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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Okay i just wanna know one simple thing - is this inappropriate for a teacher to say or do?Well i went to see him to see what i had got in my test that my clas had done and when i asked him how did i do he said ''ohh i'll mark it just now''. I went away and came bk within 10 mins and when i walked in he said while pointing at me and smiling '' you naughty, naught, naughty, naughty, naughty girl'' and just stood there smiling and then was like u only ticked 2 boxes instead of 3- to me i found that a lil perverted? but please correct me if you think i am wrong.Another time was when i had skippin ropes for no apparent reason in his class and started to skip... and he was watching me (i don't know why) and there were a few other people in my class too, then all of a sudden i jumped to high and my trousers fell down and you could clearly see my girl boxers!! i was so embarassed by this so i tierd my hardest to pull my trousers up straight away and i turned to see who had seen my underwear and i seen him starrin so i quickly turned to look at him then he put on shock face and said ''i wasnt lookin...unfortunately'' while puttin his hands over his eyes, while laughing-now come on that can't be right surely?Also i was playing a piano piece and i said ''awww its sooo sweet'' and he replied ''just like you'' and a little while after that while he was me with my piano piece i said ''ohh i hate this bar of music... so see when i play it i change it slightly coz it sounds better'' and to be honest what he said freaked me out he said ''you naughty girl... you should be seen to''I mean ewwwwww... should i be worried about this guy?I mean this all did happen about last year or summit but he has done some pretty flirty things like this to me recently and thinking back and think about all of the things he has done in the past and recently... im startin to wonder should i back away from this dude? Its not like hes young hes...50-summit? so what do u guys think? does he like me? if not am i just being too para about this dude or do i have a point?I had a bf who has left school but when he attended it my teacher was pretty mean to him for no reason... Andy my bf btw, had came down one period to see me when i was in music and was carrying on with me and my teacher never dun anything but when he was like go do this outside eh? i said ''omg he totally did that in the town last week it was sooooo embarassin he tripped me up in front of everyone!! and he looked at me angrily and said ''as u do'' and walked out but before it he was chattin to me and andy... anyways during break me and Andy used to go for a quick snog basically in the technical rooms and at lunch and play time we are allowed to hang about and socialise there (anybody is allowed who does that subject and anyone who doesn't isn't allowed). So me and Andy used to pull and for some reason the teacher would always end up looking in, as if he had been looking for me. So anyway he shouted to Andy ''put her down now!!'' and he said next time i catch you and her kissing i will have no choice but to kick you out Andy... i looked at him and said ''what me too sir? and he said '' no not you Amy, Andy''Now why?? And then when it was my birthday i went in a room with Andy so he oculd give me my presents alone and when i came back out my friends said the teacher was hanging around them outside the room and said ''ohhh lets see what Andy bought Amy''Is any of this behaviour right??thanksXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): This behaviour is completely innapropriate and I think you are aware of that and thats why you are asking. You need to take action before comments and looking turns into touching and more - if this man sees that he can get away with saying things to you then he is bound at some point to try his luck.
You must report him to your head teacher and do not take 'your being silly, cant take a compliment, or you are over reacting' for an answer you most certainly are not and if my daughter came home and told me what you have I would be most concerned for her safety. Im not saying that he is dangerous but I would hate you to keep this to yourself and let this man continue to perv on you. I know your probably scared about what trouble it may cause but you have no need to worry. You are in the right.
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reader, stina  +, writes (25 September 2007):
 Hi Anonymous,
This guy *is* being inappropriate. I suggest you talk with your parents, have a meeting with the principle at your school, and at the very least get transferred into another class. You shouldn't have to put up with that; you're in school to learn, not to have your teacher oggle you and act like a perv. There's no reason for you to feel uncomfortable at school.
Take care.
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reader, cupidhelper +, writes (25 September 2007):
hey,
also have you boyfriend/s make a complaint if you can. the one who no longer goes to the school should feel safe not to get any kind of retaliation.
If you know of any other girls who weere harassed, ask them to make a compaint with their parents. the more their are of you, the less chance he has of hurting someone. (some girls don't have boyfriends or father and fall victim to the attention as friendly. The friendly turns to touching and they don't have any one to tell or they're embarassed to tell)
If the students who witnessed the ''ohhh lets see what Andy bought Amy'' can also signa complaint letter that would be helpful.
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reader, cupidhelper +, writes (25 September 2007):
No this behavior isn't right. Trust you instinct. Tell you parents and you all sit down with the Principle and tell him exactly what you told us. I tell you to get your parents becuase they become witnesses.
your principle might not believe you or might have tell the Perv teacher and you'll be alone. but if your parents complaint:
1. the school has to take it seriously
2. if they don't and you get further harassed, your parents were Adult witnesses and file a complaint with the school and the school system.
also, age is not a factor for teacher abuse. You might find a teacher more cute if he's 26, but that still makes the same behavior pervy.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (25 September 2007):
No doubt in my mind your teachers behaviour is in appropiate! However when he got angry at you and your bf, he had a right to. Most schools have rules about such phsyicaly contact. So he was just doing is job since he caught you two guys kissing.
Go to your principal or school counsellor and tell them what has happend. they will deal from it there.
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