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16 July 2011: The following was forwarded to me by a member of my church. It is adapated from a book: "Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work" I believe its worth passing on: "Dr. John gottman can predict with 96% accuracy within the first three minu...
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26 November 2010: Often we get posts from men and women who are wondering whether to ask their boyfriend or girlfriend "where do we stand"? Based on my own observations, and having been in situations such as this in the past, I have come to think its generally ...
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Will my boyfriend's faith break us apart?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now and recently he is becoming religious and being distant. he is a muslim and recently started listening to a lecture (unknown) about their religion and i think it influences him a lot. he told me ...
A. 28 December 2009: unica hija, At this point, it would be better for your own peace of mind to just give him space. Don't send any more texts, emails or call him. Otherwise, you'll drive yourself mad thinking about how he's distancing himself. As for telling him ... (read in full...)
I lost my gf to a drunk driver 3 years ago..and it still haunts me! How do I cope?
Q. im having a bit of a problem here. About two years, gonna be three Jan 5th, my ex was murdered by a drunk driver. Last year wasn't as bad but this year I keep seeing her everywhere and each time it happens I feel like someone punched me in the ...
A. 28 December 2009: Here is an article about coping with a death due to violence.
The link is: www.beliefnet.com/love-family/2000/05/surviving-A-violent-Death.aspx
Hope it will be helpful. ... (read in full...)
I lost my gf to a drunk driver 3 years ago..and it still haunts me! How do I cope?
Q. im having a bit of a problem here. About two years, gonna be three Jan 5th, my ex was murdered by a drunk driver. Last year wasn't as bad but this year I keep seeing her everywhere and each time it happens I feel like someone punched me in the ...
A. 28 December 2009: I am so sorry to hear of the tragic death of your girlfriend. Its sad enough when someone we are close to dies, but for you her death due to the criminal negligence of a drunk driver hit that much harder.
I guess you were in close contact ... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend's faith break us apart?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now and recently he is becoming religious and being distant. he is a muslim and recently started listening to a lecture (unknown) about their religion and i think it influences him a lot. he told me ...
A. 26 December 2009: Well, it sounds as if he does love you, but while he has always been a Muslim, clearly he has undergone a deeper shift - or conversion - in his faith. You already recognize that you may lose him because of his devotion to God, and it does appear ... (read in full...)
I think she has problems that I can't fix
Q. Hi, I broke up with my girlfriend three days ago. Sorry that this is quite long, I just think detais are important. We were together for 3 and a half years, lived together for the last one and a half years. We are both 24. She has just finishe...
A. 26 December 2009: You have gone out of your way to give her both emotional and financial support. Very generous, but then she means a great deal to you.
I agree with fishdish that she may very well be mentally and emotionally worn out with her studies. We do te... (read in full...)
How long will he take to contact me?
Q. My ex boyfriend told me he was moving on a week and a half ago. I saw him 1 week ago when I told him that I realized why he wanted to move on. I also told him that I had been thinking alot about why things turned out the way they did and let him ...
A. 26 December 2009: Well, he is your ex-boyfriend.......sounds as if he was the one to end it.
With the holidays, he could be busy with family and friends. Why not give him another week or so, and if you have heard nothing after New Year's how would you feel abo... (read in full...)
The romance has gone! Does he love me any more?
Q. my partner makes me feel so worthless, i want things to change but no they are never going to but still cling on. we got together a year ago, there is 32 yrs between us (i'm 18 but that's not the problem). it was love at first sight and i know he ...
A. 26 December 2009: You know, he probably DOES care about you, and enjoyed the good times you had together. Yes, I can understand your disappointment about the anniversary - not so much that he didn't give you a small gift, such as flowers, but even more upsetting ... (read in full...)
How do I handle this without hurting him?
Q. Hello , I met a guy 2 month ago and i had a nice feeling for him , after 3 weeks of dating him i cooled down and i didnt want to see him again , i dont know why ? but i found out that he is not the right one and we are totally different and he is ...
A. 25 December 2009: You have tried telling him that he is no more to you than a friend - but unfortunately, even that may have had the opposite effect to what you intended: instead of discouraging him, he pursued you all the more. Desperate people sometimes clutch at ... (read in full...)
Is he just scared to show his feelings for me?
Q. I've been seeing someone casually, for about 5 months now, we met on an online dating agency, we agreed that we would carry on seeing each other for fun, as after a couple of dates he told me he was going travelling, which I was quite upset ab...
A. 25 December 2009: He seems to be interested mainly in seeing you to have sex. You say he's obsessed with it. Also, he travels a lot which means he has very little time to spend with you. One thought: is his travelling mainly on business or vacation?
It so... (read in full...)
Are we moving far too quickly?
Q. Iv"e met this guy and he needs to move but he needs someone to help him pay the other half of the rent. we have seen each other 2 weeks but,I also have to give a 30 day notice so I actually would'nt be able to move in until jan 31 is this to soon? ...
A. 24 December 2009: Yes! Moving in with him by the end of January - and you've only known him two weeks is WAY too soon! As is the physical part, given the very brief time.......
As far as him needing someone to pay half of his rent, well, that's HIS responsi... (read in full...)
Why isn't he staying for me?
Q. I love my boyfriend so much and i am so afraid to lose him. We have been together almost a year. But we are from different country. We are get on well but he is going back his country soon. I want him to stay with me and i wana spend my future with ...
A. 24 December 2009: You have told him how much he means to you, and I'm sure he does care for you. However, you have been together less than a year. That's not very long to know how well matched the two of you are for the long haul.
Being from different countrie... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my married teacher, I told him and he blew me off! What do I do?
Q. Hi every one, I really need help a very serious help. My story is different. I fell in love with a teacher in my college for a year.It's really diffcult to write what I've through ,but i will give it a try. At first, It started as a normal thin...
A. 23 December 2009: Once you realized he is married, you should have made up your mind to stop daydreaming and fantasizing about him right then and there. Anyone who is married or in a committed relationship is off limits!
You cannot possibly "love" someone you are ... (read in full...)
Should I get back in touch with my ex?
Q. Hello! I need advice as to whether I should get back in touch with my ex! Please let me know what you think... I dated this guy for only 4 months last year - we broke up about 15 months ago now. It was the first gay relationship for both of us –...
A. 22 December 2009: Unfortunately, the more you think about him, wonder if he's really happy, - and by the way, he either is, or is not, but in any case you have to regard it as no longer anything you can concern yourself with - and mull over what went wrong between ... (read in full...)
He didn't want to be with me because of distance, but now has a long distance girlfriend!!
Q. I started talking to this guy on the internet a few years ago and we've gotten really close, though we've not met in person. We've always flirted etc but lately we just got closer and shared how we really feel for each other. However, he said...
A. 22 December 2009: xtwinklex,
You've been in touch with him through what - email, text or phone calls - for several years without ever meeting in person.
The thing is, no matter how much you talk on the phone, you cannot really get to know another person. ... (read in full...)
He's been full on hot, now gone a bit cold, wtf? But tells me he wants to be with me...
Q. Ok - to cut a long story short - Dating guy, taking it slow as both recently-ish out of relationships. He's a nice guy who's been completely and totally f***ed over by his last 2 GF's. I'm a nice, normal girl. All is going well, both of...
A. 22 December 2009: You're taking it nice and slow? I'd hate to see what you would be like if you were rushing it!
Presumably you met his family at his invitation? How did it go? Do you have any idea what made him freak out?? Was it a comfortable meeting for you?... (read in full...)
I want a baby but he says we have no savings...
Q. Me and my husband got married only last year but we've been boyfriend and girlfriend for more than 6 years and decided to get married.Now i want to have a baby bcoz Iam in the right age right now his younger than me,i am very upset with him until ...
A. 22 December 2009: Well, the more desperate you are to have a baby, the more likely your husband is to back off, unfortunately. Did you and he talk about your thoughts and wishes about starting a family before you got married? Its important to find out where you ... (read in full...)
He wouldn't have sex with me this weekend. What's up with him?
Q. Hi, I don't know whats going on with my fiance lately. We have not had sex for a while and this past weekend I was trying to start something but nothing happend. Usually during the week we do not do anything because we get home very late. But ...
A. 22 December 2009: If he has been coming too early and is very upset about it, then that could be why he was avoiding you.
However, it's really anyone's guess as to the reason. Perhaps you should talk with him sometime when you're not trying to initiate sex but ... (read in full...)
B/f says I'm always negative and always nag!
Q. my boyfriend says I am negative and I always "nag". He gives me everything but no respect(calls me names). We always talk about making it better but it doesn't seem to work.It's just words.I feel like he's cheating and lien but there is no proof.I ...
A. 21 December 2009: Don't know how long you've been with this man, but obviously talking with him about improving your relationship has produced no good results.
As Askoldersister said, why indeed would you want to be with someone like him? Are you getting anything... (read in full...)
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