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writes:im really embarassed about this question! ive been with my boyfriend for a year and ive been with over 15 men but im still not experienced with sex! i feel really emabarassed when me and my bf have sex! ive never been on top and wouldnt have a clue what to do if i did go on top. can anyway give me some detailed tips to help me please my b/f as he always asks me to go on top? please dont tell me to ask him what he likes because im too emabarassed to ask that. Reply to this Question
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reader, cupidhelper  +, writes (25 September 2007):
don't listen to the anonymous female who called you lazy, she's a cowardly pig who could leave an id.
First, lube. You may think you don't need, but everything works better with it. too much is better than too little.
Tell him, eitherwise, he may pull you down or get you off-balance. Plus, he might know some tricks & teaching and being taught--way sexy.
One of you has to guide the male part in-- slowly, is best. If you're small, he can move you. if you're bigger, he might be pinned so you'll have to do more work-- it gets tiring so be prepared to switch position if you need-- it's suppose to be fun.
Some women orgasm this way, some don't. don't worry about that, just do what feels good. That's the advice: DON'T copy anyone else's moves. To what Feels good to you.
No one like to talk about this, but If you change positions and you have a pet that sleeps on the bed, make sure male parts don't touch bed and due a fur test-- you can get an infection.
also, since you've never done this before with him, don't feel discourage if he orgasms right away or if he doesn't. Some men can't orgasm in this position because they don't get the friction they need. (say something really dirty helps if they into that)
Last, the female womb moved to have sex-- it actually changes positions so it can take in the male member. It slowly returns back to normal after sex. so, it might hurt if you not fully ready. An orgasm moves the womb into the correct position and makes a woman more inclined to orgasm again. But good foreplay does puts the womb in the same position. if it hurt, breath deeply, relax yourself and try to find what works-- you don't need all of it you, rest on you knees or have him help hold you up and just work with what you can or stop, get more sexed up and try again.
For you men, the g-spot is about where your tip is, so if you press on a gal's belly at the right time, you'll be rubbing her g-spot with you member. Ammmmazzzingggggggg!
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reader, sweetlilpeachx69 +, writes (23 September 2007):
reverse cowgirl hold on to his feet tho
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reader, Cupcake  +, writes (22 September 2007):
 Honestly, I dont even know how to explain what I do. Perhaps I suggest you watch a porno, and get some ideas from there, its easier to see something then to hear it. Thats what I would do anyways.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): She didn't ask about her communication issue, she asked how to be on top. I wrote some advice earlier, but it is not being posted for some reason.
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reader, rcn +, writes (22 September 2007):
 So you're saying you don't have open communication in your relationship. You know that might cause problems. Do you think people learn just be being tossed into different positions.
Being on top, the only tips I have for you is, if he's just laying there and holding you, you need to guide it in. Some of our gender are not that coordinated about doing that end when a girls on top. I think that's where, can't find the hole became such a big joke. Also when changing positions from top to bottom, figure which way you're going, then carefully lower that leg to be even with his leg on that side. If you keep your knees bent and try to role it pops right out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): 15 at your age, wow. You must have been really lazy in bed, maybe thats why they all left you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): Just get on, put your hands on his chest, and rock back & forth in an up & down motion. His penis should be coming in & out of you but not completely. It's the best way for women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): Ask him! i'm sorry but if your not that experienced tell him and he will hel or ask your friends for a few tips if they have lost thier virginity ok.
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reader, rose the relationship solver  +, writes (22 September 2007):
 Ask him! i'm sorry but if your not that experienced tell him and he will hel or ask your friends for a few tips if they have lost thier virginity ok.
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