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41-50,
*eshelle
writes:I am having a problem with my boyfried we have been together for a year and a half he is dad to my son who is 4 and we have everything a relationship probably most desires. Stability. Any how lately he has neglected me emotionally. I feel like he does not even want me in the same room as him. He talks with evry one else fine but when I try and talk to him he gives me short answers or nothing at all. He is not affectionate with me at all. He hs made rude comments to me the last week. But when we are out together he can not keep off of me. When we are at home it is when it stops. My brother started staying with us about a month ago and I am sure that it is nice for my man to have a man around that he can talk to and relate to games sports ect. But latley he only really talks to my brother hangs out with him ignores me it is like he has replaced me for my brother. I mean yesterday he was rude to me but then nice at the same time and as soon as my brother came home he really did not talk to me after that. He talekd with my brother went got games and hung out with him till my brother went to bed? Is there something wrong or am I looking to much into this? Reply to this Question
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reader, cupidhelper +, writes (25 September 2007):
Yes, there's somethine wrong. First, you let a guy you're not married to be father to your son-- and if you break up, how many Daddys does this boy gotta lose!
2nd, he's not allowed to be RUDE. He can be tired, un-used to built-in family (most guys love it but then want the kid not the mother).
Talk to him, your brother, and establish boudaries, alone time, and the fact that he can't treat you one way in public and another way alone. Negotate a fair visitation schedule if he's staying for the kid and resents you so your child can adjust.
If he just needs some MaleBonding, tell him to sleep on the couch with your Brother or be nicer to you. You'll give him all the space he needs-- his treatment of you will determine HOW much space.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (24 September 2007):
He is just using you for sex. He isn't into you as a person.
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reader, leanne.od  +, writes (24 September 2007):
 there's a problem with lack of communication, you need to tel him somethings changed and you know there is a god explaination but you're being driven crazy not knowing what it is.
your brothers caught in the middle and being a man probably doesn't realsise anything is wrong.
if he won't listen; make him!
you need to clear the air and fix the probelm.
best of luck
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