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writes:Attracted to two people???? Where do I start? First of all, I'm bisexual and right now I am in a relationship with a female. I think she is a great girl and we have a lot in common. We both have admitted to one another that we're very compatible. BUT I have a problem...I am seriously attracted to her roommate, who is also a lesbian. Her roommate and I also have a lot in common. We have tons of fun when we hang out together; she brings out my inner-child side. Her roommate likes me back, and regrets not speaking up about her feelings sooner. I pretty much see the roommate more than I see my girlfriend sometimes because she works a lot. Describing the way they both make me feel is impossible right now. I just don't know what to do about this....HELP!!!!!
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reader, cupidhelper +, writes (25 September 2007):
is this you're first "gay" relationship?
if so, that make you a virgin even if you've been with men. tell you gf, you're attracted to other people-- maybe you can have an open relationship.
but in the end, you can't cheat and you can't can a redo, so take your time.
also, at some point you'll want a boyfriend and a girlfriend justifying as you're bi. You're boyfriend might into for a three-way, but No one wants to be cheated on. having to lovers of opposite sex is still cheating, because the intimate part in the minds-- not the body parts. who did you tell you secrets to first.
three-ways, might seem like cool idea, until you watch your lover with someone else. which is why guys like them in penthouse; but most will ask you to Pick a side.
Same with girls. If you're girlfriend wants a three-way, she may just want to cheat with permission.
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reader, rcn +, writes (22 September 2007):
 I'd say take them both, but that would be wrong. Look at your feelings, you're with one, yet attracted to another one. Do you just have an attraction, or is love involved with either one? If it's just attraction, let me give you a quick statistic. For the sex you prefer, you will find one out of every 5 attractive. Try it sometime, go out on the town, and count how many your eyes check out while you're out.
I would do what your heart tells you to. If you give up your girlfriend for the roommate, you have a possibility of ruining their friendship and roommate arrangements as well, and maybe your friendship with the other one as well. Weigh everything out, then make your decision.
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reader, leanne.od  +, writes (21 September 2007):
 only you can answer that i'm afraid.
if you don't know how you feel about your girlfriend, i think it's unfair to carry the relationship on under false pretences because you are attracted to other girls and thinking about acting upon it.
she would be very hurt if you chose to go after her roomate instead of her and it will inevitably cause friction and problems between them, and you have to decide if you could handle being responsible for the break up of their friendship.
it is difficult but you need to be honest with your girlfriend and don't string her along.
good luck
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