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writes:I love my boyfriend so much and i am so afraid to lose him. We have been together almost a year. But we are from different country. We are get on well but he is going back his country soon. I want him to stay with me and i wana spend my future with him. He is so nice to me but he said we are from different country, different culture ,everything meaning he will leave me one day. I try my best, i look after him,im faithful to him and I am so much in love with him . However he still havent changed his decision which make me so low and my patience is losing and i tend to be agressive lately. I am sure that if he want to stay in this country, he can. Moreover his country is 2 hour away from uk so he can do if he want to do. Pls suggest me what should i do to change his mind? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): This sounds like your problem not his. You say that you love him but it doesn't sound like he feels as strongly as you. Be good to each other but don't let your dreams with him live in your mind. Remember the future belongs to no one so live today and when the right person come into your life you will find love without the need to question his action.
Please don't fall into the trap and think there is somthing wrong with you, be patient and be happy time will tell.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (24 December 2009):
 You have told him how much he means to you, and I'm sure he does care for you. However, you have been together less than a year. That's not very long to know how well matched the two of you are for the long haul.
Being from different countries and cultures is not something to be taken lightly. Yes, it can work, but adapting to another, completely different way of life to what you are used to can be extremely difficult and stressful. He evidently is aware of this and is trying to be realistic about the future.
He has told you he intends to return to his homeland. He is being honest with you. This means there is nothing you can do to get him to change his mind, unfortunately.
The best thing you can do is to enjoy the time you have left with him. IF it should happen that after he goes home he invites you to go for a visit, then that might give you some idea as to how well you could settle in a new place.
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reader, Hannah101  +, writes (24 December 2009):
Well I'm going to ask a question do you know why he's goin back to his own country? Get back to me and Ill give you some advice :)
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