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writes:Hi every one, I really need help a very serious help. My story is different. I fell in love with a teacher in my college for a year.It's really diffcult to write what I've through ,but i will give it a try. At first, It started as a normal thing would happen with any one but day after day I felt like I'm addicted of thinking a bout him , Watching him, dreaming about him. I dreamed Laughing with him, talking with him and many many crazy thing. I spent all the days, talking to my self; waht he is doing right now? did he eat ? did he sleep? Is he happy?. I couldn't tell him or even try too beacuse it was the fisrt time that i feel crazy a bout some one. I was a fraid of every thing that could possible happen like being rejected. My love to him was a silent love. 2 weeks ago, I don't know how i said hi and we have a very short conversation. It meant a lot to me. Also, he sent me an E-mail said that he wish me good break and hope that I will be safe. I thought like the god opened the door to me, It was my chance. His Number was wirttin in his E-mail signature. So i took my chance and I called him. I was a brave girl and i did it, I texted him for a week and i called him and he was so nice to me. Then i said to myslef if i can't tell him face to face, i can send him a message and tell him how is feel about him. He told me that he is surprised and he is married, with a kids, and he is in love with his wife and he don't want me to call him anymore. Its all my fault. I hate my self so much. He has his own life and he is happy while I'm diying. I do want him ,I do love him more than any thing. I even don't care that he is not from my country. I don't care that he is older than me. I love him. I love his talk and his walk. I love the way that he smile and eat. I love the way that he is care and don't care. I love every thing a bout him the good things, and the bad things. I can't force him to love me and i can't ruined his life. I'm not selfish but i'm really lost, I don't know waht to do. I don't know how i can over it. I don't know any thing. I can't even think of loving any one else. I can't think of forgetting him. I was thinking of going to a doctor. I'm getting crazy, I'm still 22 and he is my first love. I dated some guys but i never loved them. He is different. Pleas any a dvice would be helpful for me !
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): I told my teacher a week ago that i love him. It's .. different now. He's married too. He's much older than me. I told him because i wanted to hear directly from him, that i got to move on. Now i'm fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): I know what that feels like and it really is all a fantasy. Put yourself in his wifes place how would you feel if another woman said those things to him while you were married to him. What you did was inappropriate and you are lucky he didnt turn you in. Get out of his class and move on. There will be other single men.
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reader, Danya +, writes (27 December 2009):
Danya is verified as being by the original poster of the question =( I know I know but I'm looking for How? I went to a psycologist,he was helpful and i think i'm in the right way. I need more time just time.
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reader, Danya +, writes (27 December 2009):
Danya is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAs you have said, Maybe !
I don't want to live with a maybe anymore,
=)
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reader, ScienceGirl123  +, writes (27 December 2009):
I know :( I am 16 and I also have a major crush on my married teacher (he has kids that are my age. creepy) But it's not just my fault, he kind of teases/flirts with me in class and that's what made me fall for him *sigh*. Now i come to realize he is nothing more than a charming, respectable teacher who is popular. And I'm just one who reminds him of his daughter.
So my suggestion for you is just to wait until your feeling dies out. Remember, your teacher is MARRIED. He loves his wife with all his heart and he does all the intimate things with HER, not you. He likes you as a student and if he does like you it's probably that he thinks you are CUTE, as in, naive, youthful, childish, in a kiddy way. But there is no way ever that he would leave his wife and family just for you. So it's a dead end. I'm sorry girl, but just forget about him for the best of both of you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2009): Life is full of surprises! Just think, if this were meant to be, maybe in the future you might be together. You never know.
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reader, Danya +, writes (25 December 2009):
Danya is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLadies And Jentelel men thank you very much for being helpful. Some feelings are hard to tell, I know its all my faul and like what he have said " If you was married you can't do any thing would hurt your husband ". He is right! and I sent to him the linke and he saw what i wrote here. I'm really sorry to jumped in his life !
But soon i will be out I just need help and time and free space to be in. I feel like I'm fighting with myself all the time. My hurt love him, and my mind relaize that he is not mine !
I wish if could kick away all this pain =(
Thank you people,
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): leave him alone and move on!!!
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (23 December 2009):
 Once you realized he is married, you should have made up your mind to stop daydreaming and fantasizing about him right then and there. Anyone who is married or in a committed relationship is off limits!
You cannot possibly "love" someone you are not dating and getting to know - the good and the bad. You are infatuated. Remember that infatuation is sort of like a fever: you will eventually get over it.
In the meantime, if you are finding it so hard to cope and to go on with your life, getting some professional counseling would probably be a good idea.
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reader, Danya +, writes (23 December 2009):
Danya is verified as being by the original poster of the questiona home wrecker ! No
crazy maybe but not a home wrecker.
Thank you
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reader, Danya +, writes (23 December 2009):
Danya is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, maybe you are right !
But i'm sure that i love him so much and i want him so bad, life is diffcult some times. =(
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): duhhh leave him alone hes taken and probably happy that way..dont be a home wrecker
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reader, Mintkiss +, writes (23 December 2009):
 The reality is: you can't have him. Love can seriously suck sometimes but.. what can we do? Your first love is always an important one (your situation).
The reason why he told you not to call him anymore was because he probably doesn't want to make things complicated. He wasn't trying to blow you off. He's happy with his wife and kids. The best way to get over him is no intended contact. I really can't see any other way to get over this.... I wish you luck.
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