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Ready to have sex but is there a time in-between periods when pregancy is impossible??
Q. OK. So here's the thing. Me and my boyfriend are totally into each other and have been going out a while now. Anyway long story short, we're both ready to have sex and understand the consequences and stuff, and we're both virgins. We are both of ...
A. 13 February 2007: You're right to be wary about condoms. My parents didn't want kids and ended up with 3 using just condoms. What about the normal pill. That doesn't have the same side effects as the morning after one. Or a cap or a diaphragm or an implant? There are ... (read in full...)
I have had romantic feelings for both genders...How do I know if I'm bisexual?
Q. I need help with something, it's been bugging me for a while. How do I know if I'm bisexual? I've never had a girlfriend and I've never had a boyfriend but I have had romantic feelings for both at one point. How do I know? and what do I do?!?!...
A. 13 February 2007: When you're young it's 100% normal to have feelings for girls and boys. One or the other usually fades away as you get older. You're just curious right now. Trust me on this and don't date for a while, just enjoy spending time with girls and guys as ... (read in full...)
Want to tell her, how I feel but I'm afraid if the answer is negative it will affect our friendship ...advice?
Q. Hi, I have been at uni for two and a half years now and i have been living with this girl ever since the first year. We get on very well and are best friends however recently i have really wanted to get with her and have had very strong feelings...
A. 13 February 2007: You're grown ups now. It's not like school anymore where if your love is unrequited you can never speak again. It's a few seconds of embarassment and then things go back to the way they were and that's the worst case scenario.
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I feel so depressed every Valentine's day... Help!
Q. every single valentines day im alone, lonely spinster im constntly depressed all the time i doubt the day will eva come wen i find the 1 infact i just know it neva will i know this iz hardly a positive attitude but ive given up now ive just ad ...
A. 13 February 2007: You're at the very oldest 15. Don't give up yet! You have years to find someone special.
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I'm really sick of my mum, sick of trying with her...
Q. ok my mum h8s me this may seem lyke all 13yr old girls goin through a stage but she really does im sic of tryin wif her any more and i think her and my dad r spilittin up (agen) so ill just live with him is it too late to even bother wif my mum nw ...
A. 13 February 2007: I don't want to tell you it's just a stage because I remember how condescending I found that at your age when I was having problems with my own mother. Believe me, throughout my teenage years she made me feel so incredibly worthless I often felt ... (read in full...)
I'm having erotic dreams about my girlfriends teenage sister!!
Q. For that past few months, I've had a few erotic dreams about my girlfriend's younger sister. My girlfriend is 21 and her sister is 19. We chat alot online and I sometimes go crash at her place out of town when we go skiing together. I just wa...
A. 13 February 2007: Do you love your girlfriend? If the answer is yes then don't worry. We all have dreams that make no sense sometimes. It doesn't mean anything.
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This is a bit unusual I know, tomorrow is V's day. (I'm the female) but I want to stay in and watch the FA cup replay!!! How do I tell my boyfriend?
Q. Hi everyone, I am in a bit of a pickle here! My partner and I have arranged to go out tomorrow night (we try and go out for a meal at least once or twice a week) - now, unless you live in a cave, you will realise that tomorrow is Valenti...
A. 13 February 2007: I'm not sure TIVO has made it in the UK yet! The taping the game idea is a good one. I know you'd rather see it live etc but we all have to make sacrifices for lurve!! (except us single and bitter people of course) Enjoy your Valentines Day.
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I like a guy and he likes me too, only problem is he friend also likes me so he won't act!
Q. I like a guy who likes me too, the only problem is that his best friend likes me too, so he won't act on his feelings. I feel like I'm backed into a corner, what should I do?...
A. 13 February 2007: The only thing you can do really is talk to the friend and explain that while you think he's a fantastic person you're more attracted to his friend and would he mind if you dated? If you can get his blessing then you're raring to go but if not maybe ... (read in full...)
I'm 3 weeks late with my period, should I take the big "P" test?
Q. hey am 16 years old and am late for my period by about 3 weeks, i started a new pill and it says that i shouldn't be expected to have a normal period until after the first packet, however i started the packet 2 days after i was already late and am ...
A. 13 February 2007: Technically it's not that unusual to miss a period on the pill, especially if you're under a lot of stress at school etc. However I think taking a test is a good idea just to be on the safe side and to stop you worrying. Plus if you are pregnant the ... (read in full...)
I'm not a flirter but I flirted bigtime with him but he liked my best friend more! How do I get him to like me?
Q. okay so i really like my guy best friend, i am not a big flirter, but i went out of my way and did some major flirting. unfortunetley for me, he likes my best girl friend who happens to have a very passive boyfriend. both are big flirters. one night ...
A. 13 February 2007: It sounds like he just likes your friend better. It's nothing personal, just that he's looking for something different from what you can offer him. I don't know why your friend isn't backing off, maybe she sort of likes him, maybe she's not as ... (read in full...)
Is my husband gay or bi???
Q. I have been married for 5 years on my second marriage i love him dearly sex was fantasic before i got pregant with my daughter now 2. He never seems to want sex or if we do its a quick wam ban,which frustrates me as im highly sexual,i purchase...
A. 12 February 2007: I wouldn't read into it as far as the fact that he may be gay. Maybe he's finally listening to you and trying to spice up your sex life. Unless you're horrendously uncomfortable with it I say do it! It might be just the kick start your sex life ... (read in full...)
Am i doing the 'rebound thing'?
Q. Hello! Im just getting out of a 2 year relationship with someone who first started out as my best friend. Towards the end of the relationship, we even started acting just as best friends, so i feel that the in-love factor has been gone for a while....
A. 12 February 2007: It might be a rebound fling but if you feel ready there's nothing wrong with it. Rebounds are only bad when you're doing it just to stop feeling sad about someone else but if you're sure you're over your ex go for it.
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I let my friend have sex with me and now I am worried I have an STI!!
Q. What's the best thing to do? As most people these days do, i have a gay friend, after a night out all of my friends came back to my house. As the night grew old everybody but my gay friend left. We were both drunk so I asked him 2 stop the nigh...
A. 12 February 2007: Yes, visit your local GUM clinic. You can find out where it is by calling 0800 0185 023.
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Ready to have sex but is there a time in-between periods when pregancy is impossible??
Q. OK. So here's the thing. Me and my boyfriend are totally into each other and have been going out a while now. Anyway long story short, we're both ready to have sex and understand the consequences and stuff, and we're both virgins. We are both of ...
A. 12 February 2007: There is no such thing as a totally safe time. Girls have even been known to get pregnant during their periods, although the most fertile time is 2 weeks after your period. Using condoms is a good idea but I'd go on the pill too just to be safe.
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I'm not a flirter but I flirted bigtime with him but he liked my best friend more! How do I get him to like me?
Q. okay so i really like my guy best friend, i am not a big flirter, but i went out of my way and did some major flirting. unfortunetley for me, he likes my best girl friend who happens to have a very passive boyfriend. both are big flirters. one night ...
A. 12 February 2007: You can't make someone like you. If there were a magical solution to make your unrequited love fall for you then there would be no war or unhappiness in the world, trust me. All you can do is act normal around him. You're not 12 anymore so it's not ... (read in full...)
I got my cousin pregnant - we're both 17 and don't know what to do! Help!
Q. My cousin and i recently were both at a party. After the party she came back to my house to sleepover as both our parents were away for the night. As you can already guess one thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together, the only problem ...
A. 12 February 2007: It's not illegal for you to have a baby together but of course you're going to face strong opposition from the family. First I think you both need to sit down and decide what you want to do. Do you want to keep it or explore other options. You could ... (read in full...)
My gf is 16 and we've been together a week - she's already talking about wanting twins!! We've not even had sex yet!
Q. My new 16 year old girlfriend doesn't wanna spend v-day with me because she wants to spend it going to make sure her lil sister will be ok. is it normal? her lil sister going for an heart operation and that's why i'm not to bothered. we p...
A. 12 February 2007: It's totally normal. Whereas you guys have what turns you on hanging obviously between your legs it's a bit harder for us girls to find out what makes us feel good. Or maybe she's just too embarassed to tell you, meaning she's not ready for sex.
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I want to break up w/ my fiance, but his tears and begging get the best of me! How do I break up w/ him??
Q. i am 20 my fiancee is 23 we have been together for three and a half years and been engaged three year. recently I have become less and less attracted to him and although I love him, i'm just not in love with him anymore. We have talked about it ...
A. 12 February 2007: What's great is that on paper, you sound certain that this is the right thing to do. You're not helping your fiance at all by letting yourself by influenced by his tears though. You need to be firm with him and don't let him emotionally manipulate ... (read in full...)
I'm 20 and the guy I like is about to turn 19 - will people think this is wrong if we date?
Q. i'm 20 and like this guy who will be 19 nxt month! do you think friends and family would look at me wrongly if i dated him... as he is younger! he is a little immature but we get on so well, and flirt all the time!...
A. 12 February 2007: I don't think so. You're both adults. If its what you want, go for it.
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I just lost my virginity...and the sex was awful!! Will it get better?
Q. i just lost my virginity, is it normal for it to do nothing for you? i didnt enjoy it at all! and im not thinking wil i ever enjoy sex!?...
A. 12 February 2007: It's totally normal, especially if the guy was a virgin too because when neither of you know what ur doing it's not a recipe for successful sex. I suggest taking nights where you concentrate solely on the other person so you can learn how to make ... (read in full...)
I'm married, but have a crush on my best friend - should I tell her to stay honest w/ her, or let it go?
Q. Hi, I'll try and keep a long story as short as possible! I'm 33 and have been married 8 years. My best mate is a girl I work with and have known for 4 years. Although I have a pretty big crush on her, the last thing I want to do is wreck our ...
A. 12 February 2007: To be honest I think it would be selfish. You're both with other people and you owe it to them to be faithful. Your feelings will pass. It sounds like a crush and the seven year (close enough) itch. Stick at your marriage. Your wife deserves that, ... (read in full...)
How can we make him see she's just not interested in him?
Q. One of my closest friends (""adam"") has fallen for another of our friends (""beth"") but Beth doesnt feel the same way. Wenever he is drunk, Adam texts her telling her how he feels. This is happening about once a week. Me and another of our f...
A. 12 February 2007: He;s not going to listen to anything you and Becca tell him. He needs to hear it from Beth. This is totally normal. I'm guessing in the same situation you'd prefer to hear no from the person himself rather than his friends. If Beth's unwilling to ... (read in full...)
Should I leave it and wait for him to contact me?
Q. Hyah I wrote earlier this month asking for advice about sleeping with my ex. I did what I am sure is the right thing and told him that I couldn't as I still had feelings for him. He said that he understood and that if I ever felt down he would come ...
A. 12 February 2007: Well it's definitely one of two things.... either he's not getting your messages or he's plain not interested now you've spelt it out to him that ur not willing to do the no strings sex thing. Send him an email. Don't say anything about ur phone not ... (read in full...)
How long does an orgasm last?
Q. on average, how long is an orgasm supposed to last? when i orgasm, it will only last about 3-5 seconds so it always seems a big disappointment. is this normal or is there something wrong with me?...
A. 12 February 2007: A female orgasm can last as little as 3 seconds or as much as 30 seconds. Are you absolutely sure you're hitting the peak of your orgasm and not just stopping when you feel it coming? It might be worth trying to keep on going with the stimulation ... (read in full...)
I'm on the injection but it wore off and now I think I might be pregnant.
Q. im realy worried im on the injection but it wore off on the 23rd and i didnt tell my bf and now im worried i mite be pregnant and i dont know what to do if i am i want to keep it but i know my bf will say get rid of it i dont want to wreck our ...
A. 12 February 2007: First things first. Take a test. Maybe all your worrying is for nothing. If the test is positive you need to call the Brook helpline on 0800 0185 023 if you're in the UK or see your doctor if you're from another country. They will be able to give ... (read in full...)
I enjoy reading about murders--is there something wrong with me?
Q. i know this isnt the kind of question normally asked on here and some people may find it disturbing in some way but i really need some advice. the thing is, i love reading/researching/watching things about murders, like i love researching the ...
A. 12 February 2007: I don't think you need to be worried. You said yourself that it never crosses your mind to kill someone so I would see this for what it is... a hobby.
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Her insecurities and breakdowns are causing me great distress! What should I do?
Q. Hello. Ive been in a relationship for five years, but its been extremely difficult lately. My girlfriend has always been very insecure and is always breaking down in tears. I am always very compassionate towards this but its started to drain me ...
A. 12 February 2007: If the breakdowns are all the time then it's no wonder you're getting emotionally exhausted by them. The truth is that however much you want to, you can't be the person who is there for her. It sounds like she might need professional help and you ... (read in full...)
She doesn't want sex anymore! Why this sudden change and Is she getting it elsewhere?
Q. My girlfriend and I have lived together for 3 years and had sex almost everyday and then because of job change and her going to college she lives about 50 miles away. We are on weekends together but now she dont want to have sex but says i will give ...
A. 12 February 2007: I don't think she's having sex elsewhere. What I fear has happened is that because you only see her occassionally that when you do see her it's become all about the sex. Maybe she's feeling insecure you don't love her anymore. Try getting out of her ... (read in full...)
Are there guys out there, that don't look at other pretty women when they are with me?
Q. my ex really did not care to look at other females- I know this because every time we were together and even when females in bikinis passed by he really only concentrated on me and didn't care to look.... he wasnt interested at all... my new ...
A. 12 February 2007: No I don't think they do. I think there are guys who will tell you they don't look at other girls for fear of antagonising you but I think it's natural to find lots of people attractive even when you're with someone. It doesn't mean you don't find ... (read in full...)
She had one missing condom in the box. I know I didn't use it--so who did?
Q. been with my girl for 6 months..love her, trust her, ect..about 3 weeks ago she bought a box of condoms b/c we both decided we should start using them b/c of the possibilty of getting pregnant. I have been sick for the past 2 weeks and have not been ...
A. 12 February 2007: If you opened one a few weeks ago you would have had to throw it away since there was a risk of something puncturing it in the meantime. Maybe your girlfriend is carrying one in her wallet or just opened one to experiment with it in some way or gave ... (read in full...)
I can't take it any more, I feel sooooooo neglected.
Q. I know ppl are supposed to get stressed and depressed around valentines day but i cant hep thinking that its different this year. Ive recently moved to a new college where ive become quite popular with the guys buts as their friend rather than a ...
A. 12 February 2007: I think Katie Holmes is the most beautiful woman in the world and she's 5"11 and a british size 10. I think your self confidence has just taken a battering recently. Believe it or not being friends with the guys is half the battle to getting with ... (read in full...)
What is the average sized penis for a guy?
Q. hi, im 15. my gfs 17. i was talking to her about penis size, and started going thru them and what she though eg(1 inch? 2 inch? 3INch?), well i said my penis size and she laughed at it, im 4 inch 5. she laughed at all other sizes up to 4.5 an sed 5 ...
A. 12 February 2007: I think 5 soft and 6 hard is average but remember you have three years of growing still to do. Don't let any girl laugh at you! You're totally normal.
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I've never dated before, so when he stares at me, smiles, and is kind-does that mean he likes me?
Q. I've liked this guy for almost 4 months, but I'm really shy, so we've only talked a couple of times. I try to flirt with him, but I don't know if he likes me. Sometimes he stares at me, smiles, and is kind. Some of his friends talk to me, and others ...
A. 11 February 2007: It sounds like he likes you. Valentines Day is coming up which gives you a perfect opportunity to tell him how you feel. Go for it. Even if he says he doesn't feel the same way the worst thing that can happen is a few seconds of embarassment and the ... (read in full...)
Is there hope to get my bf to be less controlling?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now and things are getting really bad. The first 6 months I was with him, I cheated on him numerous times. Now I have stopped but he insists on running my life. How do I get him to be the way he ...
A. 11 February 2007: He's probably controlling you because he feels he can't trust you. You need to sit him down and explain to him that you're not going to cheat on him again so he has to stop controlling you. If he doesn't you need to have a good think. If there's no ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend so critical about physical appearance?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and I am just beginning to realize that he is very critical about physical apperance. I love him and want to be with him but he just doesnt get that when he makes critical comments that it really damages me. ...
A. 11 February 2007: Hm you could try criticising him back and see how he takes it but something tells me if he's trying to control you after two years that it does not bode well for the future. Criticism is a form of mental bullying whether that's his intention or not ... (read in full...)
I don't feel the same about my girlfriend any more but don't want to hurt her. Any ideas of how to break it gently to her?
Q. Hi I have been in a relationship for little over a year now and I am begining to lose interest in the girl. After the first six months of the relationship I thought this girl was the one. But recently I have not felt the same way. She wants to ...
A. 11 February 2007: You need to tell her as soon as possible. Otherwise she'll feel like you've been stringing her along. Break it to her as gently as possible in person. However tempting it is to not do it face to face she deserves the truth face to face. I would tell ... (read in full...)
I really really like this girl and I think she likes me too. How do I know if the feeling's mutual?
Q. I am terribly confused. I don't even know how to start. I think I am falling for a friend? We talk pretty much everyday. I've never been the type of person to talk to anybody the way I talk to her. We talk about everything/anything, we share things ...
A. 11 February 2007: In my experience any friend couples that contain a girl and a boy inevitably have a certain amount of sexual tension between them by the time they get to your age. However the only way to know if she feels the same way as you is to ask her. You're ... (read in full...)
I'm so hurt by what he did.... :o(
Q. me and my bf have been going out 3 months. today i found a conversation he had with his x on msn she webcammed him dirty pics and he egged her on and asked if she still fancied him i saw it and walked out i came back after an hour he s...
A. 11 February 2007: You have every right to be hurt by this. In some ways it was as bad as physically cheating on you. The thing you need to decide now is whether you can move past this or whether you've been too hurt by it.
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I'm a virgin and absolutely petrified of having sex! Please help.
Q. Hi, I really need help. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months now (and for 4 years previous to that we were best friends). We had a short break in our relationship about 2 months ago, this was because things were'nt really moving forward ...
A. 11 February 2007: Feeling a little worried about having sex is totally natural but your feelings seem to be a little extreme. Maybe you're not 100% ready for sex yet? There's a difference between being ready physically (which you are) and being ready psychologically ... (read in full...)
Should I let my bf meet my disasterous Dad??
Q. Hi, I'm 18 and dating a guy who's a bit older than me (he's in his mid 20s). So far everything's been fantastic. My family and friends approve so there aren't problems there. The one person who doesn't approve is my dad. When he found out about ...
A. 11 February 2007: Speak to your boyfriend. All guys are scared about meeting their girlfriend's dad but knowledge is power and if he is prepared to answer questions like why are you dating a teenager he can prepare an answer. Let him know that there is no pressure ... (read in full...)
Horrified that I kissed my good friend's husband, while I was drunk! I feel badly about this- am I obliged to tell her?
Q. I kissed my best friend's husband and I am feeling horrific On Friday night, my best friend, her husband and me got very drunk. We ended up skinnny dipping and when she went inside the house, her husband and I kissed. The problem is that I rememb...
A. 11 February 2007: If you're ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN that her husband won't tell her then I don't think you should either. All it would acheive is hurting her. However if you think there's a chance her husband would tell her it's better that it comes from you than from ... (read in full...)
Is it legal to have a relationship with a first cousin?
Q. My friend is too embarrassed to try and get help, but he is in love with his first cousin and everyone is confusing him on whether it's legal or not ? Also, I've tried helping him find out the legal age for a relationship between first cousins an...
A. 11 February 2007: Relationships between first cousins are legal and the age of consent is 16. However I would advise your friend to think of the consequences of being with a cousin because if the relationship doesn't last he's still going to be in the same family as ... (read in full...)
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