn't mean to come off the way i did. we had a long talk and are both glad that we still have each other. he asked if i wanted to sleep over that night. i said yeah and went home to get my stuff for school the next day and came back. that night, we threw my sleeping bag on the floor and messed it up like i slept in it. (the door gets locked to keep his sister out) the real story is that i slept in his bed. we didn't really do anything that night except hug and kiss a lot. for somebody who didn't have any experience kissing another guy, i got plenty that night. right before falling asleep, he told me that he loved me. this time i didn't freak out. i told him i loved him too. things are great, thanks again for taking the time to make me think it through!
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reader, Brae123  +, writes (26 October 2008):
I agree with emilysanswers get him alone and just kiss him. Then explain why you said no. Just say you where confused but now you know what you want.Good luck!! xx
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (26 October 2008):
Get him alone and kiss him.
He's feeling used because he thought you were getting into a relationship. But now he just feels like you were using him for a cheap sexual thrill.
If you care about him and want to be with him as you were then get him alone and just tell him why you said no. Why did you say no?
Decide now what you want from him. Are you just friends with benefits? Or do you have something more than that?
If you want to be friends and just have extras then you may have lost him since I think he wanted more. But if you do want to be with him then kiss him. Let him know you were just shocked of confused or what ever it was.
Good Luck!! xx
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