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writes: I wonder if anyone can help me, it's a bit complicated.I was seeing a guy, we get on great, have great sex and we are still very fond of one another. The only thing is I went on a few dates with one of his very good friends before we got it together and he got very upset and wouldn't spk to the guy I was with because it was me he was seeing and his opinion is that he should not have gone for me cause he had been seeing me first. I never even slept with him and he is the one who more or less called it off and stopped contacting me, so I just don't see why he has a problem with me and his mate being an item. It has caused so many problems that we cooled things off between us. As well as the issue with his friend something else has now happened. The guy I like and was seeing has known a girl for years who lived quite far from where we do and she has now moved to our city. They always said they would give it a go if she moved close and now she has. He was honest and told me everything. However I have seen her and she is really plain and does not look his type. Others have even told me that they think he is taking the easy option in making a go of things with her as he feels she is a safe bet. Me and him are good looking people, he always used to say to me that I would go and find a 'posh guy' as he thinks I am due to my different accent and he thinks I am really gorgeous, it's so not true and I think he may think that he is not good enough for me. I don't know what to do - he still contacts me regularly and we are friends, we haven't seen each other since we cooled things off but we are planning to after time passes, about a month and a bit, to see how we feel.I am heartbroken and in love with him but I have not told him this.What should I do? He has told me he still really likes me.Thanks. xx
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reader, cupidhelper  +, writes (25 September 2007):
tell him you love him if you do, but it sounds like your so "goodlooking" you might be wounded he went for the plain girl over you.
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reader, michellebeth  +, writes (24 September 2007):
If you like this guy, don't let this other girl get him first and his friend is an ass wipe. I think you should lay the cards on the table for him, tell him you think the two of you have a future and that you care for him a lot, but you won't wait forever also that what happened with his friend was in the past, so get over it .
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reader, livereds +, writes (24 September 2007):
Well the obvious thing to do is sit down and talk with him. If you have strong feelings for someone the best thing to do is to let that person know, especially when you've been intimate with them.
If he truly "still really likes (you)" than when you sit down and have this chat he will reciprocate the feelings and should respect you enough to not go with the "safe bet" and remain with you.
I hope everything works out for the best, I know how you're feeling right now and its a terrible way to feel. I hope I helped a little...
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