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writes: hi im a 39 year old man im very sexual, i used to eat out my ex girlfreind all the time and she enjoyed it. but every time i would ask her for a blojob she would get upset,do you think this is fair of her? were no longer going out.
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reader, cupidhelper  +, writes (25 September 2007):
did you ask her why? how long did you go out? if it was a short time, oral sex has a lot of risk factors and is not safe sex unless used with a rubber-- which let's face it, kinda defeats the purpose.
I don't think you did it all the time for the return-- it's was too many times if you're being sincere about "all the time"
so, the real question is, why are you asking about an ex? because if you miss and you went out a long time and want her back, oral propably won't be in the package. can you live with a life without them? it's okay to say no-- sex is a major part of a relationship. But if you say, "yes" you can't force her, pressure her, or seek it elsewhere.
but if you know why she wouldn't, it might not matter to you. You might not want her to is she finds it really unpleasent-- who wants someone they love faking a gift?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): Change your attitude - oral sex is not a trade off my dear
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (24 September 2007):
I dont think your ex is being unfair. If she isnt comfortable with doing something then she just isnt. You had a choice to perform oral on her, and you did it. Its not her fault that you had hidden motives- that being you were probbably only doing it thinking you would get some back...if you had such a problem with her not 'returning the favour' then maybe you should not of done it at all. you dont give to people on the hope that they will give something back of give you praise for being so kind, you give because you care and want to see them happy. you shodlnt expect smething back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): when you do this kinda thing like preform oral for a woman. you should merely be doing it for her pleasure and if you loved her it wouldve pleased you to please her !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): when you do this kinda thing like preform oral for a woman. you should merely be doing it for her pleasure and if you loved her it wouldve pleased you to please her !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): you cant look at your love life that way ! i mean i give my man oral all the time like atleast 1 time a day . and he only preforms oral on me like 5 times a month. i dont think of our sex life as a game !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): Although you shouldnt 'give' to 'receive' you obviously feel hurt that she wouldnt return the favour. Did you ever ask her reasons behind why she didnt want to perform on you orally, perhaps there is something underlying her upset.Oral sex isn't something everyone and im sure that she found other ways to pleasure you, so why get hung up about it?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 September 2007):
 I'm not sure whether you can talk about this being "fair". Apparently, however, you performed the oral expecting her to "be fair" and perform on you, too. That is wrong.I wonder if you are not longer going out due to her not performing oral.
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