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writes: hi. im 15 and have been with my boyfriend now for just over a year but i think i have fallen out of love with him already, we have been sexually active for 7 months and i have got to admit we are alright in that department but i just cant love him anymore. i used to get butterflies when i saw him, the thought of him would make me blush, i would not go to family parties or anywhere wth my friends because i wanted to be with him but now i dont. i dont want to be with him, i just dont think about him.i dont know whether he feels the same way or not but i cant help it. there is another boy in this tho, i have also been seeing him for 2 months and we are also sleeping together, wrong i know but i cant help the way i feel, i think i am already in love with this new guy but im not too sure. how can i sort out who i love and what i am doin. plz does anyone have any advice?? thank you for reading my question hope you can help x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionall he replies to my question where good. thanx i told the othe rboy i am not going to see him again as anything more han a friend. he said it was ok and he aggreed it was wrong what we was doing wa not nice to my boyfriend. i am going away with my boyfriend on saturday and stayin over till monday, were gonna sort things out and i have realised i do really love him to pieces. ta again x
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reader, cupidhelper  +, writes (25 September 2007):
You're 15, do you see marriage in in the next two years, then you're not in love, you're homonal.
Stop cheating becuase
1. it cause life long damage to the one being cheated on-- damage you don't fix, his next girlfriend has to.
2. you risk giving this guy a disease-- he's not protecting himself the same he would if you were a fling. If you want to put yourself at risk, you're an idiot, but don't be a complete jerk-- my friend got herpes because she was confused about her boyfriend and an ex: the ex gave it to her (he's didn't know he had it-- no outbreak; which 50% of men don't have) and she gave it to her boyfriend. Nice, huh? 2 people with a lifelong illness at 19 that didn't even stay together.
3. some people can't leave someone without having someone else to JUMP to. this will cause a lifelong pattern with yourself that:
a: doesn't give you time to sort out who you fancy
b: doesn't let you backtrack to the old boyfriend if you figure out you did like him better (boy can do the math, if you dump BF & date new guy 3 days later, your BF will know you cheated.
Last, all relationships lose the butterflies-- the fun is trying to get them back. every couple lose the butterflies within two years-- it's the biological time to create a baby. The baby binds you together giving you time to get the butterflies again.
But all relationship take work. cheating will end all your relationships because you're putting the work into the new relationship instead of the hard parts of the old.
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reader, cupidhelper +, writes (25 September 2007):
You're 15, do you see marriage in in the next two years, then you're not in love, you're homonal.
Stop cheating becuase
1. it cause life long damage to the one being cheated on-- damage you don't fix, his next girlfriend has to.
2. you risk giving this guy a disease-- he's not protecting himself the same he would if you were a fling. If you want to put yourself at risk, you're an idiot, but don't be a complete jerk-- my friend got herpes because she was confused about her boyfriend and an ex: the ex gave it to her (he's didn't know he had it-- no outbreak; which 50% of men don't have) and she gave it to her boyfriend. Nice, huh? 2 people with a lifelong illness at 19 that didn't even stay together.
3. some people can't leave someone without having someone else to JUMP to. this will cause a lifelong pattern with yourself that:
a: doesn't give you time to sort out who you fancy
b: doesn't let you backtrack to the old boyfriend if you figure out you did like him better (boy can do the math, if you dump BF & date new guy 3 days later, your BF will know you cheated.
Last, all relationships lose the butterflies-- the fun is trying to get them back. every couple lose the butterflies within two years-- it's the biological time to create a baby. The baby binds you together giving you time to get the butterflies again.
But all relationship take work. cheating will end all your relationships because you're putting the work into the new relationship instead of the hard parts of the old.
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reader, rcn +, writes (22 September 2007):
 You need to end it with one of them now. It is OK to feel the way you do, but it is not OK and will never be OK to begin a relationship before ending one. What you're doing being with the other one is causing harm to your boyfriend. It is never OK to cause someone else harm by selfish behavior.
I'll tell you why. Put the shoe on the other foot. Let's say you loved him, and caught him sleeping with someone else. You've then been violated, which can and will more than likely cause a pain that all though you feel you dealt with it will affect ever single relationship you get into after that point.
Truthfully, who has the right to cause another person that kind of pain?
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reader, Cupcake  +, writes (22 September 2007):
 Do not cheat. Im sure you wouldnt be happy if that were to happen to you. Give your current boyfriend some respect and just leave him, dont hurt him anymore. Its perfectly normal to feel how you are feeling towards him, you are young, and ultimatley you have to look out for YOU. So if you arnt happy move on, he will move on eventually as well.
Good Luck
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reader, Gemini1506  +, writes (22 September 2007):
First of all they ent nothing wrong with the way your feeling, fair enough you dont like him as u did before. Just leave him because if either of them found out. They both wouldnt have ya.
Maybe you like this other boy because you know you dont want your boyfriend anymore. By the way dont let this other guy take advantage of you. If he really likes you then you two dont have to have sex all the time then
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (22 September 2007):
 Please don't keep this cheating going on! Your bf needs to be told, even if you are dumping him, he needs to know how you feel and what you've been doing, it will hurt him though. You're only 15, you're too young to be settled down but then again you're also too young for sex although i am pleased to hear that you waited quite a while before doing it! This lad needs to know, you can't keep leading him on. You may have stopped 'fancying him' but do you still love him? I'm not sure that you love this other guy though as you've only had sex, and love is defanately not just about sex! Please tell him, and think to yourself, who'z the person you really love?
Plzz tell me how you got on, i would like to know :) xxxx
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