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writes:Dear all,I have a problem that is in my head! I know many of you wouldnt think its such a big issue but i just delivered my baby girl on july 14th and called her a name i really liked at the time.. and we agreed on... on the 6th day he went to register the name in her birth certificate ... but on the 7th day after getting some comments from people that the name isnt nice and i shouldve called her something else...i started to hate it and wanted to change it but my husband refused and ive been living in agony since the day i gave birth all i think about is the name and why did i call her that name .. and i talk to my husband about changing it but he says its out of the question... i regret it soo much , any advice pleeeeaase my brain is repeating her name 24 hours in the day ! and i join facebook everyday to look at people with her same name so i can feel better..
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reader, Mina658  +, writes (1 October 2009):
I got given a horrible name at birth! Wilhelmina of all things! Hers can't be as bad as that! She might suffer a bit at school, i no i did! but it will all fade when people grow up and she'll probably have an AWESOME nick name.
She'll grow in to it and i although i hated my parents at first for calling me it, i do have some awesome nick names and every body knows who i am just because of the name
hope this helps xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 September 2009):
Who cares what other people think!? You have a beautiful baby with a name that you and your husband both like. Don't listen to other people.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (30 September 2009):
 Her name doesn't matter. What matters is that you loved it until a pile of inconsiderate people inappropriately commented on the name and changed your mind about it.
You are being influenced by "the crowd"!
You and your husband liked the name. Stick with your gut and tell anyone with an opinion (other than - wow! Beautiful name) to stuff it!
I have met tonnes of people who've named their kids things and I roll my eyes thinking.. "What the?!" However it is not my child they named and completely RUDE to say anything but "WOW! Very nice!"
As Shakespeare said... "What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet."
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2009): as everyone here said it would help if we knew the name, to offer you some better advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2009): softtouch...is 'Hulga' really any worse than 'Olga'? Or all the Irish girls who are saddled with 'Caoimhe', 'Cliodhna' or 'Eithne'?
(Apologies to all the Olgas and Cliodhnas I may have offended. I'll make it up to you, I swear).
The Scots king Macbeth apparently had a wife whose name was 'Gruach'.
Try howling that one out mid-orgasm.
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reader, unique899 +, writes (30 September 2009):
 i bet your baby has a beautiful dont worry about what those other people say they hating on you like crazy.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (30 September 2009):
 Oh, please, do tell us what you named your baby! Please, please, pretty please! Just kidding :) Look, even if the name seems so bad to you that you dare not tell us what it is, you still should not worry. Like someone else said, there are people that have one name on their birth certificate, and a completely different name that they are using in their day to day. And as long as you didn't name your baby "Mistake" I'm sure your child will forgive you later on in life no matter how badly they may react upon first reading their birth certificate name. So relax. Did you know that Oprah's name on her birth certificate is spelled Orpah? P.S. I noticed your screen name is "Petite." Your baby's name, it's not "Petite", is it? Because if that is what it is, it's not a bad name for a baby girl. Different, but I like it.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (30 September 2009):
Yes, it would help if you said what her name is...it may not even be as bad as you think it is. Just because that's her given name, it doesn't necessarily mean you have to call her that. I've known other people (but I don't know the past behind it) but they are called a completely different name, and it's not even their middle name either.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (30 September 2009):
 You love your baby right? Your baby is your child. You can call her any nickname you want. She's going to love you no matter what her name is ... unless its Hulga. Maybe that would be a not so very nice baby name.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (30 September 2009):
 What did you call her?! It cant be that bad, surely?
If you told us what her name is, it would help us to help you. At the moment all we can do is speculate! I am sure it is just all your hormones racing about, and you will settle down. Or, is there some sort of nickname you can shorten it to?, or maybe use a middle name?
It will be ok x
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reader, Confuzzled012 +, writes (30 September 2009):
 What's her name? You left us in unearable suspense. It can't be that horribe! And the people who told you it's not a good name are terribly rude. You shouldn't listen to them though. It doesn't matter what they think. It matters what you think, what your husband thinks, and one day, what your child thinks.
Every single name in the world is a name that some people will hate, some will love, and some will be nuetral toward, like.. Rose.. I think that's a stupid name but a lot of people think it's beautiful. It's a flower and to me it should be left as one.
Seriously, you can't please everyone.
And don't be so focused on how much you hate your name and forget to love and adore her.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (30 September 2009):
 Okay, it's killing me. What is this name? Is it like "Precious Angel Butt", or is it something that normal people carry around for their lifetimes? It can't be that bad!
Listen, I'm a girl and my name is Michael. My parents got some flack for it when I was a baby, but it's the best name in the universe and MAN am I glad nobody changed it. I love it! So embrace the name and come up with a cute nickname for her.
You can legally change it still, or you could call her by her middle name, but if it was a name that you like and you think it fits her, then screw other people. Tell them that THERE name isn't nice. People can be so tacky. And everyone has different opinions on names. My fella likes the name Bruno, and I think that's what you name bulldogs.
Don't worry, sweetness!! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2009): Hi, I know how you feel, nameing your child is a big responcerbility and I understand how you feel. Your really worried it was a bad descition, when something gets in your mind, it's difficult to get it out again.Although, it is possible to change a child's name at what ever age you choose, better while they are a baby, you have your partner who says he doesn't want to.After giving birth, women go through a profound change in their body and it can be emmotionaly exhausting. Maybe when you decided on the name you wern't thinking a hundred percent straight. The people that critisized your childs name after you had allready chosen, are very thoughtless. You shouldn't judge the name by what they say. Here's a suggestion; if it's just the first name you are worried about, put it on here and get other peoples non-bias opinions. If it's the whole name then maybe you don't want to do that. But I'm sure what ever it is, if you liked it at first it can't be that bad! - good luck
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reader, feeling_bad +, writes (30 September 2009):
What did you name her and what would you change it to?
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