She's left me, and I'm not sure I believe her reasons why.
Q. She's left me, and I'm not sure I believe her reasons why. She told me it's because she was going away to study and didn't want to "drag out something she didn't think would work". We were together for a year, she was my first love, and it feels ...
A. 26 September 2007: hey, take a step bakc and be her friend. she told you it was the distance and you won't believe her-- was she that untrustworthy when you were dating? No, she was honest.
But now that you don't like what's she saying, she's not honest any more... (read in full...)
I've been with him 12 yrs and just found out he's had sex at a massage parlour. Is that what those places do?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 12 years he is the only person in my life, i love him loads. i found a text mesage on his phone and he told me it was a girl he had met at work and was just a friend this i didnt believe. after 2 days i just knew it ...
A. 25 September 2007: I understand you want to save a 12 year relationship, but this woman did not "suck" him in, he went to a whorehouse. Not a massage parlour. and no, legit massages don't include a happy ending and they absoluted don't include full sex.
why d... (read in full...)
I preformed oral on her but she never wanted to return the favour. Do you think thats fair?
Q. hi im a 39 year old man im very sexual, i used to eat out my ex girlfreind all the time and she enjoyed it. but every time i would ask her for a blojob she would get upset,do you think this is fair of her? were no longer going out....
A. 25 September 2007: did you ask her why? how long did you go out? if it was a short time, oral sex has a lot of risk factors and is not safe sex unless used with a rubber-- which let's face it, kinda defeats the purpose.
I don't think you did it all the time for... (read in full...)
I feel so bad for snooping on my boyfriend! Should I confess to him?
Q. I feel so bad about myself. I have been having lots of nightmares lately including a very vivid one of my boyfriend with another woman. Anyway, the other night after I had a couple of drinks I found myself looking under my boyfriend's bed. I ...
A. 25 September 2007: lack os sleep is a huge disorder that will cause behavior changes at one side effect and onset of disease as another. You should see a doctor about your nightmares.
Me, I'm more into honesty which my husband is totally against. Everyone snoops a... (read in full...)
He ejaculates in about 3 seconds when he is inside, though there are no problems when I masturbate him. Worried!
Q. My boyfriend has no problem getting hard and it takes a while for him ejaculate when i toss him off but as soon as we go to have sex and he is inside me he ejaculates in about 3 seconds it's affecting our relationship, i'm really worried please help...
A. 25 September 2007: if he's your age, consider it a compliment. Not all men last like porn.
1. Are you using a Condom, if not, you guys are really young to not be. each partner exposes the other partner to STDs (some don't have outbreaks or show up on bloodtes... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is on dating sites as single and looking. Is this the same as cheating?
Q. I'm really confused whether I should sacrifice my happy relationship of a year because my boyfriend constantly joins and hides his online (local) dating sites, sex personals etc. He claims he loves me and wants to be with me, but then why would h...
A. 25 September 2007: in the four years you known him, did he cheat on past girlfriends? has he actually cheated on you? do you think he has or are just worried he will? If he really is just curious and shy about who likes him, ask him to put the ad in the just fr... (read in full...)
Why is it that the really nice, good guys just arent that 'attractive'? How can I change being shallow so as not to care of this aspect?
Q. Why is it that the really nice, good guys just arent that 'attractive'? I hav a friend who is SOOOOOOOOO nice and caring and is sooo supportive of me. Hes been there for me all the time. From my last break up with a bad bf, to a car accident I ...
A. 25 September 2007: You aren't that shallow if pursueing this line of thought. You're mom, well, let's say she's not deep.
we're all sold on physical beauty, magazines, models, even our evolution relates certain body measurements & symetry to healthiness and heal... (read in full...)
I'm getting mixed signals. Does my ex want me back or not?
Q. HEy all, My ex broke up with me before the summer, we had been together for nearly 3 months, during that time we never had sex. I am still a virgin and am nervous about the issue and find it hard to get over expectations ,especially bein...
A. 25 September 2007: You only dated for 3 months and she cheated. she could have self-pleasured, she could have asked you to perform things with your hands that would be excepted to someone who waiting for the right person-- she broke up to have sex-- that's ... (read in full...)
How do I get things with my wife back the way that they used to be?
Q. hi people . well here it goes ive been married for 13 years now i married at 16 to the girl i love with all my heart. i dont really wana go into it to much right now it will take me all day.but i left my wife a couple of times this is because i fel...
A. 25 September 2007: She put up with so much sh** and you're whining on the internet. woo her man!
Let her know you screwed up and chase her like your 16. don't wait for praise or a response. Just keep wooing and saying it's her turn to feel unsure. Hell, you actu... (read in full...)
My credit report is poor.... how can I improve it?
Q. i got a copy of my credit report the other day and i was shocked to learn that my score is very poor. i know that i owe £35k on my mortgage, £9k on my car and £3k on my credit cards (my limit is £15k, given to me by the card companies....i never use ...
A. 25 September 2007: hey, if no forgotten bad credit from youth and no stolen idenity,
it sounds like (from an american stand point, I don't know foreign)
you have to much credit vs. you debt ratio. meaning, you only make 30lbs, but your debt is 2.5 times that (... (read in full...)
How can I better manage my credit and pay off my debt?
Q. i am having trouble keeping my checking account from going into the negative and i keep running out of money. How can i fix my problem? i also have really bad credit where i can't get a loan or anything because 3 yrs ago i filed for bankruptcy. how ...
A. 25 September 2007: why do you have debt if you went bankrupt?
you have new debt-- why should anyone lend you money, you went bankrupt and then got into massive debt 3 years later? a loan won't get you out of debt, it's DEBT.
You need to stop using you credit... (read in full...)
10 years have passed... should the debt be written off?
Q. i have been sent a letter from a debt collection agency, for payment of an outstanding debt from 1997 which i did not even know i had for £404, do i still have to pay them or do they have a time limit in which they must request the payment, 10 years ...
A. 25 September 2007: hey,
I'm an american and don't know anything about bailliffs or the difference between debt collection & bailiffs but
in america, once you make an arrangement, the clock restarts. so before you talk to them, find out if it ever gets writte... (read in full...)
How can I get these charges waived?
Q. I have missed a finance payment with a company called GE Capital, and I have been charged £15.00 admin fee and £30.00 for late payment. How can I get these charges waivered?...
A. 25 September 2007: 1. ask for a one time curtsy waiver for being a loyal customer. If they say no, ask to speak to a supervisor. The rep will insist the boss will tell you the same thing, but they are usually more helpful. If you have a lot of late fees, this won't ... (read in full...)
How would shared ownership work?
Q. My ex boyfriend is a couple of years older than me. He bought a house on his own. I always thought that i would move in with him one day. He split with me a month ago. I am now worried about my future. There is no way i can afford on my own. Is ...
A. 25 September 2007: are you talking about getting ownership of his property?
how long were you together, do you have proof of paying morgage, and then:
he bought it before you. Unless you can prove a significant time frame (maybe as much as ten years) and that you... (read in full...)
Worried that the home we live in isn't in our joint names!
Q. Hi My guy and I have been together just over 4 years we have a daughter whos nearly 3 I have 2 by my ex.My partner doesnt want to Marry he has 5 properties 4 rented out 1 we live in,I help pay some bills do 99% of the house work and childcare he ...
A. 25 September 2007: Just a thought, why not buy a home to rent out in just your name or jointly? Why should he be opposed to something you got together, if all the other places were bought by him before he met you.
If he's opposed, it doesn't mean you can't buy a pl... (read in full...)
Worried that the home we live in isn't in our joint names!
Q. Hi My guy and I have been together just over 4 years we have a daughter whos nearly 3 I have 2 by my ex.My partner doesnt want to Marry he has 5 properties 4 rented out 1 we live in,I help pay some bills do 99% of the house work and childcare he ...
A. 25 September 2007: I don't know UK, but I would start saving all recipts and try to get some sign document.
If he bought the house before you met, you're just paying rent. the one lucky thing you have is your daughter together-- you can get child support and use ... (read in full...)
How can I improve my credit score?
Q. I have a problem, when I was in college I used credit cards for everything. Then I fell behind and everything went downhill from there. I have been trying to get my credit score up I pay all my bills on time and I still see no change. Any ...
A. 25 September 2007: Pay off all debt & stopping using card. Keep them open, but stop using. they changed the way they used to keep score and report. they used to give you credit for charging a lot and then paying it off.
Now, a credit card company can report y... (read in full...)
I can't get over my ex-girlfriend
Q. My gf broke up with me 2 months ago. I still love her. I have been through this a thousand times. Why does this one hurt so bad. What do i do?...
A. 25 September 2007: Caused you loved her. did you give her cause to break-up, did she give reason, can't really advise without more info.
also, a thousand times is a lot. Maybe you shouldn't give your love away so easily. but, again, I don't how long you went out... (read in full...)
Can long term friends become lovers?
Q. Dear cupid, do you think long term friends can become lovers? ...
A. 25 September 2007: Absolutely, but you have to understand your relationship has changed. Jeolousy is a factor now and long-term friend sometimes don't take the time to be as curtious to each other as they would a new relationship.
They take the friendship for gran... (read in full...)
Is what my teacher is doing to me OK?
Q. Okay i just wanna know one simple thing - is this inappropriate for a teacher to say or do? Well i went to see him to see what i had got in my test that my clas had done and when i asked him how did i do he said ''ohh i'll mark it just now''. I...
A. 25 September 2007: hey,
also have you boyfriend/s make a complaint if you can. the one who no longer goes to the school should feel safe not to get any kind of retaliation.
If you know of any other girls who weere harassed, ask them to make a compaint with their p... (read in full...)
Is what my teacher is doing to me OK?
Q. Okay i just wanna know one simple thing - is this inappropriate for a teacher to say or do? Well i went to see him to see what i had got in my test that my clas had done and when i asked him how did i do he said ''ohh i'll mark it just now''. I...
A. 25 September 2007: No this behavior isn't right. Trust you instinct. Tell you parents and you all sit down with the Principle and tell him exactly what you told us. I tell you to get your parents becuase they become witnesses.
your principle might not believe ... (read in full...)
Abusive boyfriend, no support, but I'm scared to act
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 and a half years. Last night we had a big fall out because he thinks I've been sending him emails - when I haven't! And basically the argument was just that and picking at things till he finally said ...
A. 25 September 2007: My friend's kid just got pregnant on the pill and her mother gave it her herself-- some women are fertile during their periods. since you're scared of STD's, use rubber until you're married. I had a bunch of flings and have only been with ONE man ... (read in full...)
He went off with my cousin but says we might have a futue. Whats he doing?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for a year up until he broke up with me more than a month ago. Before we broke up we were very much in love and were even making plans to get married one day. However he gave me some silly excuse about his mother ...
A. 25 September 2007: what does his motive matter, why are you such a push-over?
it will be devasting to lose them both, but not as devasting as in two years when your husband is still screwing your cousin or your cousin has dumped the live of your LIVES for someone ... (read in full...)
I feel we're drifting apart and don't know how to fix things...
Q. I feel we are drifting apart... My boyfriend and I have been friends for 10 years and boyfriend/girlfriend for 7 months. We moved in together 2 months ago. Things were absolutely fine until an unfortunate series of events that began 4 weeks ag...
A. 25 September 2007: If he hadn't left you in a foreign country and spent all your rent money, I'd say that he was still treating you like a friend. You don't check in with friends or call them to tell them you'll be late.
Nut he's a jerk. He left you in a foreign ... (read in full...)
Her father was short-listing an eligible bachelor for my gf, from my reaction she may have understood I don't have faith in our relation so she is distanced now... what to do?
Q. I am a 29yr old male and have been separated from my wife for over 2 years, my marriage is currently going thro an annulment, which should take roughly a year to come thro. I was not really looking for love but three months ago I met a real ...
A. 25 September 2007: you're asian, be asian (I'm an american born & raised in thailand)--
don't contact her, contact her dad. admit to him all your mistakes and pain caused by fear. Promise to only see her thought aranged meeting by him. Show him you are the only one ... (read in full...)
My guy broke it off w/ me b/c his mate got upset. Now he's seeing someone who's a "safe bet." What should I do?
Q. I wonder if anyone can help me, it's a bit complicated. I was seeing a guy, we get on great, have great sex and we are still very fond of one another. The only thing is I went on a few dates with one of his very good friends before we got it...
A. 25 September 2007: tell him you love him if you do, but it sounds like your so "goodlooking" you might be wounded he went for the plain girl over you. ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and no longer attend my old school. Can I approach the teacher I had a crush on?
Q. ok so i'm an 18 year old girl and i have the hugest crush or whatever you'd call it thing for what used to be my 10th grade science teacher who's about 15 years older than me. I know it sounds so typical but it's not, i get so excited when i run ...
A. 25 September 2007: if he's not married, do it in a year. You've been obsessed and haven't given other men a shot.
also, sound like you just graduated, if he does go for it (but doubt he will) NO ONE will believe that he didn't initiate while you were still a studen... (read in full...)
My abusive wife and I are splitting - I want to tell my sister-in-law that I love her! What do I do?
Q. i have been with my wife for 12 years now married for 5years of that now . she has given me black eyes and more we dont have kids thank god. it been 4years now and iam still in deep love with her sister i have tryed to keep away but all that has ...
A. 25 September 2007: dude! Serious?
Her sister looks like your abuser but is more vulnerable because she has one and a half kids!
wehter you want revenge or the family you never had with your wife, you can't do this.
Besides the fact you need space, besides the ... (read in full...)
Me, my boyfriend and my brother - Is there something wrong or am I looking into this too much?
Q. I am having a problem with my boyfried we have been together for a year and a half he is dad to my son who is 4 and we have everything a relationship probably most desires. Stability. Any how lately he has neglected me emotionally. I feel like he ...
A. 25 September 2007: Yes, there's somethine wrong. First, you let a guy you're not married to be father to your son-- and if you break up, how many Daddys does this boy gotta lose!
2nd, he's not allowed to be RUDE. He can be tired, un-used to built-in family (... (read in full...)
He says sex feels like a routine, what can I do?
Q. last night my boyfriend asked if we can slow down on the sex .. we live together how do i just ignore my drive whilei am in bed beside him? he said it feel like routine ... ...
A. 25 September 2007: it's okay to take a break--it's not the end of your relationship.
if you feel after a pause he still doesn't want to then you have: a cheater, a depressed man (it cause no sex drive), a whore/madonna, someone with a different sex drive, or just ... (read in full...)
Does the colour of hair have an impact on a girl picking a guy for a boyfriend?
Q. does the colour of hair have an impact on a girl picking a guy for a boyfriend?. I have ginger hair and iv never had a gf. i know im not as confindent with girls as some of my friends are. ...
A. 25 September 2007: dye your hair, if you don't get a girlfriend
you have OTHER issues.
If you do get a girlfriend, show her a picture of you with your real hair, she'll probable ask you to let is grow back natural for some GINGER spice in the bedroom.... (read in full...)
Does he like me or is just using me?
Q. Hi i'm 13-14 years old and there is this guy i've like for 6 years and he always hugs me and stuff and even feels me and touches me etc sometime he kisses me anyways everytime he does that i like it but he then goes on about other girls who he ...
A. 25 September 2007: you need to tell him to set up boundaries: he's either friend with benifits (kissing and 3rd base at your age); friends only, or your boyfriend. If you can't handle being open, don't be friend with benefits.
He could be hinting that he want to ... (read in full...)
Tips on staying on top? I'm embarassed when me and my bf have sex, as I'm still not experienced despite of my relations with men.
Q. im really embarassed about this question! ive been with my boyfriend for a year and ive been with over 15 men but im still not experienced with sex! i feel really emabarassed when me and my bf have sex! ive never been on top and wouldnt have a clue ...
A. 25 September 2007: don't listen to the anonymous female who called you lazy, she's a cowardly pig who could leave an id.
First, lube. You may think you don't need, but everything works better with it. too much is better than too little.
Tell him, eitherwise,... (read in full...)
She's left me, and I'm not sure I believe her reasons why.
Q. She's left me, and I'm not sure I believe her reasons why. She told me it's because she was going away to study and didn't want to "drag out something she didn't think would work". We were together for a year, she was my first love, and it feels ...
A. 25 September 2007: My husband had many near misses before me, I was fling-girl and he is my first love. we di the impossible, the long distance relationship that never works out, 3 months after we met. He got a gig for 6 months and I alway believed in monogomous (if ... (read in full...)
In a gay relationship with a girl and attracted to her roommate. I don't know who to choose.
Q. Attracted to two people???? Where do I start? First of all, I'm bisexual and right now I am in a relationship with a female. I think she is a great girl and we have a lot in common. We both have admitted to one another that we're very compatible. ...
A. 25 September 2007: is this you're first "gay" relationship?
if so, that make you a virgin even if you've been with men. tell you gf, you're attracted to other people-- maybe you can have an open relationship.
but in the end, you can't cheat and you can't can a ... (read in full...)
20 and never kissed a girl. I'm always told to "be myself," advice, please?
Q. i'm 20, I am a confident person, I'm nice and I have a sense of humour. How many girlfriends have I had - 0. How many have I asked out - 7 I think. I have never kissed a girl let alone had sex and I don't know what I'm doing wrong. One girl sai...
A. 25 September 2007: first look around and see who likes you-- you might have an admirer that you're unknowingly jilting.
then look at who you're hitting on-- people are jusemental and you may be hitting on a girl who want a Movie star guy-- you might be insistin... (read in full...)
My bf told me he slept with a married woman 14 years ago, should we continue this if our moral compasses are so far apart?
Q. My boyfriend slept with a married woman about 14 years ago at work. He wants to forget about it but since he has told me, it practically broke up the relationship because it is something I would NEVER do (I've always thought people who do this are ...
A. 25 September 2007: Stop at look at this rationally:
a. your almost perfect BF told you about something that happened 14 years ago over a YEAR into your relationship
b. he ocntinued the affair for 3 years
c. he said sleeping with her was fate & he knew immediately ... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping with a boy who is not my bf, how can I sort out who I like and what to do?
Q. hi. im 15 and have been with my boyfriend now for just over a year but i think i have fallen out of love with him already, we have been sexually active for 7 months and i have got to admit we are alright in that department but i just cant love him ...
A. 25 September 2007: You're 15, do you see marriage in in the next two years, then you're not in love, you're homonal.
Stop cheating becuase
1. it cause life long damage to the one being cheated on-- damage you don't fix, his next girlfriend has to.
2. you risk... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping with a boy who is not my bf, how can I sort out who I like and what to do?
Q. hi. im 15 and have been with my boyfriend now for just over a year but i think i have fallen out of love with him already, we have been sexually active for 7 months and i have got to admit we are alright in that department but i just cant love him ...
A. 25 September 2007: You're 15, do you see marriage in in the next two years, then you're not in love, you're homonal.
Stop cheating becuase
1. it cause life long damage to the one being cheated on-- damage you don't fix, his next girlfriend has to.
2. you risk... (read in full...)
At first HE had lower sex drive, now I do, maybe because his not wanting it as frequent in the beginning has affected me?
Q. I have been dating my bf for 5 years. When we first started dating, I wanted to have sex non stop but he did not feel the same. Now he wants to have sex more often and I don't really feel the same way. I think subconsciously I have taken his not ...
A. 25 September 2007: talk to him!
maybe he wants you more because he didn't know as well in the beginning.
Maybe he fell in love and did the whore/madonna thing. A lot of guys are the biggest sluts in the world and your first few months are magic. then the... (read in full...)
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