Is two years long enough dating before popping the question? And how can I make it special for her?
Q. Dear Cupid, i have been dating a my girlfriend for over two years now and i feel we love each other very much. I want to ask her to marry me but i don't no if we have been going out long enough for me to ask?, if i do ask how can i make it romantic ...
A. 1 February 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: You are such a sweetheart. Yes, two years is quite enough time if you two love one another. I have searched for some quite "different" approaches for proposing. Some of them are a bit odd...but hey....she might just like ... (read in full...)
He wants to meet me but I told him such outrageous, huge lies about myself...how do I deal with this?
Q. hi, i've been speaking to a guy off the internet for almost 2 years, first we text for almost a year then we progressed to talking on the phone, over the past few weeks we've got really close and now this guy wants too meet me, which under normal ...
A. 29 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: My mom always use to tell us girls, "You can always remember the truth, but you can never remember a lie." I believe that. You can't. Not only are the lies with this guy on the internet, but the lies are within your family. ... (read in full...)
Giving my wayward cousin advice about her messed up life has got me thinking---am I a hypocrite? Any advice?
Q. Dear Cupid I have a cousin named Dee..she's 2 years older than me (28) and she has always bounced from place to place..but first let me give you some background.. :) She quit school 3 weeks before graduation and ran off to marry her BF, after r...
A. 28 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: I agree (again) with Malyce. Your mother gave you an alternative with responsibilty along with it. You are holding up your end. Why feel guilty? I applaud you for being there for your cousin and as I see it, you are ... (read in full...)
Do you think its weird for a 32 year old man to be going out with a 24 year old woman?
Q. Hi there...do you think its weird for a 32 year old man to be going out with a 24 year old woman?...
A. 28 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Weird? Nah, not one bit. Two consenting adults...very healthy. Go for it. ... (read in full...)
He wants me to wait until his problems are sorted out...do I wait or just move on?
Q. Hello, I am haveing some problems with my relationship I need someones advice...I am very much in love with someone right now we have been talken for almost a yr and we feel the same about each other except we both have a lot of stuff going on ...
A. 28 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Hi dear, before I give you my thoughts on your situation, I feel that there is much more to this story than you stated. Maybe you should tell us more about what are the problems going on in the family. It is a bit vague. ... (read in full...)
My gf has a medical condition and I am finding it tough to cope. What should I do?
Q. my girlfriend has got M.E. (Myalgic Encephalopathy) and Fibromyalgia. I love her to pieces but recently, things have started to go downhill. i respect that she needs her time and her space but im finding this all quite hard to cope with now. at the ...
A. 28 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh sweetheart, I feel for the both of you. Bless your heart for standing by her side. I believe that she is pushing you away because she doesn't want you to see her like this or maybe wants you to have a life without a ... (read in full...)
I give good advice, so why are my ratings bad?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I am feeling a bit down at the moment. Why? Because like you I am an agony aunt but unfortunately my ratings have been going down and it makes me feel well (excuse my French)…“sh***y.” I don’t think I give bad advice so I don’t ...
A. 27 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh sweetie, I know how you feel. I do not know how long you have been an Agony Aunt, but when I first started, I was horrified at my ratings. But, as time went by, I felt that the ratings did not matter. What mattered was ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has gained weight, but if I say something she'll hate me! How do I tell her?!
Q. My girlfriend is gaining weight and won’t do anything about it. I need help with my communication. How can I help her? I have a wonderful girlfriend whom I’ve been dating now for the past 13 months. Since the day we met she has slowly been gaining ...
A. 27 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Wow! Such an array of advise. I see points in every single one of them. This is not an easy topic. First of all, we all know, she's gaining weight. But, remember, SHE KNOWS that you have noticed, and grant you.....SHE ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't a guy call when you give him your number?
Q. This question has probably been asked so many times... but if you meet a guy at a party, and he spends the whole evening talking to you, seems really into you, gets your number and tells you hes going to call you... WHY DOESN'T HE?! It's been 3 ...
A. 24 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: I agree with Malyce 100%. It could be a number of things that is preventing him from calling you. All in all, I say, do not wait by the phone. Continue on with your endeavors and if he should call at a later date, you just ... (read in full...)
He with this other 'perfect' girl now---so how do I get over him?
Q. Hi recently my boyfriend dumped me for another girl who is just perfect.. I've tried getting him back but he doesn't care I even once told him how I feel.. That was a mistake.. Enough said. Anyway, I'm so sick of chasing him and even though I love ...
A. 19 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh Sweetheart, the last I checked, the only person who is PERFECT is able to walk on water. I have not seen anyone who is able to do this as of this date. The word CHASE does not fit you. You sound like you have a ... (read in full...)
How do I tactfully tell my girlfriend... "please don't dress like such a slut"
Q. This is driving me nuts! My girlfriend dresses like a complete slut! I like a girl dressing confidently and showing some skin but this is over the top. Even her own friends make comments! I find it totally unattractive and its making me doubt ...
A. 16 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Hi'ya Ben, thanks to much for posting back. Okay, you must remember that fashion changes as often as we change our minds. She was already dressing sexy to begin with. Apparently, that is one of the things that attracted ... (read in full...)
Nothing in my life is good and I need help fast!
Q. Im not happy with my life! i rarely see my dad because he was never interested in me and my sisters when i was a child and i dont like the person he is. All of my sisters have left home and i feel that my mum would be happier if i wasnt around, she ...
A. 15 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh sweetheart, you are here for a reason. We all are. What you are saying really scares me. I do not know how old you are, but they have so many people out there that would love to help you. Maybe you can turn to a ... (read in full...)
How do I tactfully tell my girlfriend... "please don't dress like such a slut"
Q. This is driving me nuts! My girlfriend dresses like a complete slut! I like a girl dressing confidently and showing some skin but this is over the top. Even her own friends make comments! I find it totally unattractive and its making me doubt ...
A. 15 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Hi sweetie. I have a question. How was she dressing when you met her? If she was dressing conservatively, then there might be an issue as to why she is changing her fashion. If she dressed like this when you met her, in ... (read in full...)
Mom Caught me with sisters hubby!
Q. my mom saw me with my sisters hubby this happened by surprising me 4 brunch. she saw me with a mouthful. she said she wouldn't tell but expects he and i to do the right thing. he wants 2 tell her but we only did it once and only head. so?...
A. 15 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh my my my...this brings a whole new meaning to keeping it in the family. Honey, you did a most deceitful thing to your sibling. From what I can see, you all live together. This in itself will be a daily beating of the ... (read in full...)
If he finds out I cheated with my ex, it will destroy him and out future. What do I do?
Q. Hi, Right what it is, ive been with my bf for 2years and i love him more than anything and yes we are only young but we plan to b forever, and we talk about having children. Bt about 3month ago, i cheated with my Ex, of 3 years, and until then, i ...
A. 14 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: I always try to live by this basic rule: Do not do to someone what you would not want done to you. It is a bit elementary, but you would keep everyone's well-being at heart. Because basically, you are protecting yourself ... (read in full...)
Why should you feel bad for snooping and finding out someone is cheating on you?
Q. Just a question about snooping. If you go through your partner's phone/email etc. and it turns out they're cheating on you, why in the world should you feel bad about the snooping? If you never snooped, you'd never have found out. Which is worse? ...
A. 14 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: I am so glad that you asked this question Maxsteel86. I have very strong feelings regarding this matter. If you are in a relationship, which is suppose to be based on trust, you should have nothing to hide. Therefore, ... (read in full...)
Do all women want a 'bad boy?"
Q. A question for the ladies. Is there actually some sort of infatuation (hope i spelled that right) with "The Bad Boy"? I am 28, and I feel I am a pretty decent guy. Although almost every relationship I've had the woman seems to get bored or find so...
A. 14 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh sweetheart, let me explain something to you.....
You can try to figure out the minds of women till the day that you die, but you will NEVER figure us out! Unfortunately. Challenge is the key word here. If a guy is too ... (read in full...)
After she told me she "can't even remember" the number of guys she's been with, I'm having doubts about us. Help!
Q. Hi everyone, Im 20 years old, and from calafornia,i have been going out with my girlfriend jane(20) for about a month, we were good friends (that slept together) before we decided to be a couple. I love spending time with her, we can talk about...
A. 13 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh my Lord. Honey, you have more to think about than your girlfriend who has a lot of experience with differnt partners sexually. You have to look at WHY? She tends to be more loose when she drinks, therefore, at this young ... (read in full...)
Should I beleive him that nothing is going on between them or is this really an affair?
Q. Is He Cheating?? Sorry its long- I have been married for almost 2 years in May. My husband and I have been together for nearly 6 years but have known each other since childhood. A few months ago he got a phone call from a woman late at nite. ...
A. 13 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Where the heck is my shoe??? My dear, it looks as if you refuse to see the obvious. I had a girlfriend who was in this position and even when she walked in the pub and saw the other woman sitting on her husband's lap, she ... (read in full...)
A past 'kissing' indiscretion" is threatening my good relationship with the girl I love! What should I do?
Q. Hi! I am a bit confused as what to do.. I have been with my girlfriend about 1 1/2 years and it's been the best time of my life! About 6 months ago a "friend" of hers kissed me. (not a close friend as you can imagine) Anyway, after she kisse...
A. 13 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh my dear. I really feel that you should really look at what happened. You keep saying that SHE kissed you. Well, there was a second kiss. Apparently, you liked a bit of the first one, therefore, there was a second. And ... (read in full...)
Was I out of line to tell my fiance that things between us aren't the same as they used to be? Any advice?
Q. Was I completely out of line to tell my fiance that things between us aren't the same as they used to be...for example, we don't cuddle as much. I didn't say it in an angry tone, and didn't want to start an argument. I was just noticing it, not like ...
A. 13 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: I agree with LoveOnlyOnce. It seems as if this relationship needs a bit more courting instead of an engagement. I am only saying this because of the problem you are now having. Getting to know someone takes time. You have ... (read in full...)
Broke my porno habit... but should I tell my fiancee about my secret past?
Q. In regards to pornography and masturbation, my question is opposite of most others on this sight: I began this habit at the age of 13 and did not feel there was any problem with it. My opinion began to change at the age of 18 due to religious bel...
A. 13 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Hi there. Your past should remain as such....in your past. Your fiance' has no clue about what your past prefereces WAS. Why throw in a kink? In my opinion, that was who you were, not who you are now. If you felt ... (read in full...)
I like to please myself because I don't have a boyfriend. Am I normal?
Q. dear cupid i dont have a boyfriend so i like 2 masterbate. Am i normal? I feel weird afterwards but it makes me feel better about myself. wat shud i do? shud i stop masterbating? please help me xoxoxo...
A. 11 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh my young friend, you are practicing the safest sex around dear. You are very NORMAL. I say if it feels good...DO IT! Git R DONE!! DO IT!... (read in full...)
I'm more lonely in this, my second marriage than I was in my first!
Q. Im fealing really lonely in my marriage. We have been together for 6yrs and married for 3 yet he never wonts to do anything with me or my 2 children all hes intrested in is computors and says this his is job. i dont see it that way as he will work ...
A. 11 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh dear. Seems like maybe there is a pattern here. The word LONELY keeps coming up. Could it possibly be that you are the type of person that requires companionship more so than not? If so, please don't blame your husband ... (read in full...)
He hates my kids so will our relationship work?
Q. my parner keeps threatening to leave when we argue about my kids. we also have a baby, i only have one son living with us. my partner says he is honest with me and is trying to make our life better and because my 3 sons have all been in trouble with ...
A. 10 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh darlin, first of all, my heart goes out to you big time. I can feel your despair. This is a difficult situation not only for you and your boys, but also your mate. I take it that your boys are grown and on their own ... (read in full...)
Could I be Bi?
Q. Ok..This is going to be confusing, but I'll try my best to keep it all short for you guys..:) and girls, of course. Ok..I'm in a relationship with a guy, we've been together for almost 6 years. Recently we were watching a movie about a woman wh...
A. 9 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Honey, I know the movie you are talking about. Does it star Hillary Swank? If so, she made a beautiful young man. I know it sounds strange, but her role in the movie was based on a true story, sadly it ended in tragedy. ... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a man at my son's school. Should I approach him? If so, how?
Q. There is a man at my son's school who I have become very attracted to (yes I am a single mum). I know this guy is single unfortunately due to losing his wife to cancer. I would like to pluck up the courage to speak to him and get to know him but ...
A. 9 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: I am hoping that you frequet your son's school. If this is the case, there is nothing more warm, friendlier and INVITING than a beautiful good ole fashioned "smile". Yes, a smile does wonders! It means, yes, I have noticed ... (read in full...)
I love my ex but he keeps making jokes about us ..reconciling andf it's hurtful. What's his game?
Q. I want to get back with my ex but he said he wanted to be single for the moment but why does he go all gooey eyed on me, when Im talking he smiles and grins at me (half time is in a world of his own), contacting me all the time, playing footsie with ...
A. 7 January 2007: Honey, why are you still playing footsie with your ex? Maybe I am missing something here, but, once burned shame on him, twice burned, shame on you. I say keep the gifts and you put a smile back on your face and move on. Apparently, he is playing ... (read in full...)
How do I fall out of unrequited love?
Q. How do I fall out of (unrequited) love? In October I met a girl on the internet. Something I have never done before. We got on really well and within a couple of weeks we were talking all the time. I mean almost every moment that we were availabl...
A. 7 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh dear. This one is a bit tricky due to the fact that the internet is almost like the infamous box of chocolates....ya never know what you're gonna get..sort of thing. I know that your heart is hurting my friend, but look ... (read in full...)
My mum told me that if I didn't settle down with someone now-I never will. Im only 23! Any thoughts?
Q. My mum told me this morning that if I didn't settle down with someone now then I never will. Im 23, single and at the moment Im happy just focusing on my job. I have lots of friends who I go out with every week and have a really good time but I ...
A. 7 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh sweetie, your mum probably is fretting due to the fact that you are going out every weekend and she is worried. Like most mothers do. In this case, she has set upon your worried young mind that you are doing something ... (read in full...)
Getting really frustrated in my sex life with my partner. I need help and advice!
Q. I'm getting really frustrated in my sex life at the moment. Me and my partner have a good sex life but lately, I'm getting bored. We make love and, although he tries to make it about me too (we have toys and he gives me oral etc), I never come ...
A. 7 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: No sweetie, you are not asking for a lot, in fact, you are not asking for much at all. You said that he is a giving lover. I am not so sure that I see this if he calls it quits after he has his orgasm. Please stop feeling ... (read in full...)
Married man dilemma! I am hooked! What should I do now?
Q. Hi, I am in a dilemma - divorced 5 years ago, several opportunities for relationships along the way and always declined. A co-worker that I have known and talked to daily for the past 3 years - and purely work conversations - for never an instance...
A. 7 January 2007: HERE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Hi dear. You seem to be in quite a pickle. Sometimes we feel that all the good guys are taken. Well they are not. There are still some good single ones out there. We are just not venturing out of our comfort zone to meet ... (read in full...)
Once i'm triggered, i'm really aggressive! How do I stop doing this?
Q. Hi there, i have just failed in another relationship after 6 months, my problem is i become very jealous, insecure, etc when my partner and i are in a social environment, i try to drink before hand to help me relax, but then once something triggers ...
A. 7 January 2007: HERE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Hi there. Well, at least you can say that there is a problem. I agree with the board. Alcohol tends to make you 10 foot tall and bulletproof. I suggest that in your next relationship, refrain from alcohol in public places. ... (read in full...)
I hate being compared to his ex! What should I do?
Q. dear cupid, i always ask about my boyfriend's ex, but he can't even tell anything about what they've gone through and they were together for 1 yr. and 3 months. did he even love her? all he says is that she's really pretty she looks like this one...
A. 7 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: I believe you are acting this way due to the fact that you do not have the 411 on their past relationship. The good part about this is, you have great self-esteem. You don't need anyone to tell you that you are beautiful ... (read in full...)
She lies all the time-I cannot live with someone I can't trust. Any advice?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a woman for 6 years. We have only been married for 1 year. I am helping raise her son who is 16 years old. We are doing an awesome job with him because we are open with him about everything in life. He is ...
A. 7 January 2007: HERE ARE MY THOUGHTS: First of all you sound like a good man, and that always counts as something. You are putting your stepson's feelings before your own...that shows you have a good heart in my opinion. I do have to say that there is something ... (read in full...)
I want revenge on my ex gf and best friend. Advice please before I do something dumb?
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me with my best-friend 3 days after she told me she was pregnant. Now they are living together. I want revenge, but i'm not going to jail. I don't know how to deal with it without getting my own back somehow. Please advise ...
A. 7 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh darlin, the best way you can seek revenge is to live your life without them. Be happy, live, love and laugh. Do you honestly believe that these two will work out? Hummm...I don't think so. He already knows that she ... (read in full...)
I've only just lost my virginity but he says I'm too loose and he can't feel anything!
Q. ok girls, I need some advice on a delicate subject ... Me and my bf started sleeping together a few weeks ago - first time for both of us. the problem is that i'm worried about whether there might be something wrong with me, and since he's my fi...
A. 6 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh dear, stop worrying. There is obsolutely nothing wrong with you. If you feel the sensation of him penetrating you, and it hurts a bit, then how can it be loose? Hummm....maybe his own grip is a bit tighter when he ... (read in full...)
Im only 13 and watching porn sites. Is this normal?
Q. I need some help. I've been looking at porn sites, but i'm only 13. i do it almost everyday, but a few weeks ago i stopped. Just last week i' starting to view them again. is this normal?...
A. 6 January 2007: First of all, you are entirely too young to watch these "paid" ACTORS perform these certain acts. This is not what love and sex are about. It is very natural to be curious. But, don't go to these sites sweetie. The damage might be long-term. ... (read in full...)
I know it makes you blind, but is this another side effect?
Q. Is it true that when you masturbate it kills thousnads of brain cells?...
A. 6 January 2007: I feel that masturbation is the best safe sex to have now days. Nah, you will not go blind. ... (read in full...)
Should I still remain in a marriage that I am in, just for the satisfaction of my family?
Q. I have been married for 18 years and we have 3 teenagers. I have only been "content" in my marriage, not really happy. I have been friends with a another man for about 7 years. He was in a bad marriage and is now going through a divorce. Seven ...
A. 6 January 2007: THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Hi Andi. I might get hammered on this one. But, what the hey. I cannot help but feel sad for your husband and children. I feel he (at least, depending on the ages of your children) deserves to know the biggest reason in ... (read in full...)
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