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writes: my mom saw me with my sisters hubby this happened by surprising me 4 brunch. she saw me with a mouthful. she said she wouldn't tell but expects he and i to do the right thing. he wants 2 tell her but we only did it once and only head. so? Reply to this Question
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (18 January 2007):
 only once and only head does not make it ok.
come clean
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reader, appygal81  +, writes (15 January 2007):
 I think that the mom is right, either you or the hubby needs to tell your sister. you two were involved in the act of betrayl so i think it would be bes if she heard it from you before she heard it from someone else. Your sister will feel horrible if she finds out from someon besides the culprits involved....yes this is a tough decision to make, but it needs to be done, if i were in your shoes (which god forbid i ever am)i would have to tell my sister, as my relationship with eitehr of my sisters is more important than a relationship with any man...i mean if he was that low to engage in oral with you, knowing whos trust was on the line, i dont think your ister should be with him to begin with...its one thing to cheat but its a whole new probelm when you chat with your wifes sister...(yes i believe giving oral is considered cheating, it can always lead to other things)
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reader, DeeDoc +, writes (15 January 2007):
 THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: Oh my my my...this brings a whole new meaning to keeping it in the family. Honey, you did a most deceitful thing to your sibling. From what I can see, you all live together. This in itself will be a daily beating of the mind. Someone is bound to breakdown and tell your sister, whether it be you, your brother-in-law, or your mother. In all cases, the outcome will be horrible on your sisters part. I feel that she will lose trust in all three of you, sad to say. But, you must bring out the truth. Because the truth will find its way out eventually. The sooner it comes out the better in order for hearts to heal. Time is of most importance. She must be told then she can be the judge on the next step. She has every right to make this decision. Whatever she decides to do, I feel should be respected. This is a horrible situation, one that could have been prevented if the outcome would have been thought of. My heart truly goes out to your sister. I hope that she will be able to get over this. As they say, time heals all wounds, but it does not mention forgiveness. Good luck.
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (14 January 2007):
 Its bound to come out. Tell her yourself and take the punishment instead of hoping against hope that everyone stays quiet
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reader, cd206 +, writes (14 January 2007):
 Although it was an awful thing to do it's done now and you can't change it. If your sister's husband wants to tell her then you can't stop him. All you can do is tell her together and stress that it was a total mistake. It will make things awful with your sister for a while and you'll have to try very hard to make it up to her but hopefully you'll get there eventually. Also you owe it to your mum not to say she knew, since she has been good to you by not saying anything and you don't want your sister to think that you wouldn't have told her if it wasn't for that! I wish you a lot of luck with this.
CD
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reader, Dagwood  +, writes (14 January 2007):
 Dear Anon,
Well this is a bi mistake and I see everyone else telling you the same thing! Too late to cry over spilt milk but maybe not too late to save your sisters marriage if it's worth saving.
You have to ask yourself; why did he do this with me? Why did I do it with him? Are they still in love? Do they have kids? Is their marriage worth saving and do they love each other?
If you think he's a habitual cheater and you're just one of many then you must ask him to leave sister! If it was a once off mistake and their marriage is worth saving then take this with you to the grave. Your and his remorse will be your punishment! If you tell you'll loose a sister and break up their marriage. Not an easy situation caused by our human weakness! Learn... good luck.
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reader, kenny +, writes (14 January 2007):
 What where you both thinking, did you not think it was abit close to home, i mean your blood sisters husband. What ever happens someone will tell your sister, whether it be you, your Mum or you Sisters Husband. I think it would probably be best coming from you.
The outcome could be your Sisters marriage in jeopardy, all for one bj, hope it was worth it!!!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (14 January 2007):
 Someone is going to tell your sister. For the love of God, I HOPE someone tells your sister. And it's going to be either your Mother, your sisters husband or YOU. What you did wasn't "only" head. You totally betrayed your sister. Your blood, your sister.
I should hope that you tell your sister. Or her husband does. Someone needs to... ABSOLUTELY. For shame.
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2007): SO WHAT if it was only once?!! and its STILL head! Your sister has a right to know! The least you could do is tell her. Because i bet you she will find out sooner or later and it will be A LOT WORSE from someone else!
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (14 January 2007):
 so ... how could you do that to youre sister. OMG you should tell her be honest with her atleast since u did something with her man, whats to say other woman havent aswell..least since you did it the only good thing you could do is tell her
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