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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend has no problem getting hard and it takes a while for him ejaculate when i toss him off but as soon as we go to have sex and he is inside me he ejaculates in about 3 seconds it's affecting our relationship, i'm really worried please help
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reader, cupidhelper  +, writes (25 September 2007):
if he's your age, consider it a compliment. Not all men last like porn.
1. Are you using a Condom, if not, you guys are really young to not be. each partner exposes the other partner to STDs (some don't have outbreaks or show up on bloodtest, they need an outbreak for a DR. to confirme, but no outbreak, no confirmation)
2. condoms hold the blood flow, which makes the erection last longer-- so does the small loss of sensenation.
Also a french tickler (some of them look scary, so be alarmed) goes over the male organ and has various bumps to make hit the g-spot. They usually thick and will help give a little sensentation-loss. Once he get the hang of being inside you without losing it, he'll grow confidence.
3. he can have sex again. the 2nd erection usually last longer. so have 3 seconds and go again, and again if need be.
4. don't be afraid of toys until he can learn a little control-- with him using them it'll spice up the bedroom and take pressure off him. that alone might give you a gew minute.
5. the important thing is that you're getting sexually satisfied. as long as he is performing oral duties, you can ease his mind by asking for him to do it again, again, also elevating pressure. this combined with two fingers or a toy will not only give you the pentration you want, but also will give you a massive clitoris/g-spot double whammy that will leave you unable to walk.
Last tip, don't over stimulate him. Some men think as soon as they have an erection it's time for sex and then they take 40 minutes, nice sometimes, sore sometimes. guys need foreplay too. but he may need less. He may need no touching after erection to get a few more minutes going. Also, have him go in and pull out, go in and pull out, this will get him use to being inside and perhaps more less excited once he's in you longer. but truth, it's not a disorder. so be creative, flexible, loving, and decide if you can live with it, because it not a disorder. we all orgasm at different times from different things.
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reader, pavel38 +, writes (10 September 2007):
You're worried ?! - imagine how he feels !. All I can really suggest is that you both takes things gently when he goes inside you, so hopefully he is able to control himself better. Has he sought any advice from a GP ?.
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