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writes:Dear Cupid, i have been dating a my girlfriend for over two years now and i feel we love each other very much. I want to ask her to marry me but i don't no if we have been going out long enough for me to ask?, if i do ask how can i make it romantic and a night to remember? Reply to this Question
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reader, DeeDoc  +, writes (1 February 2007):
 THESE ARE MY THOUGHTS: You are such a sweetheart. Yes, two years is quite enough time if you two love one another. I have searched for some quite "different" approaches for proposing. Some of them are a bit odd...but hey....she might just like it! Good luck to you sweetie, I see a very bright future for you and your very lucky young lady. =o)
1. Freeze the ring in an ice cube and give her a drink.
2. Put the ring in a cupcake or brownie.
3. Wrap the ring in gold foil and place in a candy box.
4. Put ring on a string or ribbon and place around the neck of a stuffed animal. Give the animal as the present.
5. Wrap ring box. Place in larger box. Wrap that box. Place both boxes in a third box. Wrap that. Use as many boxes as you can find. Wrap each one.
6. Buy a balloon saying "will you marry me"? Tie the ring to the bottom of the balloon.
7. If it's Christmas time, take her to see Santa and have Santa give her the ring...on his lap!
8. Put ring into an Easter egg.
9. Have a waiter serve the ring on a beautiful silver tray.
10.If you can gain access to her while she's sleeping, put the ring on her finger while she's asleep.
I am sure in the fact, since you know her, you will find something that she adores and you can work with that.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (31 January 2007):
 Congratulations on your 2 years together and having a wonderful relationship. How long is long enough? Some people know it's right within a month of dating, other go out for years before they feel they are ready, again others never feel ready so I say just go for it.
Here is a link that will help you choose the right way to ask her to marry you. I hope it helps.
50 WAYS TO POP THE QUESTION
http://www.india-sms.com/teen/t5.asp
And again... let me be the first to congratulate you. :o)
Eve
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2007): Hello,You sound like a very thoughtful young man, it's a perfectly sound length of time to have dated before proposing. You seem old and mature enough to consider the next step towards marriage and family. Have you ever discussed marriage and children with her? Are the future plans you envision compatable with her ideas? If you think you are both on the same page - I think seize the moment and plan an evening, and I agree with everyone else that has replied on making sure you propose in private (please, not on a hockey or football scoreboard...). It doesn't have to be a big three-ring-circus (like the silliness on TV), just something or somewhere that is special to you both, maybe where you met or had a special date. A ring is a nice gesture, but if it is too expensive right now, give her a heirloom from Mom or a "promise" ring until you can afford one (any jeweller can help you with the approximate size/per income). One thing a girl does like is the going down on bended knee - she will appreciate the gesture. And if you have a relationship with her family - ask her father's permission - corny but old traditions have their sentimental value (If you don't know them well, I don't think I'd bother with this step - too nerve wracking - but ask him the very next time you see him before you break the news). Good Luck, it sounds like she's getting quite a catch, all the best for your futures! OXO
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2007): The timing sounds just right. You two love each other so go for it. Make it a special time to remember. Can you get engaged two years to the date you met? How about a weekend away. Somewhere different. Book a table, have a great meal, then go for a stroll, out in the moonlight and pop the question. Or if you live near the beach, how about a walk along the beach on a lovely moonlit night and ask her than.
I hope all goes well. Take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2007): 2 years together is pretty good going.If you love each other then you should know now after 2 years and if you feel its right go for it.Even though your asking for her hand in marriage it dosent mean you have to get married right away.At least asking for a engagement shows your commitment to the relationship.I would make it simple take her out for a nice meal bottle of wine etc.then when you are in private pop the question and say if you dont want to rush in to marriage then please regard this ring as a sign to my commitment to you then she wont feel so pressured she will respect this a lot more.Hope all goes well for you.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (31 January 2007):
 I have one question- does it feel right to propose? If it does then go for it! Every woman is different when it comes to proposals and what their dream one would be so I'll tell you something of mine in the hope that some of the other agony aunts will post theirs and give you some clues. First of all never do it in public. It makes me cringe when people propose in public and you can see that the proposee doesn't know what to say. If I were your girlfriend I'd love it if you took me out for an amazing night out and then when we got home you proposed. It might be a sweet (though cliched) idea to wait until Valentines Day or you might want to do it straight away. Either way keep it simple and it'll work out fabulously. Good luck.
CD
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