I like him a lot but I don't have any feelings towards him.
Q. I'm seeing this guy at the moment and weve been togerther for a month and a half. when I met him I was a virgin and I'm not now I like him a lot but I don't have any feelings towards him. Everyone I tell says I should see how it goes and giv...
A. 14 November 2007: I can't totally go along with the idea of boyfriend/girlfriend chemistry after a week, you need time to get to know each other etc. I recently went on 2 dates with a complete stranger, we both openly admitted we found the other to be wonderful ... (read in full...)
I think she's too beautiful to stand a chance with. Hearing her confessions about a boy she likes, what should I do?
Q. Hey Basically, i have known this friend of a friend of mine off msn for a long time, and recently i met her in person, we get along fine and she is great fun to hang around with, only thing is she seems me as a friend at the moment, and i think...
A. 14 November 2007: It's the old dilemma I'm afraid - tell her that you like her as more than a friend & risk losing the friendship, say nothing & retain the friendship but always wonder if it could have been more.
Firstly though don't put yourself down by saying y... (read in full...)
I like him a lot but I don't have any feelings towards him.
Q. I'm seeing this guy at the moment and weve been togerther for a month and a half. when I met him I was a virgin and I'm not now I like him a lot but I don't have any feelings towards him. Everyone I tell says I should see how it goes and giv...
A. 13 November 2007: Did you know this guy before you hooked up ?. A month & a half isn't a long time if he was a complete stranger, but at the same time in my experience usually within 6 weeks I'd know whether I felt more towards a woman or not, as the initial ... (read in full...)
Should I let her go or pursue her?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend about ayear ago.I then started going out to bars and clubs and meeting lots of women.But about 2 months ago I ran into a girl I used to be great friends with.The sexual energy has always been their between us. When...
A. 13 November 2007: To me you've got nothing to lose by saying something & from your post it sounds as though she is trying to tell you that she doesn't want to be with her current boyfriend & wants to be with you, but needs you to confirm that you want to be with her ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to ask her out?
Q. This may seem really stupid, but I was wondering, how do you ask someone out? What type of things do you say? Is it "will you go out with me" or something like "will you be mine" My friends are really pressuring me to ask this girl out in my ...
A. 13 November 2007: Don't let your friends pressure get to you for starters, because if you like this girl & want to ask her out you want to come over calm, cool & chilled, & not a nervous, gibbering wreck !. & on that note don't be worried about being rejected, if ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend being unfair?
Q. Hi, My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 11 months. But as of late, she has been insanely clingy. She lives about an hour away from me, and after we separate during the weekdays, we haven't not argued once on skype because she says...
A. 13 November 2007: It's a start that you recognise there's a problem & something needs to be done, because it sounds like she is basically both controlling & ruining your life (not necessarily deliberately). You say you argue alot, is it about this particular issue ... (read in full...)
Ideas to get flirty - not smutty, just a gentle tease? - We keep in contact by mail while he's travelling.
Q. Hi there, I hope some of you people can give me some advise. I have recently started dating a guy and unfortunately he is travelling right now so we are keeping in touch bt mail. in order to keep the momentun up we are playing a game of ask any 10 ...
A. 12 November 2007: Why not start with some 'nice' questions, like what he likes about you the most, what would be his dream date with you etc. I'd start with 10 questions along those lines & then writing the answers should make him horny & he'll probably be bold & ... (read in full...)
We broke up since he was moving to another country. How do I get past seeing him with another woman at parties?
Q. My boyfriend of 7 years broke up about 4 months ago. we survived losing our son and also we had both cheated on the other during our relationship but we got past it. he was moving away but we got together and decided that since he was moving to ...
A. 12 November 2007: Sounds like you've been through some difficult times. Which only illustrates that you can get through this, it's a bad feeling but there's nothing you can do to change it other than try to avoid seeing them as much as possible, out of sight out of ... (read in full...)
She hasn't returned my calls.
Q. I have been in a two month relationship with my girlfriend and I have never pushed her to do anything she doesn't want to do. Yesterday night, while we were making out, I asked her something, and she said that she wasn't ready (it wasn't sex),...
A. 12 November 2007: Is there a possibility she might not have been able to return your calls ? - e.g. working long hours etc. Not saying this is the case here but it's easy to sometimes think there's an issue when there isn't, & if you keep on calling her that might ... (read in full...)
I'm not a fan of one night stands so I was thinking of inviting her... to discover each other. She says she isn't over her past though, is that a wise move?
Q. Via the internet I met someone last weekend. We clicked immediately and at the end of the night had a long kiss and agreed to go out again during the week. Went out for dinner during the week, again got on really well and she invited me back ...
A. 11 November 2007: Thanks for the answers - I think she's already made up her mind. Have left it for afew days to give us both time apart but next weekend am going to see an event which we have a mutual interest in so will invite her along and see if/how she replies ... (read in full...)
The guy I'm seeing is not over his ex yet, should I wait on him or should I move on?
Q. ok here's the deal : i met this boy, about 5 months ago and, in the begining we decided to have a relation ship, after about two months, he was very honest and admitted that he was not fully over his ex who left him for one of his freinds, but he ...
A. 10 November 2007: Assuming this boy is a similar age to you I think he should have moved on from his ex by now, it's unlikely they had been together for years. Personally I think you need to tell him that you can't wait any longer & that he's only going to forget ... (read in full...)
I'm disappointed she hasn't contacted me.
Q. I met someone from the internet y'day afternoon, following a brief email exchange which she instigated and we seemed to get on well, after a couple of hours chatting she invited me to meet one of her friends which I did and when we parted she ...
A. 1 October 2007: Thanks for the answers, the last thing I want to do is come over too expectant or eager, we've only met once & it's early days, hence why I don't want to make too much of a 'move', I said in my email that I thought we got on well & would like to ... (read in full...)
I think I am in love with someone on this site but I have only 'spoken' to them once. Help!
Q. i think i'm in love with someone on this site. i know that sounds insane but everytime i read something they have written i think "omg this person is amazing, so understanding and everything i want". i've never even spoken to them apart from one ...
A. 20 September 2007: It's easy to 'personalise' a response on this site so that you feel that the writer is everything you could want from someone, but think about it rationally, you know nothing about this person, you could walk past them in the street and wouldn't ... (read in full...)
Ladies: what can I do to win her over? Any suggestions??
Q. why cant i win her over? what do i do? she likes someone else more then me at least i think. we have gotten close but then she faded away. how can i get her to like me again? what can i do that she'll never forget? ladies help!!!...
A. 20 September 2007: Perhaps you came over a little too keen ?. As a result the lady in question may have deliberately faded away. There's nothing worse than coming over too keen and/or needy, I'd suggest you don't chase her so much, just be there for her as a mate, ... (read in full...)
Why is it that the really nice, good guys just arent that 'attractive'? How can I change being shallow so as not to care of this aspect?
Q. Why is it that the really nice, good guys just arent that 'attractive'? I hav a friend who is SOOOOOOOOO nice and caring and is sooo supportive of me. Hes been there for me all the time. From my last break up with a bad bf, to a car accident I ...
A. 20 September 2007: I don't think you should be hard on yourself by suggesting that you're in any way "shallow", no matter what people say there always has to be some kind of physical attraction also, but also physical attraction is subjective, so you will be attracted ... (read in full...)
It seems like my BF if distancing himself lately. What can I do?
Q. My bf is acting very strange lately(the past month). He shows far more interest in his job than anything else. I have evening classes 2 days a week, and he manages to get home early on those days, while the rest of the days that i dont have the ...
A. 13 September 2007: What did he say when you tried to talk to him about your concerns ?. I can understand your concerns, I'd have thought if there was something going on he would have told you when you asked him. If I was you I'd try to hang in there for the next ... (read in full...)
She rejected me but still calls and txt. How do I get over her? I'm really confused.
Q. Am i pathetic for being hung up on the same girl? She has rejected me about a week ago, but i cant seem to get over her! She is constant texting me or calling me. She wont leave me alone to deal with my rejection. we are good friends, but i like to ...
A. 12 September 2007: Have you explained to her that you'd appreciate a little bit of time to move on after her rejection so that you can stay good friends and put it behind you? I wouldn't invite her to the dance, I'd ask someone else. Perhaps she isn't really sure ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is on dating sites as single and looking. Is this the same as cheating?
Q. I'm really confused whether I should sacrifice my happy relationship of a year because my boyfriend constantly joins and hides his online (local) dating sites, sex personals etc. He claims he loves me and wants to be with me, but then why would h...
A. 11 September 2007: Glad you were able to talk things through with him & hopefully sorted things out. I'm still a little perplexed as your initial message suggested he was still 'active' on the internet sites, the issue of when he joined them really doesn't matter, ... (read in full...)
I got on well with a guy at work but he's backed off now I've asked him out. Should I just leave it as work mates?
Q. I've been talking to a guy at work for several months. We both have said we like each other and we have so much in common. There is great chemistry. We talked on the phone once for an hour (I called him-he has never called me) and he said that he ...
A. 11 September 2007: Perhaps he appreciates that you've only recently come out of a long-term relationship so doesn't want to rush things ?. If I was you I would respond to his smiles & to an extent his flirting & just let things follow their natural course, you will ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my cousin! Is there anything I can mix with water that will turn her on???
Q. actually i love my cousin sister and i want to have sex with her, she is married, she has two children her age is around 30yrs, i stay with her in her house,her husband will be out for business tour, please tell me how can i attract her for sex, is ...
A. 10 September 2007: What a horrible bloke you are, enough said.... (read in full...)
He ejaculates in about 3 seconds when he is inside, though there are no problems when I masturbate him. Worried!
Q. My boyfriend has no problem getting hard and it takes a while for him ejaculate when i toss him off but as soon as we go to have sex and he is inside me he ejaculates in about 3 seconds it's affecting our relationship, i'm really worried please help...
A. 10 September 2007: You're worried ?! - imagine how he feels !. All I can really suggest is that you both takes things gently when he goes inside you, so hopefully he is able to control himself better. Has he sought any advice from a GP ?.... (read in full...)
I feel so bad for snooping on my boyfriend! Should I confess to him?
Q. I feel so bad about myself. I have been having lots of nightmares lately including a very vivid one of my boyfriend with another woman. Anyway, the other night after I had a couple of drinks I found myself looking under my boyfriend's bed. I ...
A. 10 September 2007: I don't think you've done anything particularly bad so personally I don't think you should tell him because he might not understand and get the wrong idea. You might however want to talk to someone like a doctor or counsellor about your nightmares ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is on dating sites as single and looking. Is this the same as cheating?
Q. I'm really confused whether I should sacrifice my happy relationship of a year because my boyfriend constantly joins and hides his online (local) dating sites, sex personals etc. He claims he loves me and wants to be with me, but then why would h...
A. 10 September 2007: It's not necessarily cheating, but at the same time like you say I can't understand his motivation and most importantly he is doing something that understandably you are uncomfortable with. If I've ever dated someone I met online then we have both ... (read in full...)
She is giving me mixed signals. Is she interested?
Q. Tell me if she is interested i'm having mixed signals. Here is why i think she is and why not. Why i think she is: - for her bday i gave her a rose and poem and she said that i made her day and that she really liked the gift a lot. She looked v...
A. 10 September 2007: Are you sure you're "going out" with this girl ?. You mention dates etc. but, and forgive me if I'm wrong, but it seems that what you call a date is actually just spending time with a friend, which is easily done. At least it seems that is the ... (read in full...)
I got on well with a guy at work but he's backed off now I've asked him out. Should I just leave it as work mates?
Q. I've been talking to a guy at work for several months. We both have said we like each other and we have so much in common. There is great chemistry. We talked on the phone once for an hour (I called him-he has never called me) and he said that he ...
A. 9 September 2007: I think he probably saw you as more than just a work colleague, but only in a friendly sense & perhaps now realises you were interpretating that as romance, hence why he's suddenly gone distant. Although asking him for coffee isn't that bold a move ... (read in full...)
Had a really good first date on saturday but havent heard from him. Should I leave it for him to make the first move?
Q. Had a really good first date with a guy on thursday night. I text him once on friday nite and once on saturday night... it is now sunday and i haven't heard anything from him although it was his idea to meet up again. Shall i continue to persue him ...
A. 9 September 2007: Wait to hear from him, you've demonstrated to him that you're thinking about him by texting him, so it's now all up to him. Personally I think it's abit crap that he hasn't at least sent you a text no matter how busy he may be, but I hope it works ... (read in full...)
Have I lost my chance with her?
Q. Hi, I was after some advice. There is a really hot girl that I've known for a couple of years, and always had a thing for her, but have never let her know. Recently she has started talking to me and moving close to me. I dunno if she is flirting or ...
A. 8 September 2007: Well if you like her then you need to make a move before you lose your chance. Obviously whatever happens this could affect your relationship with your cousin, but if you really like her than you've got to put yourself first. I once lost a girl in ... (read in full...)
He's never cheated on me but when he left his phone at my house there were texts on it from another girl!!!
Q. hi... I've been with my boyfriend for a while now. He tells me he has never cheated on any of his ex's, and I believe him. Recently I've been on holiday for 3 weeks, when I got back he told me he'd really missed me and been so bored while I was ...
A. 6 September 2007: Have you any idea who the girl who sent the texts is ? - perhaps a daft suggestion but she couldn't be a relative ?. You also mention that your boyfriend has told you he's never cheated on his ex's - have you previously expressed concern that he ... (read in full...)
She's joined facebook and this angers me... Is this normal?
Q. It seems that it only takes my ex-girlfriend to join Facebook.com to get me rattled up. I've been having a pretty good day. Been feeling fairly comfortable about the relationship ending (2 months and 2 weeks ago), but then suddenly I find ...
A. 6 September 2007: Sorry Andy, but I still don't think you should feel that way. As other posters have said, just like you did, she probably joined Facebook because she's no longer in a relationship and wants to catch up with some people she hasn't been in recent ... (read in full...)
She's joined facebook and this angers me... Is this normal?
Q. It seems that it only takes my ex-girlfriend to join Facebook.com to get me rattled up. I've been having a pretty good day. Been feeling fairly comfortable about the relationship ending (2 months and 2 weeks ago), but then suddenly I find ...
A. 6 September 2007: I can see why you're annoyed, but you have to let it go. She's got every right to join Facebook, from your post I can't help but feel that you're not as over the break-up as you think you are, else you wouldn't be looking to see if she'd joined or ... (read in full...)
She started a new job 10 months ago and I know her new boss is flirting with her...
Q. So my girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years and things for the most part seem to be going great. I even bought a ring a few months ago with the intent to propose on our anniversary now 1 month away. Here's the problem. She started a new ...
A. 6 September 2007: Have you any idea if she texts her boss back ? - the fact he still texts around that time suggests she probably does, otherwise why would he keep doing it ?. It's a 'dangerous' time to text also, I could understand a boss occasionally texting a ... (read in full...)
I want to try getting with a girl I've liked for a long time. She is in a relationship but do you think she will be bored with him by now?
Q. Hi I sent some emails to a girl at school almost a year ago now saying that I liked her, but she rejected me because at the time she was in a strong relationship. Now I am thinking about trying to win her affections once again but I am not sure ...
A. 5 September 2007: Do you know if she is actually still dating the same guy ?. Don't take this the wrong way but it may be that she wasn't in a strong/serious relationship but didn't want to hurt your feelings. I think before you ask her again you should, if you ... (read in full...)
Could it be that she feels awkward that we innocently met up as it's now dawned on her? (she has a boyfriend)
Q. Wwhere I used to work I used to exchange occasional emails with a colleague, she was quite quiet and shy in the office but always warm and friendly towards me. She did have a boyfriend with whom she seemed totally loved up and the only time I ...
A. 5 September 2007: Thanks for your answers. I've ended up sending her an email just asking if she was ok given it's been nearer a month now since we last caught up - none of our other old colleagues are aware that her and I keep in touch or meet up and she is a very ... (read in full...)
Im still not getting over her. This has been the worst summer ever. She hasn't even said thank you for the birthday card I sent her!
Q. Hi everyone. It's got to the point where I feel stupid to keep troubling you with my problems, whenever they are so small. Nevertheless, they continue to trouble me. I don't know if it's all part of being dumped by your first love or whatever, ...
A. 4 September 2007: Hope you've managed to resist her my-space page, ultimately you should resist it, otherwise basically you're keeping tabs on her and that won't help you move on. I haven't used Facebook in over a month having gone through a tricky situation with ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my bf i cheated on him??
Q. My boyfriend is the most loving caring man i have ever ever met. He would never do anything to hurt me and i would never do anything to hurt him but the other night i went to my friends party and an old friend and i got chatting - one thing led to ...
A. 3 September 2007: If you do tell him then you may well lose him, I've always believed that honesty is the best policy in this world (even though I've never slept with someone whilst dating someone else) and being honest hasn't always helped. Are you likely to feel ... (read in full...)
Im still not getting over her. This has been the worst summer ever. She hasn't even said thank you for the birthday card I sent her!
Q. Hi everyone. It's got to the point where I feel stupid to keep troubling you with my problems, whenever they are so small. Nevertheless, they continue to trouble me. I don't know if it's all part of being dumped by your first love or whatever, ...
A. 31 August 2007: Not a nice situation to be in. However, you need, no matter how hard it may be, to draw a line under the situation, accept what you had has gone, and move on. You are building up the tower of disappointment and punishing yourself over it, I know ... (read in full...)
Next week I leave for another job 20 miles away, how do I get over him?
Q. I'm seriously going crazy over this guy at work, who I really like. He is everything I look for in a guy, manly, smart, kind, sweet and loves football, of which I'm a huge fan. The thing is I leave next Friday and I can't help but think about how ...
A. 30 August 2007: 20 miles isn't exactly a long way away so why not take the plunge and ask him out for a drink? In a way it's an ideal opportunity because you can say that you've been thinking about it for a while but didn't mention it because you didn't want ... (read in full...)
He's so controlling towards me all the time.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months coming to 10 months, since we've been together we have so many arguments and hes so possessive, he always tells me what I can and can't do, he's stopped me from seeing my friends even at work I'm not allowed ...
A. 30 August 2007: I dated a woman who was much the same some years back and looking back now much as I thought the world of her then those months were the worst of my life. It sounds like he is very insecure but that is something he needs to deal with himself, not ... (read in full...)
I cant get over my work colleague
Q. I've mentioned before on here that I've fallen big time for a colleague, I've known here for 3 years now and over the last year really fallen for her, sadly she doesn't feel the same way and much as it hurts I accept I can't change that. We ...
A. 30 August 2007: Work wise we've always got on well, I think she's great at her job and she has always said what a great boss I am and how good I am at my job. I left my old job working with her and then she got offered a job somewhere else and whilst sorting out ... (read in full...)
I cant get over my work colleague
Q. I've mentioned before on here that I've fallen big time for a colleague, I've known here for 3 years now and over the last year really fallen for her, sadly she doesn't feel the same way and much as it hurts I accept I can't change that. We ...
A. 30 August 2007: We have talked about the situation on several occasions, like she says what can she say ?. She thinks I keep punishing myself over it, need to move on and give her some space. Equally sometimes she makes some hurtful comments, last week she told ... (read in full...)
I cant get over my work colleague
Q. I've mentioned before on here that I've fallen big time for a colleague, I've known here for 3 years now and over the last year really fallen for her, sadly she doesn't feel the same way and much as it hurts I accept I can't change that. We ...
A. 30 August 2007: Sadly I've tried that and we only end up, well not arguing, but only more frustrated with the other. She says that I keep punishing myself over it for no reason and need to move on and give her space, yet she also says things like how the advice I ... (read in full...)
I cant get over my work colleague
Q. I've mentioned before on here that I've fallen big time for a colleague, I've known here for 3 years now and over the last year really fallen for her, sadly she doesn't feel the same way and much as it hurts I accept I can't change that. We ...
A. 30 August 2007: Appreciate all the advice, it doesn't help that I'm her boss and long before the attraction developed I've always thought she is one of the best staff I've ever managed in over 6 years of management. Sadly a transfer isn't possible. I keep ... (read in full...)
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